disappointed in FH

nferrandi Posted: Aug 20, 2004 02:20 PM

disappointed in FH

FH is going to Vegas next weekend for his bparty and the one thing I asked hm was for no private stripper (AKA prostitutes). I told him to feel free to go to as many strip clubs as he wanted but I didn't want any of that going on in their rooms. He just told me that one of the guys rented a suite for the actual bparty. I got upset and told him that was the one thing I asked him not to do and he said, 'well I didn't plan it, so too bad.' He is on the top of my sh!t list right now!

jfabbride Posted: Aug 20, 2004 02:21 PM

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I'm sure he'll be a good boy!!!!! And he's not you can sic all the LIW girls on him!!! HA!

BCTM33 Posted: Aug 20, 2004 02:21 PM

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That really sux. I don't have any advice to offer but I'm sending lots of

prindia Posted: Aug 20, 2004 02:24 PM

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I'm sure he won't do anything too BAD

Stefanie Posted: Aug 20, 2004 02:26 PM

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I'd be pissed too! My DH went to AC for his bachelor party. They walked into a strip club at 4 in the morning...meanwhile we agreed on no strippers. Guys who are single do not care. I'm sure your FI will be fine, it sounds like his groomsmen want this more than he does. Do you have a brother that's in the wedding party? Maybe he can be your spy!!!

nov2004bride Posted: Aug 20, 2004 02:29 PM

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Just because they got a suit that doesn't mean the stripper will be there. The only rule my FI has when he goes is no contact Just trust him

litlone555 Posted: Aug 20, 2004 02:29 PM

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I totally agree!! That is my one condition no private strippers!!! His not so smart friends have talked a little to freely about what they have seen girls do at private parties so I said there is no way. Go to every strip club on LI but no private parties. Put your foot down those girls are bad news!

nferrandi Posted: Aug 20, 2004 02:31 PM

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No, for them the suite definitely means strippers. I trust my FH, but you can never say never. My one guy friend who was supposed to go on the trip, and telll me if there was anything I needed to know, isn't going now because he can't get off work. I really don't think FH would cheat on me, but that doesn't mean I don't think he'll act inappropriately.

btrflygrl Posted: Aug 20, 2004 02:33 PM

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things can happen in a strip club too with enough $$.....just trust him enough to look and not touch

JimmysBride Posted: Aug 20, 2004 02:36 PM

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Wow... that is SO NOT cool. I would be LIVID. You guys made a deal out of mutual respect and his answer is 'I didn't plan it, TOO BAD'??????

Listen, I'm sure he isn't going to cheat on you and even if he does act inappropriately, it probably won't be so bad that you won't want to marry him anymore. For me the big issue here would be the 'too bad' part. But, try to relax... and maybe (I don't know if this is your thing) step up the bachelorette party a notch I know that would make me feel a little better!!

I'm so sorry!!

Blu-ize Posted: Aug 20, 2004 02:37 PM

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Here's my take on the whole sordid mess..most guys are all talk and like to look and be a part of the fun but are too chicken and intimidated to really do something. Your FI has to do what his friends arranged to save face. He most likely will get drunk and oogle some women, but that will be it. Him and his friends will have something to talk about for years!

Try not to take it personally, I know it's hard.

nferrandi Posted: Aug 20, 2004 02:37 PM

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Posted by btrflygrl

things can happen in a strip club too with enough $$.....just trust him enough to look and not touch

That's very true, but a lot less likely. Most decent strip clubs will kick you out for even trying to touch the strippers. Of course, there's always the back room, but FH would never go to such extremes for a piece of a$$.

KimberlyBride Posted: Aug 20, 2004 02:41 PM

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After hearing what happend to the other LIW gal with her FH and a stripper I had a HUGE discussion with my FH stating no way in hell will there be strippers in a private area. I also agreed to no strippers as well. It goes both ways. When there are a lot of people cheering you on and alcohol involved things can get ugly. I would be upset too.

Stefanie Posted: Aug 20, 2004 02:43 PM

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Posted by Blu-ize

Here's my take on the whole sordid mess..most guys are all talk and like to look and be a part of the fun but are too chicken and intimidated to really do something.

I absolutely agree on this one!!!!
I also agree on kicking it up a notch for your party...if you're comfortable with that...Bachlorette parties can sometimes be crazier than bach. parties!!!

Blu-ize Posted: Aug 20, 2004 02:46 PM

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Posted by Stefanie

Posted by Blu-ize

Here's my take on the whole sordid mess..most guys are all talk and like to look and be a part of the fun but are too chicken and intimidated to really do something.

I absolutely agree on this one!!!!
I also agree on kicking it up a notch for your party...if you're comfortable with that...Bachlorette parties can sometimes be crazier than bach. parties!!!

And, I agree with that too...mine was...um..well...use your imagination!

jessnyc711 Posted: Aug 20, 2004 02:47 PM

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I would also be upset, I told my FH the same thing, no private rooms with strippers, go to a upscale strip club, if strippers are involved in anyway at the Bachelor Party.....All the guys say that, they don't know, so and so is planning it etc....well, i will let my FH's friends and brothers hear my Wishes, it's up to them if they chose to not respect them, but I want to be clear what my view point is so they all know the consequences....

nylibride Posted: Aug 20, 2004 02:49 PM

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I can totally see why you would be angry. If he agreed to no strippers in the room, then he can tell his friends that is what HE wants or does not want. He can *still* tell his friends its' a no go with the stripper in the room. I think you're being really flexible by saying you're ok with him going to strip clubs.

This would get my back way up too! So sorry you're dealing with this.

nferrandi Posted: Aug 20, 2004 02:50 PM

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We're going to Newport for my bparty and it will be a bit more laid back than Vegas. My friends did hire a stripper, but as we all know, most male strippers are either ugly or gay- so not too much for him to be concerned over. There's a huge difference between a guy who's going to gyrate and be more humorous than sexy, and a girl who's going to put things in places, lay naked across my FH and, knowing his friends, I wouldn't be surprised if there was some girl on girl action. I'm sorry, that's just not cool with me.

Blu-ize Posted: Aug 20, 2004 02:56 PM

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You may have to trust him on this...he can look at the menu but he can't order! That should be the rule!

jozieb0925 Posted: Aug 20, 2004 02:59 PM

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It stinks that he is doing that, but at least he is being honest with you and telling you about it. He could have not told you..

But, I know the feeling. My FI is going to Vegas and I have no idea what his BP is planning for him..