Cousins w/ out a date??

I have a very personal experience to share about this subject and I really hope it helps.

Three years ago, my cousin had a quick wedding and I was 23 and dating my now-FH for six months.

No one really knew about our status at that point, but I wasn't invited to her wedding with a date and it still bothers me. Not so much because I had a boyfriend, but because I was an adult and felt that I should have been invited as an adult with a guest. She recently asked me if she could bring her 5 month old to my wedding so she could breastfeed during my reception and I turned her down. Now she isn't coming to my wedding and I am slighted by the fact that I wasn't invited to her wedding with a guest, but she wanted to bring her baby.

My other cousins who are over 18 were all invited with a guest. My aunt (other side of the family) made it a point to contact me and tell me how nice it was that her sons were all invited with guests. They range from 19-22. Because of them being invited with a guest, she found out her son is dating a gal in college. I had no idea...actually no one had any idea. But he is thankful that we thought enough to do it. It's from my personal experience that I felt I had to do that.

He and the rest of my boy cousins decided to all come together without dates but I am still glad I gave them that option.

All totally my personal opinion and experience, but if they are in their 30's, I'd let them have that opportunity. If they want to bring a guest, they'll just have to find a place to put them in another hotel or something. But if I were you, I'd invite them with guest.

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Posted by ChrissynRicky

Give them the option...especially b/c they're in their 30's...don't worry about their room situation - it's not your hassle. Let them worry about it!

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ok sound good to me

thanks

I think you should give them the option. I think its very difficult to determine what a 'significant other' is. I know Lisa gave her example, and I have one too-
I was a BM in my friends wedding- she invited me with guest. At the time I had been dating FH for about 2 months, so would you have considered that a significant other?
I invited my adult cousins with a guest. Its all a personal decision, but for me it was the appropriate one.

All of my cousins that were 18 and over were invited with a
guest. My one cousin was so thrilled that he was able to
bring someone, he wound up going solo but I wanted to give
him the option.