I don't know if I just don't understand 'the rules' but I felt like some of my bridesmaids (particularly my MOH/sister) were unruly today. We went to look at dresses. I had said the color of the dresses was going to be light blue. Other than that I said they could literally pick whatever they wanted in any shade of light blue.
Well, we get there today, and all I hear about is how 'blue is not my color' and 'I want green' or 'I want pink' or 'I'll only wear blue if I can have a contrasting sash' etc, etc. I THOUGHT that the bride picks her own color scheme. Am I insane? I felt like two of them were really being so rude - I have been SO laid back - telling them all I want is for them to be happy and they have total control of their hair, makeup, shoes, and even the dresses OTHER than the color.
Am I wrong?!?!
GinaZ
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You are not wrong. If you told them to wear florescent orange with ruffles it would still be rude for them to say no! You are the bride. it is your wedding. If they want to be a BM then they should wear what you want. its nice of you to be giving them the option of choosing the dress- not many people do that!
tmarie
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You were very helpful to me, so here is my opinion.
I too am laid back (to an extent), I want my sister to go pick her dress first since she is the maid of honor and I want her to be comfortable and not self conscious. I have a feeling being to nice will bite me in the butt and you just confirmed it.
It is your wedding. The color scheme is YOUR choice. Obviously, you want somethign that compliments that girls, because you don't want them to look terrible in YOUR pictures. But, in the end it is YOUR decision. Do you see where I am going here....it is YOUR wedding. When you sister gets married (if she is not already) then she will pick what color to put you in.
I say, don't go looking with all of the girls. Take your sister alone, maybe have your mom have a little chat with her before hand. And stick to your color. As a matter of fact, don't be too easy going with the style either. Pick it and tell them to wear. If they dont want to, then let them not be in it.
good luck and dont forget this is YOUR time!!
Ps thanks for all of the help the other day. I did go to Kleinfelds. I didnt find a dress. But I'll get back out there.
BNBride60
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Thanks SO MUCH everyone
I don't know if anyone saw my posts on the '08 boards about my BFF, the 'HBIC' but I think I'm going to have her be my helper and figure out the dresses, she has been SO supportive and I think together we can do it (with the parameters I set on the color!!!!!)
jtgarsik
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you are in NO WAY wrong!!! of course u pick ur color! girls will be girls & say what they have to say. I only brought my MOH & my VERY close cousin to pick out the dress.....then i brought all my girls back to make sure they all felt comfortable in it because they all had huge boobs lol. but honestly, whenever i've been a BM i've always been told 'This is the dress! lets go get fitted'......they should be happy ur even letting them pick the gown!!!! don't worry about it. go with just ur sister next time(or whoever u get along with the most & can be honest with) and chose one u like.
PeteysBride
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You're not wrong but this happened to me too. Unfortunately I learned the hard way that if you are TOO lax, they start walking ALL over you and then you need to get BRIDEZILLA on their *** till they back off. I allowed my original MOH (she is GONE Lol) to chosoe everything except color and she TOTALLY took over just like your girls going as far as to call my CP ideas tacky and my taste in wedding dress atrocious....
My advice? Give them options but not tooo many. Keep the reigns a little tight.
