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Posted by Espo22

Dear Females:

it ***** how much pressure we put on ourselves to look good. Its almost as if no matter what we do its not good enough. You walk into a club and see girls with these drop dead gorgeous bodies and looking perfect and now it gives us insecurities. I see girls who get plastic surgery, spend hours fixing themselves and do anything to make themselves feel better, but many of these girls do it bc they do or did have low self esteem and they took any measure necessary to better themselves. Its this never ending cycle and its so sad. Why do i try to measure myself up to other girls...Why are guys so picky now, seriously you walk into a place and its hard most of the time to find 1 good looking guy, but you turn around and theres gorgeous girls everywhere, so they feel they can be picky. Nowadays guys expect you to be perfect from head to toe, its not fair to any of us. If we have one thing wrong with us we think thats it were no good, yes i know we dont always feel like this but we all have these moments.

We are to blame too, we do it to eachother, girls are the most catty, we feel insecure around other girls and then some girls feel its a competition and have to make you feel low. This really ***** im sick of it, this world has become so shallow...Unless everything about you is perfect its like youre not good enough

Signed

an imperfect person in a world full of perfect expectations

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thank you girls...its true but sad, expectations have gotten so much higher

Dear FBIL girlfriend,
I can't stand you. You a your 19 year old stuff. You are so fake, to bad you wish you were in my shoes.You think you **** doesn't smell. If you only knew the what life was all about. Just to let you know you are not invited to my wedding *****
From,
the one you are jealous of

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Posted by Espo22

Dear Females:

it ***** how much pressure we put on ourselves to look good. Its almost as if no matter what we do its not good enough. You walk into a club and see girls with these drop dead gorgeous bodies and looking perfect and now it gives us insecurities. I see girls who get plastic surgery, spend hours fixing themselves and do anything to make themselves feel better, but many of these girls do it bc they do or did have low self esteem and they took any measure necessary to better themselves. Its this never ending cycle and its so sad. Why do i try to measure myself up to other girls...Why are guys so picky now, seriously you walk into a place and its hard most of the time to find 1 good looking guy, but you turn around and theres gorgeous girls everywhere, so they feel they can be picky. Nowadays guys expect you to be perfect from head to toe, its not fair to any of us. If we have one thing wrong with us we think thats it were no good, yes i know we dont always feel like this but we all have these moments.

We are to blame too, we do it to eachother, girls are the most catty, we feel insecure around other girls and then some girls feel its a competition and have to make you feel low. This really ***** im sick of it, this world has become so shallow...Unless everything about you is perfect its like youre not good enough

Signed

an imperfect person in a world full of perfect expectations

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might be one of the best posts ever!

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Posted by Espo22

thank you girls...its true but sad, expectations have gotten so much higher

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I have noticed that too.

I don't mean to sound conceited - but I think that if this was like 1985 - I would be be considered as having a HOT body - i am below average to average weight. . . but i am very 'mushy' lol just not toned. . . and i feel like a few years ago that would have been enough - my sister pranced around in a string bikini in the 80s and she was heavier than me - but when i look at her friends they were all considered 'hot' now its like everyone is just perfect bodies, perfect makeup, perfect hair - and 'regular' girls are disappearing. . .

i hope that made sense.

great post denise.

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Posted by ant n tilde

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Posted by Espo22

thank you girls...its true but sad, expectations have gotten so much higher

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I have noticed that too.

I don't mean to sound conceited - but I think that if this was like 1985 - I would be be considered as having a HOT body - i am below average to average weight. . . but i am very 'mushy' lol just not toned. . . and i feel like a few years ago that would have been enough - my sister pranced around in a string bikini in the 80s and she was heavier than me - but when i look at her friends they were all considered 'hot' now its like everyone is just perfect bodies, perfect makeup, perfect hair - and 'regular' girls are disappearing. . .

i hope that made sense.

great post denise.

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it's sooo true!!

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Posted by kimnsteve

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Posted by Espo22

Dear Females:

it ***** how much pressure we put on ourselves to look good. Its almost as if no matter what we do its not good enough. You walk into a club and see girls with these drop dead gorgeous bodies and looking perfect and now it gives us insecurities. I see girls who get plastic surgery, spend hours fixing themselves and do anything to make themselves feel better, but many of these girls do it bc they do or did have low self esteem and they took any measure necessary to better themselves. Its this never ending cycle and its so sad. Why do i try to measure myself up to other girls...Why are guys so picky now, seriously you walk into a place and its hard most of the time to find 1 good looking guy, but you turn around and theres gorgeous girls everywhere, so they feel they can be picky. Nowadays guys expect you to be perfect from head to toe, its not fair to any of us. If we have one thing wrong with us we think thats it were no good, yes i know we dont always feel like this but we all have these moments.

We are to blame too, we do it to eachother, girls are the most catty, we feel insecure around other girls and then some girls feel its a competition and have to make you feel low. This really ***** im sick of it, this world has become so shallow...Unless everything about you is perfect its like youre not good enough

Signed

an imperfect person in a world full of perfect expectations

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might be one of the best posts ever!

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Thanks but sadly its because of how true it is

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Posted by ant n tilde

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Posted by Espo22

thank you girls...its true but sad, expectations have gotten so much higher

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I have noticed that too.

I don't mean to sound conceited - but I think that if this was like 1985 - I would be be considered as having a HOT body - i am below average to average weight. . . but i am very 'mushy' lol just not toned. . . and i feel like a few years ago that would have been enough - my sister pranced around in a string bikini in the 80s and she was heavier than me - but when i look at her friends they were all considered 'hot' now its like everyone is just perfect bodies, perfect makeup, perfect hair - and 'regular' girls are disappearing. . .

i hope that made sense.

great post denise.

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I know exactly...Looking at older movies and seeing the main hott girls on there they were more the door next type girls and looked different.

Now its like forget it, you look at them and youre like ok who looks like that

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Posted by soon2BMrsMcD

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Posted by Espo22

Dear Females:

it ***** how much pressure we put on ourselves to look good. Its almost as if no matter what we do its not good enough. You walk into a club and see girls with these drop dead gorgeous bodies and looking perfect and now it gives us insecurities. I see girls who get plastic surgery, spend hours fixing themselves and do anything to make themselves feel better, but many of these girls do it bc they do or did have low self esteem and they took any measure necessary to better themselves. Its this never ending cycle and its so sad. Why do i try to measure myself up to other girls...Why are guys so picky now, seriously you walk into a place and its hard most of the time to find 1 good looking guy, but you turn around and theres gorgeous girls everywhere, so they feel they can be picky. Nowadays guys expect you to be perfect from head to toe, its not fair to any of us. If we have one thing wrong with us we think thats it were no good, yes i know we dont always feel like this but we all have these moments.

We are to blame too, we do it to eachother, girls are the most catty, we feel insecure around other girls and then some girls feel its a competition and have to make you feel low. This really ***** im sick of it, this world has become so shallow...Unless everything about you is perfect its like youre not good enough

Signed

an imperfect person in a world full of perfect expectations

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SERIOUSLY!!! i couldnt have said it better.. take it from my post!!! if i told you girls my weight you would yell at me and tell me to shut up.. i get it from FH all the time.. but i would never be caught dead in a bikini lookin the way i do now... and it is my own insecurities!

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Posted by kimnsteve

yes i know its sad ...unfortuneately our society is so mezmorized by victoria's secret models that prob nothing is going to change ....

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its not good enough to be just pretty or look good anymore. Your hair, lips, chest, butt, legs, nose have to be perfect...So many times when I've been out ill be standing next to guys, and a girl will walk by and they'll look at her, and very pretty girls too and one will say hmmm shes pretty but look at so and so on her and then look right past her. Ive seen guys think a girl is attractive but turn around and go yeah but you know what her hips are wide, or her chest is too small, her butt is not big enough or whatever.

The funny thing is if you look at the guys its like are you serious?

Then they give these girls a complex, they feel horrible about themselves, give them low self esteem and some go get surgery

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Posted by Soon2BMrsD

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Posted by soon2BMrsMcD

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Posted by Espo22

Dear Females:

it ***** how much pressure we put on ourselves to look good. Its almost as if no matter what we do its not good enough. You walk into a club and see girls with these drop dead gorgeous bodies and looking perfect and now it gives us insecurities. I see girls who get plastic surgery, spend hours fixing themselves and do anything to make themselves feel better, but many of these girls do it bc they do or did have low self esteem and they took any measure necessary to better themselves. Its this never ending cycle and its so sad. Why do i try to measure myself up to other girls...Why are guys so picky now, seriously you walk into a place and its hard most of the time to find 1 good looking guy, but you turn around and theres gorgeous girls everywhere, so they feel they can be picky. Nowadays guys expect you to be perfect from head to toe, its not fair to any of us. If we have one thing wrong with us we think thats it were no good, yes i know we dont always feel like this but we all have these moments.

We are to blame too, we do it to eachother, girls are the most catty, we feel insecure around other girls and then some girls feel its a competition and have to make you feel low. This really ***** im sick of it, this world has become so shallow...Unless everything about you is perfect its like youre not good enough

Signed

an imperfect person in a world full of perfect expectations

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SERIOUSLY!!! i couldnt have said it better.. take it from my post!!! if i told you girls my weight you would yell at me and tell me to shut up.. i get it from FH all the time.. but i would never be caught dead in a bikini lookin the way i do now... and it is my own insecurities!

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thank you so much.

I know now its like unless your stomach is hard as a rock you shouldn't be in a bikini. Ill see so many thing girls who think theyre too fat.

and you know whats crazy....how often do you see a guy that looks amazing on the beach????...but thats ok........they do not criticize each other


i used to like having curves


you dont even understand i lose sleep at night thinking that i am going to be the fattest girl in vegas when i go......i am out of my mind

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Posted by kimnsteve

and you know whats crazy....how often do you see a guy that looks amazing on the beach????...but thats ok........they do not criticize each other


i used to like having curves


you dont even understand i lose sleep at night thinking that i am going to be the fattest girl in vegas when i go......i am out of my mind

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omg i am tearing up - i absolutely love tropical places but i seriously considered changing my entire HM to Florida JUST so i wouldnt have to wear a bathing suit - thank goodness FH wouldnt let me. . .

( last time we went in January i wore capris and little sweaters the whole time bc it was a little chilly)

when i picture St Lucia all i see is these perfect girls. .. i almost wish we were going back to the hotel we went to in aruba where we were the only people under 50. . . and i was the 'cute girl'



and since i am not overweight at all - i feel like people expect me to look great in a bathing suit - even when my friends see me i KNOW in their head they are thinking 'wow - i thought she was thin'

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Posted by kimnsteve

and you know whats crazy....how often do you see a guy that looks amazing on the beach????...but thats ok........they do not criticize each other


i used to like having curves


you dont even understand i lose sleep at night thinking that i am going to be the fattest girl in vegas when i go......i am out of my mind

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I know my friends and I went out on saturday, and there were idiot guys everywhere and we were saying thank god were not single anymore...Then i pointed out how i haven't even seen 1 attractive guy in the place, like not even decent. Its like poor girls who are single it *****...but wherever you turned there were gorgeous girls everywhere.

Dont do that to yourself...you are gorgeous

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Posted by ant n tilde

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Posted by kimnsteve

and you know whats crazy....how often do you see a guy that looks amazing on the beach????...but thats ok........they do not criticize each other


i used to like having curves


you dont even understand i lose sleep at night thinking that i am going to be the fattest girl in vegas when i go......i am out of my mind

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omg i am tearing up - i absolutely love tropical places but i seriously considered changing my entire HM to Florida JUST so i wouldnt have to wear a bathing suit - thank goodness FH wouldnt let me. . .

( last time we went in January i wore capris and little sweaters the whole time bc it was a little chilly)

when i picture St Lucia all i see is these perfect girls. .. i almost wish we were going back to the hotel we went to in aruba where we were the only people under 50. . . and i was the 'cute girl'



and since i am not overweight at all - i feel like people expect me to look great in a bathing suit - even when my friends see me i KNOW in their head they are thinking 'wow - i thought she was thin'

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i know before i went on our cruise i was like OMG there will probably be a bunch of girls with great bodies we have to be around the whole time, and people will think what FH is doing with me. So i busted my a** every single day working out just bc the thought of it was driving me crazy. Before i had lost the weight i went on vacation and i remember seeing the pics after and i hated the way i looked and promised myself this time i wouldnt do the same.

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by kimnsteve

and you know whats crazy....how often do you see a guy that looks amazing on the beach????...but thats ok........they do not criticize each other


i used to like having curves


you dont even understand i lose sleep at night thinking that i am going to be the fattest girl in vegas when i go......i am out of my mind

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I know my friends and I went out on saturday, and there were idiot guys everywhere and we were saying thank god were not single anymore...Then i pointed out how i haven't even seen 1 attractive guy in the place, like not even decent. Its like poor girls who are single it *****...but wherever you turned there were gorgeous girls everywhere.

Dont do that to yourself...you are gorgeous

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ok not to sound conceited ...i know i am not ugly but i also know that i am overweight ....how do u where a bathing suit at the hard rock when u know u look like a fatty???

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Posted by kimnsteve

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by kimnsteve

and you know whats crazy....how often do you see a guy that looks amazing on the beach????...but thats ok........they do not criticize each other


i used to like having curves


you dont even understand i lose sleep at night thinking that i am going to be the fattest girl in vegas when i go......i am out of my mind

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I know my friends and I went out on saturday, and there were idiot guys everywhere and we were saying thank god were not single anymore...Then i pointed out how i haven't even seen 1 attractive guy in the place, like not even decent. Its like poor girls who are single it *****...but wherever you turned there were gorgeous girls everywhere.

Dont do that to yourself...you are gorgeous

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ok not to sound conceited ...i know i am not ugly but i also know that i am overweight ....how do u where a bathing suit at the hard rock when u know u look like a fatty???

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i have a hard time getting in a bathing suit too, i hadnt gone for years until i lost the weight.