(clarified) Ok, I know there was a thread about this the other day, but I NEED TO VENT. (long)

I had a lousy day at home, everyone was on my case. I just wanted to snuggle up to FH and try to feel better....

FH calls me and says that he's gonna go to so-and-so's to play poker. I'm like 'what?!' He had already told me that he was going to be with me. I guess he felt guilty for already telling me one thing, then coming up with new plans, so he said 'let's go grab something to eat.' He felt like having a gyro, so we went to the greek place.

He scarfed his food down in 10 minutes, proceeded to rush me, AND demanded the check from the waiter before I was even half done. We get the check, and he goes outside to bring the car around, leaving ME to pay the check!!!

He drove SO fast back to my house, dropped me off, and hurried along to his friend's house. It was about 7:30pm when he told me that he was going to be there no more than 2 hrs, 'cause he had to get up really early the next morning (today). He also said he'd call me g'night when he got home.

Meanwhile, the damn greek food was making me so sick, I was on the bathroom floor puking for about 25 minutes. ughhhh

Around 11:30pm, I got tired of waiting, so I just went to bed.

So my phone rings at 2:30 AM. I was pissed. (still kinda am....can you tell?!) The first words out of his mouth were 'Hey I won 20 bucks.'
grrrrr

I don't mind so much that he was out with his friends. It bothers me that he had no problem cancelling a night with me to sit around in some hairy guy's basement surrounded by smoke and beer and comes home 5 hrs later than planned!!!


Sorry, I guess I really needed to vent.

P.S. - He's out doing the same thing tonight.

This may be selfish of me, but aren't us girls allowed to be a little selfish sometimes? It usually never happens...

See, I have the OPPOSITE problem. JT has very few friends and the ones that he has are total dorks and they cannot handle being without the girls, they don't know what to talk about. Every now and then, they'll TRY a guys' night and they end up calling me and the other girls we hang out with to come hang out with them because they're bored. It's annoying! That, and I feel bad that he has no guy friends that he can do guy stuff with. I mean, I LOVE baseball and stuff, but after a while, I don't want to talk about it. He really needs other penises to hang out with!
But I do feel your pain, I've dated plenty of guys who rush me to get to their friends. It's annoying, but just be glad he is not up your a$$ all day!

Ok, I should've made it clear that FH NEVER DOES THIS!!!!
All of his friends are single and usually just at a dirty bar. That's not FH's thing. For some reason, since xmas, he's soooo concerned about playing poker!!! I really don't know where this is coming from, he's never been the gambler.
Most of his friends are just like the dorks Rachel mentioned. Can't handle being alone together - unless there's a preteen to hit on at the bar.

He's not even with his friends! 'Brian' knows 'Marc' from work, 'Marc' will bring his sister's bf 'John', etc. not even his friends!!! It's just the poker.

FH is usually so caring and considerate and for him to not be around when I felt like I really needed him last night was so weird and not like him at all. He swears nothing's wrong...

Anyone ever had this or something similar happen? Should I just brush it off? Should I let him know that I was upset? For him to play poker 2 nights in a row with 2 different sets of guys that he doesn't know is verrrry sketchy to me...
what would you do?!

I started the thread the other day .... so all I can say is I feel you.

I backed off a little bit to see what happens. I hate to play games with FH but sometimes I feel like I have to. Poker seems to be the thing to do right now.

It sounds like he is just enjoying playing poker, and to be honest, this is probably the time when these guys don't have much else to do. It's that kind of week. I would just let it drop. It doesn't sound as shady as I thought it was before. He IS a boy, and sometimes they do weird things, like get addicted to poker because they finally learned how to play It's like when they get a new video game and HAVE to get better at it so they drop everything to play it. It's a phase, it will pass.

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Posted by shorty the pumpkin

Ok, I should've made it clear that FH NEVER DOES THIS!!!!
All of his friends are single and usually just at a dirty bar. That's not FH's thing. For some reason, since xmas, he's soooo concerned about playing poker!!! I really don't know where this is coming from, he's never been the gambler.
Most of his friends are just like the dorks Rachel mentioned. Can't handle being alone together - unless there's a preteen to hit on at the bar.

He's not even with his friends! 'Brian' knows 'Marc' from work, 'Marc' will bring his sister's bf 'John', etc. not even his friends!!! It's just the poker.

FH is usually so caring and considerate and for him to not be around when I felt like I really needed him last night was so weird and not like him at all. He swears nothing's wrong...

Anyone ever had this or something similar happen? Should I just brush it off? Should I let him know that I was upset? For him to play poker 2 nights in a row with 2 different sets of guys that he doesn't know is verrrry sketchy to me...
what would you do?!

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I would let him know I'm concerned. You don't have to do it in an angry way, but communication is key here, especially in a relationship with someone you're going to marry. If it were me, I'd wait to see if it was just a couple of times, or if it becomes a frequent thing, especially if he starts trying to 'sneak' to do it. You guys need to talk.

FH is home already from night #2 of poker -




I love that I don't even have to say anything and he knows how I feel....

he managed to win another 20 bucks too... buy me something!!! LoL

I know ALL about the poker nights... Feel lucky that he hasn't started with the online poker--then even when he is home he isn't really there! Unfortunately when they get a taste of victory it only makes them want more...My DH was an addict til he started losing, then got a little better...FM if you need to vent, I too am a poker widow...