Re: cold feet
Posted by Espo22
This is a HUUUUUUUUGE step we're all taking in our lives so it's only normal to get nervous, especially looking at statistics of marriage lol. There is nothing wrong with you, you're just human like everyone else lol. Anything that will bring change to our lives will make us question it, whether its a new job, moving somewhere different, picking a career and so on.
Are there people who get married and really shouldn't? yes of course but just think about whether you can imagine spending the rest of your life with someone else...Do you fight? you probably do like every couple, even if its not frequent couples will fight at one point or another. Fh and I used to never fight so when we had a few it was like NOOO whats going on here. My problem was i compared to a past relationship that i was in for YEARSSSSSS, and we fought ALL the time and i said i never wanted any of that again even if i dont ever get married I don't care. But i looked at my relationship overall and knew how great it is. I mean just for the fact that i want to marry him proved that to me considering i was with someone for a very long period of time and had no interest to get married bc all i kept thinking was oh god what kind of life would we have together which should've been a big clue then.
But at the end of the day even after or during fights theres nobody else you'd rather be fighting with and even when you're at your maddest with them you still want them near you. Theres alot more to it of course but you should know whether this is someone you want to spend the rest of your life with.
Very well said Denise!
