Dividing the Guest List

Hi Ladies!
I have just started planning and was wondering how you ladies split your guest lists between each family? Did you do 50/50 60/40 33/33/33 because my parents are paying for some, grooms family is as well and so are we.

Thanks for the ideas!

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I think that depends on what you want your limit to be. If one of you has a larger family, you may want to allow them an extra table or two. (Or in my FH's case, an extra 200 people)

See what you two can afford, maybe pay for yours and FH's guests (friends, co-workers, etc) yourselves, and allow your parents to pay for your family and his parents pay for his family. This is the most common thing I've seen.

Good luck!

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Dividing the Guest Liat - Long Island Weddings

When we started our guest list we didn't start my dividing the list. FH and I sat down and wrote out everyone that our families and we wanted there. We didn't have to cut anyone since my father was comfortable with the guest amount (he is paying for majority of the wedding). FH probably has a little more guest than me but that is how it worked out and I'm ok with that.

Dividing the Guest List - Long Island Weddings

we didnt really divide the list, we just each made a list and went from there.

Dividing the Guest List - Long Island Weddings

We didnt divide the list we both invited all aunts, uncles and first cousins, and close family friends.. Then it was our friends, then my friends/his friends that we not part of the our friend circle and last but not least the parents friend list.. His family is a little bigger than mine but whatever I am taking our friends on my side to even out tables. As far as paying my dad is paying for hall but FH And I are paying for everything else.. I told him His moms friends list was going to be the first cut if we had to.. LOL

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Posted by lauren1802

we didnt really divide the list, we just each made a list and went from there.

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This! We didn't really give our Parents the opportunity to throw a bunch of names on our list lol. We wrote down who we thought should attend, family, and friends of the family, our friends etc. If we didn't know them well enough to write them down on the list ourselves then we don't know them well enough to invite them! haha

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Posted by lauren1802

we didnt really divide the list, we just each made a list and went from there.

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This! Just make the list and see how it goes. Most likely, it'll be pretty close to equal. If not, then you can either decide if you're okay with it, or start making adjustments.

Dividing the Guest List - Long Island Weddings

We both just made a list together of who we wanted and it worked out perfect! Fh guest list is a little bigger than mine & I'm ok with that..

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Posted by lauren1802

we didnt really divide the list, we just each made a list and went from there.

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This! We asked for our families input but neither side invited an amount that we felt wasn't reasonable.

Dividing the Guest List - Long Island Weddings

we are paying for our guests and they are paying for theirs. We have about 75% of the list and they have about 25%, so we felt it wasn't fair to have them pay 50/50 when we have so much more of the list

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Posted by lauren1802

we didnt really divide the list, we just each made a list and went from there.

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this. plus, my mother is paying for the wedding and FH's parents are at this point contributing nothing, so I feel that my family and friends should and will be more overly represented. FH's parents only gave us about 20 people.

Dividing the Guest List - Long Island Weddings

We didn't divide the list. FH, my parents, and I just wrote a list of who we want to invite.

Dividing the Guest List

We didn't divide the list but realized te other day he has alot more people

Dividing the Guest List

We didn't divide the list. I have a large family 27 first cousins. Fh has 8 first cousins. We wouldnt be able to divide it equally.

Dividing the Guest List

My parents are paying for the venue, so we split the minimum in half. He and his family gets one half & me and mine get the other. If he wants to go over, his parents can pay for it and that'll be ok. I went over mine - but my parents are covering it, if it were to go over. We felt that was the fairest way to do it.

Eta: when I say I went over mine that includes my parents friends and their guests. Not just my friends. And that's what I meant by if he wants to add more too. Like if his parents felt so and so should absolutely be invited.

Dividing the Guest List - Long Island Weddings

we just each wrote our own guest list then had our parents look over them to see if we forgot anyone

Dividing the Guest List - Long Island Weddings

FH and I are paying for the wedding ourselves, so we decided our guest list. We know some of FH's mom and grandma's friends, so we added them. Same with my mom, added two families I know she would want there. We are definitely not adding any friends of the parents we haven't met. We didn't really divide the list between FH and I, but turned out that we have about 40 people each. We are hoping for 60-70 people at the wedding.

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This is exactly what we are doing, it didn't seem right to me any other way. I am very luck both families are being so generous and accommodating so far, planning has been fun!

Thank you everyone for your responses they were all helpful you are the best!