Brides Helping Brides ™ - DEAR FELLOW 2011 BRIDES

kedra5 Posted: Sep 24, 2010 12:39 AM

DEAR FELLOW 2011 BRIDES

I'm not really sure what's happening tonight but I feel like its partially my fault.

I wrote a post earlier to Mellyrose asking where she was strictly based on making sure that everything was okay we are a community and family(as crazy and nutty as some of us are hahahaha) and when one or more of us disappear, we tend to worry. ive posted numerous times abt missing people, i know for a fact ive posted twice looking for pacie. Never was it meant in a malicious manner but again concern that everything is okay with someone you feel like youve come to know.

I'm not sure if there's something else going on with Melly or not but either way it was not meant as a malicious attack. But I certainly felt attacked and to be honest, I wasn't the only one that felt that way.

Regardless, it doesnt matter, everything escalated out of control and it shouldn't have. I feel terrible that people have gotten involved and into 'fights' that haven't needed to. Please know that just as you were defending your friend, so were my friends. No one is here under false pretenses or to make anyone unhappy, that's not what this site is for.

I'd llove for everything to just go back to the way it was, when we all got along and even if we didn't we certainly faked it very well. Ahhahahahaha. Sorry this is so long and THANK. YOU if you read it all, I just needed to get this out.

allornil Posted: Sep 24, 2010 01:37 AM

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I really dont think you did anything wrong. I posted a thread asking where lovey dovey was when she was 'missing'. I liked her posts and realized i hadnt seen any in a while. Im glad shes back.

Ive come on and seen threads my name on them and really im flattered someone thought of me.

Its been eluded to that there are other off board things going on so i wouldnt sweat it.

Im not in a 'clique' as some would point out but i can honestly say i love you lots and youve never been remotely catty or rude to me.

Let it go. It will be fine :)

LaBellaVita622 Posted: Sep 24, 2010 01:47 AM

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I think it's just so hard on here to hear a person's tone of voice obviously and it can be interpreted the wrong way. You know what your intentions were and that is the end. Don't feel that you need to defend yourself..

It's making me so upset because when it was only a few brides on here, we watched it grow and it became so exciting..we have so many now!!! I can remember the 2010 Brides saying it will happen to you and I was like ooh I hope not..but here it is. Like everyone is saying let's just all move on from here and continue using these boards for what they are meant for. There are so many more things that are important in life. We need to just all be thankful that we are healthy and starting our new lives with FH, and need no more DRAMA in our lives lol seriously though.

harts2976 Posted: Sep 24, 2010 06:48 AM

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Yea right!!!

See that can be taking soooo many ways. I am sure a lot of people just read that and was like w*T*f harts is such a b*tch...... but seriously - no one needs unnecessary drama especially with weddings coming right around the corner!!!

FutureJOC Posted: Sep 24, 2010 07:23 AM

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wow... what did I miss?

B853 Posted: Sep 24, 2010 07:37 AM

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I bet it was exciting for Ron and CS! They could probably read all the FM's flying around too! They must live for this sh*t lmao!

mp1082 Posted: Sep 24, 2010 07:43 AM

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Posted by allornil
Its been eluded to that there are other off board things going on so i wouldnt sweat it.

I said I wasn't posting anymore...but this is at least the 2nd time you have now said something like this about me and it is exactly the BS I am talking about. Whether it is me, another bride or Joe Shmoe, you have no right at all to say that. Yes, off-board things are going on....it's called my professional company. My clients. I'm freaking busy. The gossip and rumor mills get started just this way and that is what I can't deal with. I have never even met you face to face and you think you have the right to say such things? Grow up and mind your own business. An age doesn't make you an adult.

To Kedra: The problem with the internet is that people can't convey tone in their written word. In my thread saying goodbye, I did not refer to you (or anyone), because it was not just you who sent me packing. I am not going to lie, it was partially you...but it was NOT your thread, it was the behind the scenes FMs to me and others along with the trash talking that went on. For the other members who 'connected' the 2 threads to come and attack me in my thread was pretty silly. Such message board muscle flexing!

As for people who are saying I am sensitive. I'm not. Don't judge or jump to conclusions until you know all of the details. I just have no time or patience for childish behavior like what I have encountered since I returned to the boards.

Ok, THIS is my final post.

kimmaymb20 Posted: Sep 24, 2010 07:43 AM

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Don't worry can't make everyone happpy. I'm mad I woke up and I had 2 less posts

Leia1920 Posted: Sep 24, 2010 08:02 AM

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Posted by kimmaymb20

Don't worry can't make everyone happpy. I'm mad I woke up and I had 2 less posts

Exactly true. You cant make everyone happy and i believe kedra reached out because she seriously did care and when someone goes 'missing' when they are posting a lot you tend to get concerned.

Today is a new day and its friday!!!

Richiesgirl Posted: Sep 24, 2010 08:08 AM

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ughhh I always miss the good stuff. This is what I get for fist pumping last night watching the Jersey Shore

Whatever it is why is there so much 'internet bullies' ughhh I never understood this.

allornil Posted: Sep 24, 2010 08:29 AM

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Posted by mellyrose

Posted by allornil
Its been eluded to that there are other off board things going on so i wouldnt sweat it.

I said I wasn't posting anymore...but this is at least the 2nd time you have now said something like this about me and it is exactly the BS I am talking about. Whether it is me, another bride or Joe Shmoe, you have no right at all to say that. Yes, off-board things are going on....it's called my professional company. My clients. I'm freaking busy. The gossip and rumor mills get started just this way and that is what I can't deal with. I have never even met you face to face and you think you have the right to say such things? Grow up and mind your own business. An age doesn't make you an adult.

To Kedra: The problem with the internet is that people can't convey tone in their written word. In my thread saying goodbye, I did not refer to you (or anyone), because it was not just you who sent me packing. I am not going to lie, it was partially you...but it was NOT your thread, it was the behind the scenes FMs to me and others along with the trash talking that went on. For the other members who 'connected' the 2 threads to come and attack me in my thread was pretty silly. Such message board muscle flexing!

As for people who are saying I am sensitive. I'm not. Don't judge or jump to conclusions until you know all of the details. I just have no time or patience for childish behavior like what I have encountered since I returned to the boards.

Ok, THIS is my final post.

futurestevens Posted: Sep 24, 2010 08:31 AM

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ugh, i can't believe this is still going on, thought it would be done last night.

let's seriously just move on, no need for discussion anymore. can we just pull all the threads that have anything to do with last night's incident?

jeez. lol.

happy friday ladies

allornil Posted: Sep 24, 2010 08:35 AM

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Posted by mellyrose

Posted by allornil
Its been eluded to that there are other off board things going on so i wouldnt sweat it.

I said I wasn't posting anymore...but this is at least the 2nd time you have now said something like this about me and it is exactly the BS I am talking about. Whether it is me, another bride or Joe Shmoe, you have no right at all to say that. Yes, off-board things are going on....it's called my professional company. My clients. I'm freaking busy. The gossip and rumor mills get started just this way and that is what I can't deal with. I have never even met you face to face and you think you have the right to say such things? Grow up and mind your own business. An age doesn't make you an adult.

To Kedra: The problem with the internet is that people can't convey tone in their written word. In my thread saying goodbye, I did not refer to you (or anyone), because it was not just you who sent me packing. I am not going to lie, it was partially you...but it was NOT your thread, it was the behind the scenes FMs to me and others along with the trash talking that went on. For the other members who 'connected' the 2 threads to come and attack me in my thread was pretty silly. Such message board muscle flexing!

As for people who are saying I am sensitive. I'm not. Don't judge or jump to conclusions until you know all of the details. I just have no time or patience for childish behavior like what I have encountered since I returned to the boards.

Ok, THIS is my final post.

Geez i dont know why youre attacking me. My post wasnt nasty in any way.

You, yourself said it was off the boards. I really think you want to lash put at everyone for your own personal unrelated LIW reasons. If youre not posting anymore then dont.

Like i said i dont care if everyone doesnt like each other. Youre not going to upset me. I dont know you.

Now you just look like a troublemaker. Ive never started sh*t with anyone. If you want to create an imaginary war w people go ahead. At this point its you not anyone else.

Again, good luck w everything.

mrsq2be Posted: Sep 24, 2010 08:37 AM

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Posted by LaBellaVita622

It's making me so upset because when it was only a few brides on here, we watched it grow and it became so exciting..we have so many now!!! I can remember the 2010 Brides saying it will happen to you and I was like ooh I hope not..but here it is. Like everyone is saying let's just all move on from here and continue using these boards for what they are meant for. There are so many more things that are important in life. We need to just all be thankful that we are healthy and starting our new lives with FH, and need no more DRAMA in our lives lol seriously though.

I agree! :) No more drama!

BrideAS Posted: Sep 24, 2010 09:04 AM

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this is insane - this is supposed to be a fun place to come to when everyone ELSE is stressing us out. cmon ladiesssssss.

wheres that picture of rainbow cookies when we need it....

B853 Posted: Sep 24, 2010 09:05 AM

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Posted by BrideAS

wheres that picture of rainbow cookies when we need it....

I ate it.

I hope my jugs make you happy.

futurestevens Posted: Sep 24, 2010 09:05 AM

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Posted by BrideAS

this is insane - this is supposed to be a fun place to come to when everyone ELSE is stressing us out. cmon ladiesssssss.

wheres that picture of rainbow cookies when we need it....