Difficult bridesmaids

I'm a little stressed with trying to get some of my girls to look at/buy their dresses. I'm trying not to bug them or seem overbearing, but I'm anal, and like to get things done a little early to avoid problems. Only problem is, I know at least a few people who are total procrastinators and do things last min, which worries me. How did you guys remind your girls, or get them to purchase their dresses without seeming pushy? Am I being unreasonable asking them a little early?

Difficult bridesmaids - Long Island Weddings

I don't mind being pushy lol. I texted them constantly until they said they got them.... otherwise a few of my girls would never have gone! too early though be careful because my one cousin who is 16 grew and her dress didn't fit and they stopped making it. after freaking out for a minute they were able to order her one from their store in Arizona in her size that they had.

Difficult bridesmaids - Long Island Weddings

I actually ordered all my girl's dresses myself and had them pay me back. It was so much easier and I knew they were all being ordered correctly and on time!

Difficult bridesmaids - Long Island Weddings

if you've reminded them at least once already, I'd hold off on bugging them again until around the beginning of march.. by april they should have ordered them. 6 months is a good time to have the orders in by

Difficult bridesmaids - Long Island Weddings

I am exactly like you!! I just picked BM dresses myself and emailed my girls the info on ordering. I know my MOH ordered hers. On Sunday I'm going to call Macys to see who ordered and then send out another email. I made it crystal clear that if everyone doesn't order by the 10th they will miss the current sale price. You cant do much more!

Difficult bridesmaids - Long Island Weddings

ugh this drives me crazy. for my sisters wedding 2 years ago i basically had to track down and threaten several of the bridesmaids to get them to buy their dresses, and one of the difficult ones is one of my BMs!! lol. i would remind them probably like once a month until its THE month that they need to have ordered them by, and then get a little cray on them if they still wont order it

Difficult bridesmaids - Long Island Weddings

I'd give them a deadline, which should be earlier than your actual deadline or like someone posted order them & tell them how much they owe each.

Difficult bridesmaids - Long Island Weddings

I went with mine! They had no choice!

Difficult bridesmaids - Long Island Weddings

I went with mine! They had no choice!

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Posted by CH2182

I'd give them a deadline, which should be earlier than your actual deadline or like someone posted order them & tell them how much they owe each.

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This. Ours need to be ordered by early April to avoid rush fees so I told the girls by mid march. Take in mind your girls might want to wait a bit to either lose weight for when they are sized or to save money. I know bridal reflections requires a 75% deposit of the dress, so maybe they don't have the money yet. Other girls told me they want to work on their weight for the next month or two.

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I went with my girls too, and I actually texted, and facebooked them asking what days were good with them, and picked the day that was good for the majority. Lucky for me, they all came and all tried on dresses, although my made of honor did give me a little trouble at first. But, I just wanted to pick a dress which looked good on all the girls, so they all had to try them on :) But yea, its your wedding, they agreed to be your bridesmaids...I would ask, and just see what day works best for the majority and then go that day

Difficult bridesmaids - Long Island Weddings

I'm in a wedding in April and my friend made us get our dresses a crazy amount of time in advance. Its been sitting in my closet and I'm fine with that because it's what she wanted. She emailed us like a few times a day because we all live in different states. I plan on being pushy with mine. I don't need the added stress. I think it's fine.

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You're not being overbearing! Depending on which dress designer you're looking at, the dress can take up to 5 months to come in. By taking the girls early, you're preventing them from paying a late fee. You're saving them $$!

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I went with 3 of my 4, one is out of state, but I impressed upon her my concern for it being in the same dye lot. Even if there wouldn't be a problem with that it is a good way to express your concern without seeming too pushy.

Difficult bridesmaids - Long Island Weddings

Everyone but 1 bridesmaid had bought their dresses by the time I had asked them to. I called my bridal boutique (Bridal Reflections) and explained the situation. After chatting with them, they offered to call her and explain that they needed to place the order. My bridesmaid ended up paying on the spot with them over the phone

Difficult bridesmaids - Long Island Weddings

I think I'll go with having the boutique call the girls. Maybe if it came from them, they'll feel a sense of urgency. :/ If it comes down to it, I'll just sick my mom on them. lol Thanks girls!

Difficult bridesmaids - Long Island Weddings

i'm having the same problem with one of my bridesmaids. she's a bit of a free spirit and is backpacking her way across north america right now. she hasn't answered a bridesmaid email ever and it's stressing me out!!

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Posted by msj288

I think I'll go with having the boutique call the girls. Maybe if it came from them, they'll feel a sense of urgency. :/ If it comes down to it, I'll just sick my mom on them. lol Thanks girls!

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This exactly! Plus it got done what needed to be done without getting into a fight with her! hahaha My mom was a backup too