Do you and FH fight?

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Posted by davenjess

To be honest, not really...the only time we fight is when he's watching his teams play sports - because he loses his MIND!!!!

Other than that, no, not at all...

I hope that doesn't sound snotty - not what i'm going for at all...

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same here. FH starts SCREAMING his head off and I have to tell him to shut up.

But I think we don't fight only because neither one of us are fighters by nature. I think the whole wedding planning thing can also add a lot of stress. Could it be that?

FH was saying to me recently that he doesn't even feel like he he's living his normal life because he's always worrying about the wedding (like the money, detail aspect...not about marrying me ).

We def fight we are both stubborn italians who want what we want. We have had some giant fights the only thing I will NOT allow is fighting in front of our daughter.

Arguing to a certain point is very normal to say you dont fight is crazy boring!!!!

Its good to yell sometimes the best is when your done fighting and you can laugh about what you were arguing about and the stupid **** that comes out of your mouth when your mad lol I love him and there is no one in this world I would wanna fight with more then my loving FH

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Posted by mathteach

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Posted by SoinLoveRwe2

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Posted by mathteach

then we bicker about it-- he says it's because I dont like it when he has an opinion-- that if I dont agree with him we have an argument-- but if that is the case why did we only start arguing recently? Does he have a newly developed opinion that didnt exsist before/?

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I think (keep in mind, math teacher, NOT therapist) he may be feeling a little slighted by you right now. You are working crazy hours, you have a co-worker in love with you and I'm sure that you may be a little pre-occupied with the holidays and weddings right now. He probably just really misses you and his Y chromosome prevents him from saying that so he does the next best thing which is to fight with you. Next time, just smile, kiss, say I love you, and see how the fight progresses from there.

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I never thought of that. It might be true- he hates this co worker-- and though i have the co worker under control and we're just friends I know that it annoys him. My problem is that I feel like if I don't tell FH everythign then I'm hiding something- and there's nothing to hide. So I tell him everything and then he gets mad that i talk about the guy--- i can't seem to get it right!

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Yeah, that's a tough one. What exactly do you tell FH about this guy. If it is boring work stuff, 'Oh Joe had a project..blah blah' then keep it to yourself, because I am sure FH does not want to hear his name. However, if you are telling him stuff like 'Joe walked by desk 82 times today' then that is sketchy. You want to tell him because you should, but obviously it bothers FH to hear it.

If I were you (again math teacher, not therapist) I would wean off conversations about this guy. Just try to talk about it less. If he asks, then of course, answer.

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that's a whole noter post, which i'm going to statrt tigt noe-- please go there for advicr for me on THAT topic!!

OMG do we fight??? ALL THE TIME....it's totally okay to fight once in a while.....you get to let out some steam and then making up is always fun

we fought from the beginning and i think thats why we love each other LOL

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Posted by dajc23

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Posted by 2007 Crescent Bride

My FH and I do not argue. We've had one fight in 5 years. He just doesn't argue. Don't get worried. Holidays are a very stressful time plus you are planning a wedding. Don't feel blue. Give him a big hug and a kiss and tell him you love him.

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My FH hatessssss to fight...and i hate the fact that he doesnt want to lol I enjoy a good screaming match every so often (as f*cked up as it sounds) but hes just always so 'whatever' about things. We're both a little cranky cause we're so busy but never have major arguments lol

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MINE TOO!!! Sometimes I have to push a little, and explain to him why he should be mad! But really, the only time we r get cranky with one another is in the car and he is driving -- we always fight over directions.

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Posted by o8bride

fh and i were never really fighters before.. but the wedding planning has made us argue a lot lately.. lol. i think what you and fh are going through right now is totally normal. its a stressful time in your lives.. just keep reminding yourselves that.

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Same here! It's just a stressful time that many of us go through. don't worry about it...it will pass!

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Posted by SoinLoveRwe2

HI girls- it's been a while...

question: do you and FH fight? or argue?

We never used to and all of the sudden we're arguing a lot. It's nothing monumental- just little things-- but I guess since we didnt used to argue I feel like our relationship is falling apart. He thinks I'm being crazy to think that over a few differences of opinion... I just dont know what to say. I know that we're stressed about the wedding and the holidays (we're having 20 ppl over tomorrow) so I know that's adding to it---- I just need to know: are we the only ones that are arguing?!?

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TRUST ME YOU ARE NOT THE ONLY ONE!!

WE FIGHT ALL THE TIME!!! About everything....nothing BAD just argue!!! ITs part of our relationship....I think its important to argue...you're 2 diff people and ur gonna have diff opinions...just the way it goes. I think its important now to learn HOW to fight so you don't get nasty with each other and you know how to satisfactorily end an arguement w/o the other person getting hurt. JMO...I think it'll pass...wedding planning is STRESSFUL and difference of opinion in stuff is natural. Consider it a crash course in argue-ology

we argue once in awhile - but its silly arguements that dont last very long and dont effect our mood toward eachother for the rest of the day. i dont have a brother but i could imagine our arguements being something like a brother/sister fight when you are a little kid

we have gotten into real fights before - that made us both yell, curse, say mean things but those never last very long either and they happen infrequently.

our arguing/fighting has never really been an issue and whether its an arguement or real fight we always apologize and get over it fast. i cant stay mad at FH for that long

of course we do...as you said, it is never anything monumental, but i just think it is natural...there are days he cant stand me and def vice versa!!!

Of course we argue...but then he apologizes and realizes I was right

FH and I fight and also argue- more so because of the wedding and the holidays and I'm also trying to get the apartment settled for the two of us and having him move his stuff in before the wedding. More so the wedding stuff but we know it's the stress of the wedding and such- we still love each other very much.

We have one rule though that we live by every day-

Never, ever go to sleep angry or mad at each other- this has worked so much with us. It also helps relieve the stress.

Getting so close to the wedding we bicker a little about having no time to do things, but that quickly subsides when we start talking about the actual wedding lol

We have never really fought, we bicker, but I think its quite normal, if everything was just sooo easy, it would get boring, everyone needs someone to fight for

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Posted by Snowflake08

My mother always says, 'When 2 people agree on everything, only 1 person is thinking'

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AMEN !!! I like your Mom.