We're in NC and celebrated Christmas yesterday with FH's family. We're staying at his sister's house and his mother came by for dinner and to exchange presents. A small amount of background info on FMIL--she is an avid online dater, which is fine but she finds these people that she only speaks to on the internet and calls them her boyfriends without meeting them and she has about 6 of them at a time. For this reason, FH and I decided that she is not invited to our wedding with a date. If it was someone she knew and we knew for a while we wouldn't have a problem, but not someone she only knows from the internet. So FH tells her this and she gets angry, says that none of her children want her to be angry, and storms out of the house I feel so bad for FH because we're only here for the week and his mother refuses to speak to him. Are we wrong here?
beachbum05
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Jess - do you think the guy would even come? Since SHE isn't meeting them in person, who knows if they'd even pony up for the plane ticket to not only meet HER but her whole family...
Might be russian roulette, but there's a chance that they wouldn't wanna come...
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Posted by MikeandJess
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i can see what you are saying. maybe you invite her with a guest but with a provision that you and FH have met the guy 4-5 times prior to the wedding. if you both cant meet him, b/c of distance have your FSIL meet him.
i see it from both points of view. it is your wedding and you have the right to say who can and cant come, plus you dont want perfect strangers there that you dont know from adam. but she's the groom's mom, a grown woman and she should have the right to be treated as such.
Well FH did try telling her we want her to bring someone we've met and she said we can't meet her boyfriends (or whatever she considers them) because she lives in NC and we're in NY. She never comes to visit and if she does, she's not serious enough with these guys to actually bring them around to introduce them to us so if we do allow her to bring a date it would definitely be someone we don't know, probably even someone she doesn't know
im so sorry she's doing this. hopefully she'll come around or someone smarter than me can figure out a good solution.
beachbum05
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sorry jess i totally agree with you guys and no worries
im sure she will not be reading this
...or understanding what 'FMIL' means
Snowflake08
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true bonnie, chances would be they would say no, but i have a feeling they think she'll rope someone in to come along
beachbum05
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true bonnie, chances would be they would say no, but i have a feeling they think she'll rope someone in to come along
I'll work security.
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If she's on the internet alot, meeting people,...eh, never mind. Even if she does, Im sure she already knows your opinion of her.
Out of curiousity, im assuming she's not helping you guys at all with a rehearsal dinner or anything?? Its all on you two? I just find it interesting that his mother is not aloud to bring a date to her sons wedding...but to each his own..
Happy and HEALTHY 2008!
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Posted by gfield101
If she's on the internet alot, meeting people,...eh, never mind. Even if she does, Im sure she already knows your opinion of her.
Out of curiousity, im assuming she's not helping you guys at all with a rehearsal dinner or anything?? Its all on you two? I just find it interesting that his mother is not aloud to bring a date to her sons wedding...but to each his own..
Happy and HEALTHY 2008!
she lives in north carolina
gfield101
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Do people in NC not know how to do a google search?
Actually, if you all type your names in Google, LIWEDDINGS comes up....try it.
But regardless to each his own, my FH and I just thought it was interestesting that the woman who raised him is not allowed to bring a guest.. Again, just our own input. Good Luck!!
Snowflake08
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Do people in NC not know how to do a google search?
Actually, if you all type your names in Google, LIWEDDINGS comes up....try it.
But regardless to each his own, my FH and I just thought it was interestesting that the woman who raised him is not allowed to bring a guest.. Again, just our own input. Good Luck!!
wow, um yea - maybe jess should hand her 'most sarcastic' award over
i know that it comes up that is why many people dont use their email or AIM as their ID on here
beachbum05
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Do people in NC not know how to do a google search?
Actually, if you all type your names in Google, LIWEDDINGS comes up....try it.
But regardless to each his own, my FH and I just thought it was interestesting that the woman who raised him is not allowed to bring a guest.. Again, just our own input. Good Luck!!
A little condescending, no?
Snowflake08
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Posted by gfield101
Do people in NC not know how to do a google search?
Actually, if you all type your names in Google, LIWEDDINGS comes up....try it.
But regardless to each his own, my FH and I just thought it was interestesting that the woman who raised him is not allowed to bring a guest.. Again, just our own input. Good Luck!!
as she already stated, the woman who 'raised' him, seems to meet new, random, internet friends ALL THE TIME some of whom are MARRIED should she just be able to bring whomever she chooses??
MikeandJess
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Posted by gfield101
Do people in NC not know how to do a google search?
Actually, if you all type your names in Google, LIWEDDINGS comes up....try it.
But regardless to each his own, my FH and I just thought it was interestesting that the woman who raised him is not allowed to bring a guest.. Again, just our own input. Good Luck!!
really? Because I don't remember typing her first and last name on this thread. So what is she going to search? FMIL? You don't really have a point here. And unless you know her, I don't see why you care. And no she is not giving us a dime for the wedding, WE LEND HER MONEY, so yes we can restrict whatever we'd like. Unless you know our situation or unless you have anything useful to say, butt out, your opinion (unless relevant to my question) is not needed here.
MikeandJess
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true bonnie, chances would be they would say no, but i have a feeling they think she'll rope someone in to come along
I'll work security.
the guy she's talking about bringing lives in CT, he might come, he drove here to meet her once, but he is married. My fear is the cheaters show showing up to my wedding
2007 Crescent Bride
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I can see why she is upset. She is the MOG and if she feels comfortable enough bringing someone, then who cares. Sorry...just my honest opinion.
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true bonnie, chances would be they would say no, but i have a feeling they think she'll rope someone in to come along
I'll work security.
the guy she's talking about bringing lives in CT, he might come, he drove here to meet her once, but he is married. My fear is the cheaters show showing up to my wedding
Yea, you never know if his wife knows about all this and wants to catch him on national tv and then it just so happens to be during ur wedding! Ahhhh that would be the worst!
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Posted by gfield101
Do people in NC not know how to do a google search?
Actually, if you all type your names in Google, LIWEDDINGS comes up....try it.
But regardless to each his own, my FH and I just thought it was interestesting that the woman who raised him is not allowed to bring a guest.. Again, just our own input. Good Luck!!
unless she types in 'mikenjess' it wont come up. If i type in my whole name, LIW never comes up...if i put my SN 'espo22' then yes my LIW posts do show.
ALSO, they already told her in person how they feel about this so not like she is gonna see something in this thread that is new to her
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Posted by 2007 Crescent Bride
I can see why she is upset. She is the MOG and if she feels comfortable enough bringing someone, then who cares. Sorry...just my honest opinion.
Your opinion is fine, that's why I posted the topic to begin with. We just feel that she's bringing a date for the sake of bringing a date and she's bringing someone she doesn't know. I don't feel comfortable having someone she doesn't know at our wedding. Just to give you a little background, she has a man staying with her from australia who she met on the internet, but for new years she invited another one of her internet boyfriends over while the australian was there. On top of that she has another guy that she's 'dating' on her screensaver. She's not a stable woman. I can understand your opinion, but I think if you were in the situation you'd feel differently.
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Posted by Espo22
Posted by gfield101
Do people in NC not know how to do a google search?
Actually, if you all type your names in Google, LIWEDDINGS comes up....try it.
But regardless to each his own, my FH and I just thought it was interestesting that the woman who raised him is not allowed to bring a guest.. Again, just our own input. Good Luck!!
unless she types in 'mikenjess' it wont come up. If i type in my whole name, LIW never comes up...if i put my SN 'espo22' then yes my LIW posts do show.
ALSO, they already told her in person how they feel about this so not like she is gonna see something in this thread that is new to her
thank you!
MikeandJess
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true bonnie, chances would be they would say no, but i have a feeling they think she'll rope someone in to come along
I'll work security.
the guy she's talking about bringing lives in CT, he might come, he drove here to meet her once, but he is married. My fear is the cheaters show showing up to my wedding
Yea, you never know if his wife knows about all this and wants to catch him on national tv and then it just so happens to be during ur wedding! Ahhhh that would be the worst!
I swear, I've had nightmares about it
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Posted by Snowflake08
true bonnie, chances would be they would say no, but i have a feeling they think she'll rope someone in to come along
I'll work security.
the guy she's talking about bringing lives in CT, he might come, he drove here to meet her once, but he is married. My fear is the cheaters show showing up to my wedding
if my mom or dad wanted to bring a 'MARRIED' bf or gf to my wedding i would flip out on them. Refusing a parent to not bring a guest i can understand why people get upset, but when the guest is either married or somebody shes never met before then i would put my foot down, and even forget about the wedding but in general. If my mother was dating married men i would be very disappointed with her and would tell her i wouldn't want to see such things in my face, and honestly for her to bring that in my face would shock me. I am kinda shocked that she would even want her son to see her prancing around with a married man.
