I had dinner with one of my friends last night (who I was planning on asking to be one of my bm's) and I never bring up my wedding to her because she never has any pleasant comments and I didnt bring it up last night, but out of nowhere she told me her and our other friend are so sick of my wedding because my moh doesnt stop talking about it. I was really hurt by this, Ive only been engaged for 3 months, rarely see or talk to her to even bring it up and she never asks me how the planning is going or anything, barely got a congratulations when FH proposed, and she said that to me. Am I over reacting? I cant get it off my mind
MRSin2009
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no not at all! Sometimes people out of jealousy say stupid things!
longislandlibrarian
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that was VERRRRRY rude of her!!!!!!! I would definitely reconsider asking as a BM.... sounds like she may be a THORN in your side during the process
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I know many people like that. And that is the reason why i have like 4 girl friends....
She is definitely jealous. Be careful to put her in your wedding party because the closer it gets she will probably get worse
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Posted by longislandlibrarian
that was VERRRRRY rude of her!!!!!!! I would definitely reconsider asking as a BM.... sounds like she may be a THORN in your side during the process
I totally agree...you want people that are happy for you to be in your BP.
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Very rude!!! def rethink her as a BM!!! specially since you've only just started the wedding planning and there's going to be alot more talk for her to get 'sick' of!!!!! She should be happy and excited with you!!!
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I know many people like that. And that is the reason why i have like 4 girl friends....
She is definitely jealous. Be careful to put her in your wedding party because the closer it gets she will probably get worse
Me too I only have 3 close girl friends (and she is clearly not one of them)
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Thanks girls! You made me feel a lot better about rethinking of asking her to be a bm. I felt obligated bc we were best friends growing up...but if she was really a friend she wouldbe happy and excited for me.
Thanks again! What would I do without my 09ers!
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Aww i'm sorry that was really mean and hurtful of her. Are u sure u want someone who is 'sick' of your wedding already and it's only been 3 months to be a bm?
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No, i totally understand your POV... I think its very rude! I have a friend that used to call me all the time.... ive only had a few calls form ehr since i got engaged .... very annyong but it makes u see the real person in them!
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She was really rude! I'm sure when she starts planning her own wedding that you'll never hear the end of it and you'll probably hear it directly from her!! I can't believe she said that when you weren't even the one that said anything. I would be offended but I think just try not to think about it too much.. There are going to be ppl that are truly happy for you and others that just want to bring you down.. Focus on the happy ppl and just seat her as far away from you as possible during the reception!
whoops... i forgot you were thinking about asking her to be a BM... maybe it's better that you know now how she feels and it'll help you make a decision if you really want her to be in your bridal party.
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uh, rude! are you still going to ask her to be a bm? i wouldn't because she is just going to cause problems throughout the whole thing. she sounds like the type who will complain about every dollar she will have to spend and thats just annoying!
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uh, rude! are you still going to ask her to be a bm? i wouldn't because she is just going to cause problems throughout the whole thing. she sounds like the type who will complain about every dollar she will have to spend and thats just annoying!
lol thats her!
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Definitely rethink about asking her to be a BM. Being a BM is a huge financial commitment and if she didn't want to bring a gift to a bris, I can already imagine the complaints you're going to hear when it comes to buying a dress and I don't even know the girl!!! LOL
Seriously, if you're only going to ask her out of obligation, not because you really want her to be in your bridal party, then don't do it.
If you feel really bad about not including her, maybe she can have another part in the wedding. FH and me aren't having a bridal party (just MOH and Best Man), but I'm going to have my brother and brother-in-law be unofficial ushers at the church and my sister-in-law is going to hand out the programs for the service and my sister's four children are going to bring up the communion gifts during the Mass. So maybe you can come up with something like that for your friend if you really feel obligated to have her do something.
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id be pissed too, that tells me that she is just JEALOUS!!!! to be honest, i would really think twice about asking her to be a BM, i had a friend who was the SAME way who i was planning on asking to be a BM...luckily i decided not to and it was a really good decision bc now i dont even talk to her, she was just way to jealous and not happy for me, and i realized i dont need people in my life like htat
SparklingBride10
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Your not over reacting, that was very rude of her to even do.
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I am never one to give advice on a personal situation but in this case I must speak up - Alexandra please do not ask this girl - she is only going make your life hell with the planning. Shortly after I began dating FH I lost a friend whom I was friends with for over 9yrs before meeting him. She was so jealous and envious of our relationship and even before I met him always had rude and hurtful things to say to me. There was one instance that set me over the top and we are longer friends. I'm not saying you should not be friends with her but I think it would be in your best interest to not ask her to be in the bridal party. I have been in a situation very similar and I know how difficult it can be - if you need to talk about feel free to FM me - I'll try to help any way I can
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I would definitely think twice about asking her to be in your bp. If she's so tired of hearing about it from your moh, imagine what a biotch she'd be if she was involved. Why are some girls such losers?
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I would re-think asking her because she really doesnt seem interested in your wedding at all and you dont need that by your side.
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That was definately rude. Are you still asking her to be in the wedding
