Dilemma.........what would you do?

Original post by MrsK2008

Mar 28, 2008 09:42 PM

If you had the opportunity to live with your folks for a few months to save money would you do it?

Would you be willing to sacrifice privacy?

MrsK2008 Posted: Mar 28, 2008 10:44 PM

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Posted by beachbum05

Posted by MrsK2008

I hope I can cope without vodka or xanax ( my 2 saviors in all large crisis)

oooh, xanax martini.

jay-kayyyyy

I say YUM

Melis08 Posted: Mar 28, 2008 10:57 PM

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If it was only a few months I would say it is no big deal

MrsK2008 Posted: Mar 28, 2008 10:58 PM

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Posted by Melis08

If it was only a few months I would say it is no big deal

welcome wedding newbie! be prepared to forego your life, your job and your pets to chat aimlessly for hours on end!

Ayne11 Posted: Mar 28, 2008 11:05 PM

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I dunno because the 'intent' is always there to save money, but for some reason it just never happens. JMO

MrsK2008 Posted: Mar 28, 2008 11:09 PM

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Posted by Ayne11

I dunno because the 'intent' is always there to save money, but for some reason it just never happens. JMO

I am a saving fool, regardless..........

Hawks Nest Posted: Mar 28, 2008 11:48 PM

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I live in an apartment in my parents house. However it is not a full apt just living room, bedroom and bathroom, no kitchen. My FH has now officially moved in. So we pretty much eat every meal with my family. There is absolutely no privacy. This is really hard. Some days I am losing it saying I can not do this anymore nad we need to move out and look for a place to live. Other days it is fine and I think of how much money we are saving. My advice is to think about how much privacy you would have and if it is not a lot make sure that your relationship can with stand having other people involved in all your business.

Good luck and if you need any other advice about this fm me....:)

JeanetteandSteve Posted: Mar 28, 2008 11:51 PM

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FH and i currently live in the upstairs of his parents' house. it's been difficult at times...but it's also been really nice most of the time. and after we're married they offered for us to stay here for a year, rent free, as long as we put all of the money we can in the bank. i think we're gonna take them up on it.

so i say do it. you'll never get that chance again to save that much money, and you have the rest of your lives together after.

Mici n KC Posted: Mar 28, 2008 11:54 PM

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It really really depends. My parents are a lot different than FH's parents. They would give us our privacy and we would do things on our own without questions. FH's parents always want to do things as a family. It's not a bad thing, but we would want to do our own stuff more than as a family.

wundmoretime Posted: Mar 29, 2008 12:02 AM

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I clicked-insane. I am older than most and have lived on my own for about 20 years. I would never move back. She has offered to help us save money, but my mental health isn't worth it. I would probably live on the streets first.

Cutechef729 Posted: Mar 29, 2008 12:12 AM

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FH and I live in the basement of his parents house. We are planning to stay here until we have money for a down payment. it's really helped us save money for the wedding and they really give us privacy. I can't wait to have our own place, but it will be a house and not an apartment because we saved money for a few years. I would not want to live with my parents though because they stress me out lol.

MrsK2008 Posted: Mar 30, 2008 11:52 AM

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Posted by JeanetteandSteve

FH and i currently live in the upstairs of his parents' house. it's been difficult at times...but it's also been really nice most of the time. and after we're married they offered for us to stay here for a year, rent free, as long as we put all of the money we can in the bank. i think we're gonna take them up on it.

so i say do it. you'll never get that chance again to save that much money, and you have the rest of your lives together after.

That was a great offer from them. I hoep it works out to be the best decision you ever made!

MrsK2008 Posted: Mar 30, 2008 11:53 AM

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Posted by wundmoretime

I clicked-insane. I am older than most and have lived on my own for about 20 years. I would never move back. She has offered to help us save money, but my mental health isn't worth it. I would probably live on the streets first.

lmao

I agree, mental health is paramount to everyday functioning!

jerrys girl Posted: Mar 30, 2008 11:57 AM

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Posted by MrsK2008

If you had the opportunity to live with your folks for a few months to save money would you do it?

Would you be willing to sacrifice privacy?

it depends on whose parents. my parents have offered but fh would rather not and i live and have overstayed my welcome. i have an apt in my parents house. fh's parents would give us a room next to the dog's. that would definitely not be enough room for our stuff.

MrsK2008 Posted: Mar 30, 2008 11:59 AM

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Posted by jerrys girl

Posted by MrsK2008

If you had the opportunity to live with your folks for a few months to save money would you do it?

Would you be willing to sacrifice privacy?

it depends on whose parents. my parents have offered but fh would rather not and i live and have overstayed my welcome. i have an apt in my parents house. fh's parents would give us a room next to the dog's. that would definitely not be enough room for our stuff.

I get the whole 'we have to omuch stuff' statement. We had to get storage for all of the gifts we have received.

jgl Posted: Mar 30, 2008 12:01 PM

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if i really had to yes, though i wouldnt really want to. esp once i am married. Ive lived with them enough of my life, i dont know if id be able to handle going back

MrsK2008 Posted: Mar 30, 2008 12:02 PM

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Posted by jgl

if i really had to yes, though i wouldnt really want to. esp once i am married. Ive lived with them enough of my life, i dont know if id be able to handle going back

I totally get that. I have been taking care of mayself and paying my own rent and dues, as well as student loans and car payments since I was 17. So, for the last 20 years. I have always hoped someone wpould scoop me up and save me from myself. Lord knows I could use a break!

mRm2008 Posted: Mar 30, 2008 12:26 PM

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We will move into my parents or my Nana's home after the wedding when our current home sells. This will be a reality until we relocate into a new home. I think we can do it and it will be worth it in the end. Then again my family is very easy going. NO WAY WOULD TRY IT AT FIL'S

LoriBeth2728 Posted: Apr 01, 2008 12:44 AM

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Yesssssssssssss.

Espo22 Posted: Apr 01, 2008 12:52 AM

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i wouldn't, only if my mom needed me to then i would. SHe will live alone after I move out so thats hard to think about, but if for any reason such as financial, health or anything like that then i would more likely have my mom live with us if anything. IF that was a current situation then yes i'd stay until things were settled with her.

My dad, it would be too much, i love him but he is alot to handle but again if he needed us then i would in a heartbeat.

But honestly both sets of parents well the mothers ill say have both said 'DONT LIVE WITH THE PARENTS' my parents lived with my dads parents for a little bit after the wedding and my mom said she hated it, and fh's parents had a similar situation. About fights not being private, getting involved and just a different feeling period. So both sets of parents actually gave us the advice that its better to live on our own, well we already had decided to but this topic came up somehow.

if my parents needed me i would do it in a heartbeat like i mentioned above and same with FIL's. Although we might be forced to stay in my current apartment with my mom for a few weeks waiting for a closing date lol