I am not going to mention names, feelings, what side of teh bridal party the people are on(because of possible lurkers).. but did any of you feel 'OBLIGATED' to ask certain people.... and it's not like you REALLY REALLY WANT THEM.. but you would rather just ask them to avoid conflict or hurt feelings? it's like you are friendly enough with them and close enough with them.... but you wouldn't necessarily PICK THEM if there was no worry about hurt feelings
i have the opposite prob....i have NO ONE to put in my party
pick me! pick me!!
PoppedInASnap
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Because of lurkers i will say the same...
I am going to have to ask certain people to be in the bridal party as of now because i feel obligated...but i still havnt asked anyone....and the only person who knows is my beautiful moh...because, well, i basically told her if shes not there for me i will die haha....
but for now i feel like i will have to ask some people i dont want to...ex-my own family member...
longislandlibrarian
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it's not that I am HAPPy that anyone feels obligated but i feel a bit better knowing that I am not THE ONLY PERSON that is feeling this obligation thing!
CMS
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I'm only having my sister as MOH and FH's best friend as best man.
I seen too many of my friends and family get married and ask people they didn't want in their BPs out of obligation that I wanted nothing to do with the extra headache.
I'm serious...my sister asked her now-husband's two sisters to be in the bridal party even though she didn't really like them (and still doesn't) and they were actually so difficult to deal with that her best friend (the only person she REALLY wanted in the wedding party) dropped out!
Remember, it's YOUR wedding!
Summertimegal424
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absolutley not! i will not have anyone in my party that i do not want....i
MrsDrinkh20
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I know what you mean..but ultimately you have to WANT them t eb in it..its your decision...you have to look at pictures forever!!
Also, MAzz...Im hurt, I thought I was your MOH
Summertimegal424
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Posted by MrsDrinkh20
I know what you mean..but ultimately you have to WANT them t eb in it..its your decision...you have to look at pictures forever!!
Also, MAzz...Im hurt, I thought I was your MOH
we night have to duke this out
FutureMrsLehmann
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i'm only have 2 BMS...my 2 sisters.
But everyone keeps telling me to just make them both MOH's, even though I would really prefer having 1 sister be my MOH and 1 my BM. I don't want to hurt either of their feelings, but I know which one I would choose as my MOH and want to do so...it's tough!
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Once you pick them you cant go back on it so be absolutely certain that the feeling of awkwardness of not choosing them overcomes the feeling of anger and frustration of having people you dont really care too much about in your bp.
I had to do this. I originally had 13 bridesmaids but one of my friends kinda fell off after FH and I got engaged. I'm sure it's cause she is single and blah blah blah but I called her out on it and asked her to not be a bridesmaid. She completely understood and we are still friends but that was such an awkward conversation.
PoppedInASnap
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Posted by MrsDrinkh20
I know what you mean..but ultimately you have to WANT them t eb in it..its your decision...you have to look at pictures forever!!
Also, MAzz...Im hurt, I thought I was your MOH
see thats what fh says. He always says 'Jenny.... in picures all you see if the people in the bridal party....dont worry about the rest...those are the ones who mean the most'
crazeee18
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we just picked our wedding party finally.....dont sweat it..it will work out ...
yngcpl92203
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worst feeling is feeling obligated. Its your wedding have who you want, We left ppl out and we know they will probably be upset but if they are true friends they will understand.
AugustBridein09
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I only have my MOH and 1 bridesmaid. I WOULD NEVER put someone in my party if I didn't really want them. I have ALOT of friends from H.S. and college who are all invited to the wedding and I have been IN some of their weddings but I def wanted it to just be my 2 cousins that I love and have always pictured in my wedding since we were younger.
Sorry you have a tough decision to make
tye85
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yea i feel obligated towards some pple also, not sure wat to do as well.. our bridal party is so uneven already!!!
Vineyard72509
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FH and I are having stress over this as well... everything else will be no problem, this however... at this point we haven't asled anyone except MOH and best man. Don't think we're gonna make a final decision either for awihle- although i want it done by the e-party. In the end, I think we might stick to family only. If friends can't understand, then they aren't true friends to begin with.
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goes with your heart, if you think that they shouldnt be in the party then dont do it because it will just make things hard on you.
If you dont want them in the wedding then just have them do readings
flairforfashion
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I personally don't guve a crap if I hurt someones feelings. I can't have anyone I dislike.
longislandlibrarian
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It looks like I may have 9 girls and 6 guys in the party!
aliska21
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i dont care if i have to ...im going to invite people who I want....i dont care...its my wedding!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
