So I'm wondering if other brides FH's are less than enthused about wedding planning, and how you deal with that without feeling hurt or offended? Basically, my FH really cares about food and music selection, and could care less about which reception hall i choose, flowers, photography, etc. Of course he's not rude about it, I guess he just isnt as excited as I am about flowers and such; maybe I'm being too sensitive, but I'm hoping this is fairly typical?
SoontobeMrsH
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To quote my FH,' we're already married (we're not , but we have lived together for the past 4 years) this is just a party,'
Munchkn16
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My FH is completely uninterested in our ceremony, which bothers me. I want to create a ceremony that's meaningful to both of us. He wants me to do research, explain what I want to him, and he'll agree to whatever.
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FH is very interested either but I tell him I can't plan this whole thing alone. He's been good going to appointments with me at least but he doesn't have any input. 'Do you like this?' 'I don't care'
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My FH is 110% interested! In fact, I go to all vendors with him and we make the decisions together. We are renovating our first home too and he's the same way with that...isn't he great! Just keep talking about it with your FH, he'll get the hint!
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Definitely typical!
But trust me, when he does start to get interested, you'll wish he wasn't...
Take it while you can girl!!
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omg my fh sooooo doesnt like wedding planning...i somehow was able to drag him to a dj showcase..but everyhting else ive done by myself...and trust me i have not been a happy camper about it..he just doesnt care..is happy that hes marring me and doesnt care about the details..he feels like he'll have fun no matter where we have it, what pictures we end up with..seems to think that a dj is a dj and it doesnt matter who or what they sound like so ive had to do all the work..but whatever im getting over it lol and im happy with the choices ive made lol...thank god for this website and helping me choose things...if it wasnt for this site id be CLUELESS how to research everything..instead i just ask a question here and everyone replies their suggestions/recommendations and prices...its helped me soo much! haha
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My FH is totally uninterested! He wants to make sure we are getting the best deal on everything, but isn't that willing to give up his weekends to go and comparison shop at different vendors. It is starting to get very frustrating
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Lol, I find that to be the most interesting part. Like God forbid we get a bad deal or get ripped off, he'll be the first to be in a tizzy, but comparison shopping with me and going to vendor appointments... he could care less! Men are a strange strange species.
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We live in Boston but we're getting married on LI...when it came time to pick our reception site- he had to work that weekend so I ended up picking it without him. He still hasn't seen it person!! I think most brides end up making a lot of descisions on the wedding without FH. Party planning just isn't something most guys are into. At least this way you get to have everything you want
femmes
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my fh has been very good with the planning process..he has been giving all kinds of ideas that even i find myself surprised!
dream426
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My FH is into it a little. He has come to some of the vendors like the Limos, DJ and things like that. I don't think he will come to the florist. He does pretty much say whatever you want.
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Thanks for all your responses. Feeling much better about that. Do you ever get your FH's to try to get on the LI chat board for the men? I havent, but I'm pretty sure he'd laugh at me if I suggested it, and go back to watching ESPN, hehe!
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Posted by NicoleBell
Thanks for all your responses. Feeling much better about that. Do you ever get your FH's to try to get on the LI chat board for the men? I havent, but I'm pretty sure he'd laugh at me if I suggested it, and go back to watching ESPN, hehe!
FH helps out, he came to meet with all the vendors, and was very active at all the meetings and suggested things, even our photographer commented on how she never sees a groom so involved. He even picks things himself which helps me alot when im undecisive...BUT he wouldn't join the chatboard for men lol, he would rather watch ESPN. I dont think id want him to join though lol
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FH is too involved..he makes me compromise on everything..i really didnt get to choose that much because he doesnt like thing..he pretty much registered for everything,..i had to say ok i like this..and he was like..i hate it..were getting this..it was kind of annoying
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Wow I was getting a little stressed out a while ago. FH and I were having a discusiion about the wedding and he seems to uninterested it is annoying me.
I know he wants to be involved. I think most guys wont be so thrilled like us about planning.
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Posted by femmes
my fh has been very good with the planning process..he has been giving all kinds of ideas that even i find myself surprised!
Isn't it the greatest? I am surprised that so many girls aren't getting support from their FH's
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Posted by NicoleBell
Thanks for all your responses. Feeling much better about that. Do you ever get your FH's to try to get on the LI chat board for the men? I havent, but I'm pretty sure he'd laugh at me if I suggested it, and go back to watching ESPN, hehe!
FH helps out, he came to meet with all the vendors, and was very active at all the meetings and suggested things, even our photographer commented on how she never sees a groom so involved. He even picks things himself which helps me alot when im undecisive...BUT he wouldn't join the chatboard for men lol, he would rather watch ESPN. I dont think id want him to join though lol
I know! The vendors are all telling him that it's so nice to see that he's involved and so into it! We were really shocked that so many guys don't get involved...after all, it's both our day!
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Posted by femmes
my fh has been very good with the planning process..he has been giving all kinds of ideas that even i find myself surprised!
Isn't it the greatest? I am surprised that so many girls aren't getting support from their FH's
most guys dont care about decorations, and little details it is normal and i am not surprised at all.
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no, you definitely shouldn't be hurt by it...that's how guys are...at least he's actually interested in certain things...i've heard of guys who didn't care about anything at all
