We never used to and all of the sudden we're arguing a lot. It's nothing monumental- just little things-- but I guess since we didnt used to argue I feel like our relationship is falling apart. He thinks I'm being crazy to think that over a few differences of opinion... I just dont know what to say. I know that we're stressed about the wedding and the holidays (we're having 20 ppl over tomorrow) so I know that's adding to it---- I just need to know: are we the only ones that are arguing?!?
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I am currently not speaking to him. I haven't wanted to fight and he has been particularly irritating this week and this morning I reached my limit. He doesn't understand why I am so mad and if I tell him, I will let all the irritating things he has done this week out all at once. So I am just not speaking.
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My FH and I do not argue. We've had one fight in 5 years. He just doesn't argue. Don't get worried. Holidays are a very stressful time plus you are planning a wedding. Don't feel blue. Give him a big hug and a kiss and tell him you love him.
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I think its normal to argue a little...I wouldnt stress about it. The holidays and people and shopping and cooking etc. takes its toll on everyone. FH and I are always bickering back and forth (only more recently though) its annoying but we get over it and things are ok.
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Oh No...we fight all the time...LOL...FH says its normal. He says everyone fights...ummmmmm...I don't think thats true...but...There are ups and downs with everything. It makes us stronger, right? (I hope)
I dont' know if its 'normal'...but you're not alone.
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Posted by 2007 Crescent Bride
My FH and I do not argue. We've had one fight in 5 years. He just doesn't argue. Don't get worried. Holidays are a very stressful time plus you are planning a wedding. Don't feel blue. Give him a big hug and a kiss and tell him you love him.
My FH hatessssss to fight...and i hate the fact that he doesnt want to lol I enjoy a good screaming match every so often (as f*cked up as it sounds) but hes just always so 'whatever' about things. We're both a little cranky cause we're so busy but never have major arguments lol
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I know it's very common to argue but I lost someone I loved to an accident and it made me realize that life is just way too short and you never know what's going to happen. Arguing just isn't worth it unless of course it's something you feel passionately about. Otherwise, you should just laugh things off.
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I just get so frustrated that we WERE that couple that never argued--- but recently we bicker.
We talk about it (well actually I cry about it) and he apologizes and tells me he never wants to make me upset he's so sorry blablabla then he does it all over again--- I just don't get it.
What is the point to admitting there is a problem if you don't try to fix it???
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Posted by 2007 Crescent Bride
My FH and I do not argue. We've had one fight in 5 years. He just doesn't argue. Don't get worried. Holidays are a very stressful time plus you are planning a wedding. Don't feel blue. Give him a big hug and a kiss and tell him you love him.
My FH hatessssss to fight...and i hate the fact that he doesnt want to lol I enjoy a good screaming match every so often (as f*cked up as it sounds) but hes just always so 'whatever' about things. We're both a little cranky cause we're so busy but never have major arguments lol
So does mine. If mine gets angry, he just walks away to call off and then he usually sends me an i love you email. I use to love to argue. It made making up really fun. But that has all changed.
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To be honest, not really...the only time we fight is when he's watching his teams play sports - because he loses his MIND!!!!
Other than that, no, not at all...
I hope that doesn't sound snotty - not what i'm going for at all...
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Posted by katleigh3
Oh No...we fight all the time...LOL...FH says its normal. He says everyone fights...ummmmmm...I don't think thats true...but...There are ups and downs with everything. It makes us stronger, right? (I hope)
I dont' know if its 'normal'...but you're not alone.
My exbf and i fought like CRAZY PEOPLE!! And he used to say 'everyone fights' but we fought sooooooooo much that it was crazy. Now I feel like when FH says everyone fights that it's just like my ex-- but i know its not-- WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME?!?!!
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very rarely....we have disagreements but we have never had a screaming match or anything like that
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Posted by SoinLoveRwe2
I just get so frustrated that we WERE that couple that never argued--- but recently we bicker.
We talk about it (well actually I cry about it) and he apologizes and tells me he never wants to make me upset he's so sorry blablabla then he does it all over again--- I just don't get it.
What is the point to admitting there is a problem if you don't try to fix it???
What are you bickering about? In the middle of bickering, do you take a moment to think about what you are arguing about. Usually it's NOTHING important!!! Are the things you are arguing about important matters like money, family, values etc.?
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To be honest, not really...the only time we fight is when he's watching his teams play sports - because he loses his MIND!!!!
Other than that, no, not at all...
I hope that doesn't sound snotty - not what i'm going for at all...
It doesnt sound snotty--- that's the way that we were too! Never ever fighting-- maybe it's stress- he has a new job where he has a LOT of responsibility-- he hates my new job because I work so much-- there is a guy at work who is 'in love' with me and that stresses FH out--- holidays...wedding... Am i just making excuses?!?
To be honest, not really...the only time we fight is when he's watching his teams play sports - because he loses his MIND!!!!
Other than that, no, not at all...
I hope that doesn't sound snotty - not what i'm going for at all...
It doesnt sound snotty--- that's the way that we were too! Never ever fighting-- maybe it's stress- he has a new job where he has a LOT of responsibility-- he hates my new job because I work so much-- there is a guy at work who is 'in love' with me and that stresses FH out--- holidays...wedding... Am i just making excuses?!?
You are not making excuses. You are expressing yourself. Take a moment to think about everrything. This is a very stressful time in your life and his life. Get through the holidays and then have some alone time with the love of your life!
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Posted by davenjess
To be honest, not really...the only time we fight is when he's watching his teams play sports - because he loses his MIND!!!!
Other than that, no, not at all...
I hope that doesn't sound snotty - not what i'm going for at all...
It doesnt sound snotty--- that's the way that we were too! Never ever fighting-- maybe it's stress- he has a new job where he has a LOT of responsibility-- he hates my new job because I work so much-- there is a guy at work who is 'in love' with me and that stresses FH out--- holidays...wedding... Am i just making excuses?!?
No, you are not making excuses. This is a very stressful month and add in the work stress, and oh yeah, the wedding. We used to never fight either and I feel like I am always mad at him. But, I still thank God everyday for him and I would never let it get too far. Try to take some time and just do something with him. Drive around to look at lights, watch a stupid or even a sweet movie together. Just be with him with little or no talking.
This too, shall pass.
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To be honest, not really...the only time we fight is when he's watching his teams play sports - because he loses his MIND!!!!
Other than that, no, not at all...
I hope that doesn't sound snotty - not what i'm going for at all...
It doesnt sound snotty--- that's the way that we were too! Never ever fighting-- maybe it's stress- he has a new job where he has a LOT of responsibility-- he hates my new job because I work so much-- there is a guy at work who is 'in love' with me and that stresses FH out--- holidays...wedding... Am i just making excuses?!?
NO - you are not making excuses. Is he normally VERY laid back? That's the way Dave is...and the wedding stress recently got to him...we didn't fight - but he seemed to be in an odd mood..
Maybe you & FH need to sit down and talk it ALL out.... His worries about your job and the guy in love witcha....etc...
Get it ALL out...it really made a HUGE difference the other day when Dave finally let it out. He was so worried about money, so I showed him the budget, set his mind to rest...it was so nice that he finally opened up, etc...
FM me if you want to talk about it!!!!!
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We fight alot (abt stupid things too ). But our angry periods are very short
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I just get so frustrated that we WERE that couple that never argued--- but recently we bicker.
We talk about it (well actually I cry about it) and he apologizes and tells me he never wants to make me upset he's so sorry blablabla then he does it all over again--- I just don't get it.
What is the point to admitting there is a problem if you don't try to fix it???
What are you bickering about? In the middle of bickering, do you take a moment to think about what you are arguing about. Usually it's NOTHING important!!! Are the things you are arguing about important matters like money, family, values etc.?
hm... let me think: he says 'my dad is coming over tomorrow to put the dimmer in the light switch' I say' Tomorrow? I really think that is a bad idea-- I am cooking for 20 and I don't want your dad underfoot'
then we bicker about it-- he says it's because I dont like it when he has an opinion-- that if I dont agree with him we have an argument-- but if that is the case why did we only start arguing recently? Does he have a newly developed opinion that didnt exsist before/?
