could it get any worse??????????

those of you who know my story know it hasnt been an easy 2 months. Well, to make a long story short.. I know my husbands cell phone code... And for some reason, I swear god is on my side, I decided to call him- it went right to voicemail so I decided to check- I know it was wrong of me but...

There was a f$%king girl on a message. Hi Its Sara, yeah were definately on for tomorrow night. Meet me at my apt at 8:00pm. (city) Call me back...it was a message left today...

am I an a^^hole????? I was hysterical before.. I havent even talked to anyone about it.... I certainly left him a message.. I could care less if he knows I checked his message...

ETA: I know I am better off in the long run. It just doesnt ease the pain I feel now...i mean its not like its a boyfriend that I am breakingup with, its my marriage....

I think Sara is his ex before he met me....

I dont know how much more I can take....

I am sorry that I am airing my personal problems but I dont know how to move past this...???????????????????? :

You deserve soooooo much better than this!!!!!!!!!!!!!

omg hun i m so sorry, i have been keeping up with ur story--u r so strong!!! he is def. not worth it, and i kno it hurts now but it is better to see all this and get rid of him instead of 10..15..20 yrs down the road.. u r a young, beautiful, smart and amazing woman, u deserve so much better!!! he def. has issues that go way beyond anything u should hafta put up with it. let him go back to his ex and drive her f'ing crazzy u dont need this!!!

OMG!! I don't even know what to say!! Kristi, you will be so much better off without him!!!

First some


Second, you are not an @$$hole!!

Third some more

I am so sorry for all that you are going through. If there's anything I can do -- seriously let me know

what a terrible thing to find out....i am so sorry!

im so sorry kristi you deserve better.

Kristi....I don't even know what to say! I feel terrible for you and your situation!!

Stay strong and move on, quickly....he's not worth your sorrow and tears.

Soo sorry. One day, he is going to be kicking himself over losing you!

im so sorry. i dont know you or your story but that is just crazy. my jaw dropped... then i saw you just got married and it makes me so sad. i dont know your situation, but that is horrible. we can all meet and beat him up one day..... or perhaps Sara.

Awwww Kristi!!!



I wish I had some words of then some few choice adjectives to describe him

Oh honey, I am sorry. Just think this bi*%# now has all your old problems. I know it must be hard.

the thing is, I am not blaming the girl... she probably doesn't have a clue as to whats going on... it's him.... she even said onthe message- 'got your message, sorry I didnt call you back last night...'
It is so easy to hate her when in reality, it is him!!! God only knows what he said to her or what she knows..

They say God gives you only so much you can handle.. I think this is my limit.. I know people have gone through much worse but it still doesnt help.

I wouldn't have even called him. I would have monitored his VM for a week or so. Unbelieveable!

i called him in the heat of the moment.... I regret leaving a message and went to go erase it but its gone/erased.. which means he checked his messages.. hasnt called me back..
i dont know what it was.. something told me to call and check... it was like it was meant to be.. sounds so cliche but i truly believe it...

ETA: of course I got her phone # off his phone.. I am the daughter of a former NYCV detective.. But whaty am I going to do with it. Call her... I'm waitingfor him to call me- he has to eventually to move the restof his stuff out and confirm the mediator.. I'll find out his version then.

Maybe you needed to know this so that you would find the strength to continue with mediation? You deserve to be happy. You will find someone worthy of your love and trust. I'm really sorry that you are hurting!

OMG!!!! Can you try to get her phone # off his phone at anytime? I would have to know how long this has been going on?

First of all, I have been following, and when I read this, a few choice 'descriptions' came to mind of him. Just know that eventually he will end up sorry and alone and wondering why he ruined the best thing that has ever happened to him. You, on the other hand will have better. I have to admit, I would probably have done the same thing with the cell phone. But in a way, I am glad you are not going to be with him if he is playing THIS game. That's just something you don't need or deserve. I am so sorry you are going through this. Pray really hard for strength, you have more than you realize.