those of you who know my story know it hasnt been an easy 2 months. Well, to make a long story short.. I know my husbands cell phone code... And for some reason, I swear god is on my side, I decided to call him- it went right to voicemail so I decided to check- I know it was wrong of me but...
There was a f$%king girl on a message. Hi Its Sara, yeah were definately on for tomorrow night. Meet me at my apt at 8:00pm. (city) Call me back...it was a message left today...
am I an a^^hole????? I was hysterical before.. I havent even talked to anyone about it.... I certainly left him a message.. I could care less if he knows I checked his message...
ETA: I know I am better off in the long run. It just doesnt ease the pain I feel now...i mean its not like its a boyfriend that I am breakingup with, its my marriage....
I think Sara is his ex before he met me....
I dont know how much more I can take....
I am sorry that I am airing my personal problems but I dont know how to move past this...???????????????????? :
sept20yay
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Okay, I don't know you, but I feel some need to say something to you. And forgive me for dumping a little religion on you here, but G-d did not want you to be with this person. He envisions better for you! Have you ever seen those couples out there that seem to have everything together, hug and kiss, are good and doting towards one another? And yo would think why can't I have that? This is your second chance. G-d saying to get back in the game, because that guy is out there. You deserve it just as much as any other girl out there. The worst is when we settle! And your ex sounds like he would be this way with anyone! It sounds like he has bad character and that will always stay the same.
soon2bmrs2004
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OMG!!!! You so do not deserve this! Like evryone else has been saying you are so better off with out him. Keep your chin up, this to shall pass
endlessluv429
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i'm so sorry you are going through all this. we are here for you hon! I admire your strength!
pschica
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ergh....he's such a (fill in choice word here!)!...you derseve so much better than that. you are such a strong person, as i have said before, and deserve so much better, and will find it one day. try not to even let on anymore that this will bother you at least to him, as hard as it seems. you always have such a good outlook on things, although it may not seem it at times, and this shows how special you are. he does not deserve you for this and many reasons.
if it was me, i would still be crying [to be honest], and i know you do too, yet you have moved on in some ways to process the situation. we are always here for you and support you all the way - look how many people have viewed this and posted on it!!!
sometimes it takes a stronger person to end something that isn't working than to stay in a situation and for that you have all my respect in the world. this must be so hard for you but take comfort in knowing that we, as well as many of your firends and family i am sure, support you.
hang in there and although I know we have only spoken a few times by fm, you can always email or fm me if you need to vent, etc!!
nov.bride
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I am so sorry- you have definetly been put through the ringer and now this!
I would keep her out of it as he really is the one to blame.
You really deserve a whole lot better then this.
Let things cool down emotionally and then try and discuss- he sounds like a real a$$.
Stay strong
The #1 priority is YOU and YOUR LIFE- do whats BEST for you- don't ever short change your self or your worth.
Hang in there- we got your back
LIJuneBride
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I have been exactly where you are and I know how devastating it is. I know you don't want to give up on your marriage but the reality is he may already have done so. I don't mean to sound negative, but try to be objective about the situation. If it really looks like he has no intention of working things out, its better for you in the long run to move on and get your life going in the right direction. You will get over this and you will be stronger for it and you will be happy again. I think the worst part is just not knowing what's going on and what's going to happen.
Try to have an honest conversation with him and find out what his feelings are about the whole situation. It won't be easy be you are better off knowing. Many to you and I wish you the best resolving the situation.
