If it meant saving a few bucks than I would totally do it. But with that said, there's never anyone home at my parents house, so it wouldn't be like we're all on top of each other.
Posted by ant n tilde
DH and I live with my parents and I absolutely love it. We pay no rent and have been paying 'rent' to our bank account which has been growing non stop since the wedding. We plan on staying two years so we have a nice down payment for a house. We do not have a separate entrance BUT we have our own apartment and once I go up there it is like I forget that my parents are downstairs. My parents have not stepped foot upstairs unless INVITED, my mother won't even ask to come up it is the funniest thing ever. My dad has been up once to help me with something. I really love it and I wish we had taken them up on their offer to actually build on the house and make a separate entrance because I would have no problem staying here once we have children ( of course we would have paid rent THEN since they would be paying to redo the whole house ).
So far, the ONLY downside has been explaining our situation to other people. People can be judgemental and it hurts sometimes that people assume we are lazy or freeloaders. We are definitely NOT those things - we just were offered a head start and we are taking advantage of it!
I would definitely do it, good luck with your decision!!
Posted by cbcf
yes and we are going to be once we get married.
FH's parents have a full apartment in the upstairs of their house. It is huge and it's only his parents and his grandma in the house. So they feel why waste the upstairs- and why charge someone they dont know to live there. SO they offered for us to live their rent free until we can buy a house. I am hoping only 2-3 yrs the most.
I think it would be a little easier living with my parents...however, FIL's are really not that bad. They definitely give us privacy. It is jus that I know they will expect us to stop in and say hi everyday when either of us get home- which you know what if I can live in their house rent free then I can respect that and go and say hi to them and give them a simple acknowledgement that yes I appreciate what you are doing for us.
I know there are some things they do that I have already talked to FH about and well he has talked to his parents and they agree to not just come up to the apt through the connecting door to their house bec it will be locked nad if they need us they can either call or knock on the door!!! And we also said the laundry is NOT to be touched since it is in their basement we have to go through their house and not use our outside apt door. FH's grandma has a thing with not leaving laundry in the dryer or washer machine and folding it. So I said noooo way am I having yuor grandma fold my underwear. FH told them about our concerns and they are respectful of us as well.
So I am sure it will work out- a little stressful at times yes. but FH and I would rather deal with a little bit of stress from this then financial stress of trying to pay for a house, school loans, cars and other stuff!!!
Posted by Future Mulligan
if it were a significant savings then yes i would do it - if we could save like 2K a month that could go straight into our savings i think we would do it b/c in 5 months thats 10K we'd have in the bank - but i dont know if i coud live with my parents - maybe FHs![]()
ets: now we rent from my FHs parents - they have a 2 family house and we rent out the 1 bedroom apartment but we are still responsible for paying rent, utilities, etc. the plus is that i can go upstairs and use their washing machine and dryer![]()
Posted by MSeed
FH and I are going to be staying temporarily (1 year or less) with my parents. There is a 2 bedroom 'apartment' (no kitchen) on the second floor that we will be staying in.
My parents are building a wall to cutoff the main house so that we all have our privacy.
Posted by Espo22
People who talk sh*t will do so regardless and find something to talk about. Shows that they are probably having their own issues or not happy with things so thats why they feel the need to do so
Good for you if the arrangement works for all of you. That is between you, your husband and your parents. You really don't owe anyone an explanation. And, there will always be someone who has something to say.
