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could it get any worse??????????

Original post by kdelace

those of you who know my story know it hasnt been an easy 2 months. Well, to make a long story short.. I know my husbands cell phone code... And for some reason, I swear god is on my side, I decided to call him- it went right to voicemail so I decided to check- I know it was wrong of me but...

There was a f$%king girl on a message. Hi Its Sara, yeah were definately on for tomorrow night. Meet me at my apt at 8:00pm. (city) Call me back...it was a message left today...

am I an a^^hole????? I was hysterical before.. I havent even talked to anyone about it.... I certainly left him a message.. I could care less if he knows I checked his message...

ETA: I know I am better off in the long run. It just doesnt ease the pain I feel now...i mean its not like its a boyfriend that I am breakingup with, its my marriage....

I think Sara is his ex before he met me....

I dont know how much more I can take....

I am sorry that I am airing my personal problems but I dont know how to move past this...???????????????????? :
Jax430 Posted:

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I'm so sorry you had to find out something so hurtful. You deserve so much better. He's going to be the one who is sorry in the end, once he realizes how much he lost.
usuk2004 Posted:

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You've been amazing throughout all of this, I'm sorry you had to go through one more thing
Danielle&Scott Posted:

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Wow this really stinks. I am sorry you have to go through with this, but it is a good thing you are getting out of it. I know it hurts, but you will be a lot better away from him....You will be able to move on with your life, and I am sure you will meet someone else, get married and have a family.
Scott
mrswask Posted:

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I know it doesn't make it any easier, but like you said, something compelled you to call. Maybe it's a sign just so you know 100% you are doing the right thing. I'm thinking of you.
june262004 Posted:

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You do not need him. You deserve so much better. Everything happens for a reason. Hes a jerk and ruined the best thing he ever had her will be so sorry..

matron Posted:

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! I would die! He better have a good excuse for that one! Please keep us posted and stay strong.
marymoon Posted:

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I'm so sorry.
RedHead Posted:

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I would have found the F*** face and beatin the living s*** out of him!
Sorry
soon2bMrs Posted:

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Like the other girls have said, you deserve much better and you will find happiness again.
Valentinegirl Posted:

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Kristi, I just read this post and I am so sorry this happened.
belleboyd Posted:

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Kristi: I am so sorry you are going thru this.
Stay strong. You'll be better off without the B@$%rd. Trust me. I've been there - and done exactly that. Except it was the computer and his email.


Summerbride04 Posted:

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I'm so sorry you have to deal with this. Hang in there we're all there for you, there will be a light at the end of this tunnel.
kpny622 Posted:

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I feel terribly for you. It is very unfair. Hang in there...you deserve SO much better.

The Original 2nd-time-around Posted:

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I'm so sorry you have to deal with yet another thing. It may not seem it now, but I swear someday you will be thanking God that things worked out like they did because you'll be sooo much happier.


Lots of
eogara Posted:

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The things running through my head right now would be censored on the site so I'm not even going to bother writing them. I am so sorry that you have to deal with this.

MrsTC Posted:

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It is going to hurt for a while - but please believe it will get easier with time. You deserve a LOT more and be thankful it ended early enough for you to have a chance at real happines. I'm sorry you are going through all this....
brideinapril Posted:

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How horrible - I think you are right about how you were meant to hear that message. I know its painful now but with time it will ease and you will see what an a - hole he is.
So sorry you are going through this.
nov04LIbride Posted:

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So sorry! Do you think it was going on when you were together? Honestly I have been guilty of turning to my ex's in times of weakness, and past breakups. There is something old and familiar about it--not the going to a bar, picking someone up type of thing...Maybe it hurts because this is truly closure, but maybe that is what you need. Go out, talk to guys, get out there yourself. Nothing serious, but just so you know you could be doing the same thing. By the way, did you get the computer? Good luck, things do get easier and be at peace with the fact that it is better to happen know than years later, or after you have children...

bxgell2 Posted:

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I've been keeping up with your situation, and just wanted to say, stay strong! I think most of us on LIW have been through the darkest of days in past relationships, myself included... I was in a situation VERY VERY similar to yours... we weren't married, but together for 4 years. I have to say, it was the darkest time of my life, the most difficult, and the most lonely. But, looking back, it made me become soooooo much stronger, and allowed me to move on and find someone who is truly, truly amazing. Stay strong, and even when it feels just so incredibly awful, take comfort in your friends and family, and remember, it WILL get better, and it WILL make you stronger, and this WILL lead to much brighter and happier things in your life...

Donna Posted:

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I agree with everyone, maybe you have to find this out so that you can stay stronger in your convictions to go through with the mediation, realize he's a jerk,etc.

I know it hurts and I'm sorry

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