Dilemma: Ring Bearer age 2 1/2?

So FH and I were going over some plans and then he decided that he would want his nephew in the wedding party as the RB. To my understanding(and I thought his),I wasnt going to have a FG & RB. We kind of get into a fight and left it unsettled. His nephew will be 2 1/2 about time of our wedding. Why I was anticipating this: Now I am not a mean person who dosent like kids but, here how I feel. His nephew is a cutey but, I wasnt going to have a FG/RB. I also know kids fairly well and know at 2 1/2,they dont listen or behave well and walking down an aisle will turn into chaos and make me upset. So I got suggestions maybe sending him down with an adult and thats my issue. His parents are FH's brother(best man) and SIL. I do not get along with SIL. She and I have our differences and unfortunately she is a little mental. She caused a few fights with the family and even one with me. She has gotten better since she was given an ultimatum(the family finally took a stand). To me,that dosent change her actions in the past. So the adult,It would have to be his mother and I REFUSE to break and let her be part of my day(& get what she wants). Sorry!
I have been thinking ok, FG..who can I pick. At least that way, he can be accompanied by my FG and I dont want to be the bad person for not having him in. Problem, I dont have one!! What do do???

Re: Dilemma: Ring Bearer age 2 1/2?

is there a 5 yr old boy in the picture? maybe 2 RBs?

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Our RB was 2 1/2 at our wedding and it was fine.
I didn't have a FG so he walked down with his down (a groomsman) which also helped since our bridal party was uneven

for your case since your BIL is the best man I would either see if the RB will walk by himself down the aisle to daddy at the end or just have your BIL walk with him, then join your FH at the altar.

Don't cave and use your FSIL if she bothers you that much...

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Our RB is 3 and he can walk down the aisle if he wants or wait up at the front with his Dad or just run around, he's 3, I'm not expecting anything close to perfection. We just want him to remember that he was a part of our wedding. The most I'm hoping for is that he'll be in some of the pictures.

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We had two ringbearers. We really wanted DH's nephew in the wedding, who was 2 1/2 but we knew that it would be a lot for him. So one of the GMs had his son, who was 7, as a ringbearer too. He held DH's nephew's hand as they went down the aisle and it was really cute. Plus it was nice to see the older RB enjoy the experience- he really got a kick out of being part of the wedding.

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I would definitley not have you FSIL walk him down. That would obviously make you unhappy and at the end of the day, it's your wedding and you have to do what's right for you. Don't feel that you need to have a FG simply because you're having a RB. You can make up the rules and do whatever makes you happy. Why don't you wait out making a decision and see how well behaved/or not your RB is when the time is closer. Don't argue now over something that you can put off until later. If the kid turns out to be a real brat, I think your FH will be in complete agreement that he should not be a part of the BP.

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what about having him whelled down in a decorated wagon

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I am not having a RB but my FG will be turning 3 the day of our wedding...I do not see it being a problem...She is a very outgoing child...Worse case scenario, someone will have to walk down with her...I could not imagine my wedding without her...

You could always do a wagon or have one of their parents walk him down if you feel he won't go...

Re: Dilemma: Ring Bearer age 2 1/2?

You have FM