Do You Know What You Will Call Your FIL's After You Get Married?

Original post by BHW

Nov 02, 2005 11:11 AM

MrsStefan Posted: Nov 02, 2005 01:40 PM

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Posted by july06bride

i call them by their first names and will do so after the wedding. I love them and they are great people, but i alredy have two fantastic parents and i just dont feel comfortable

ME TOO!!!
ETA: FH dosent all my mom anything. He calls my dad 'chief'...It just sort of happened...my dad likes that he calls him that.

PrincessRose Posted: Nov 02, 2005 01:43 PM

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We're first names on both sides, everyone's most comfortable with that. Because of the relationship I have with my MIL, I feel that it would be disrespectful to my mother to call MIL 'mom'. But there are many other women whom I call mom with no hesitation.

foofy Posted: Nov 02, 2005 01:45 PM

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Posted by Tarae

Mom and dad. They treat me like a daughter and I think of them as my parents as well!

Not weird at all for me.

Same here!

VS11 Posted: Nov 02, 2005 01:45 PM

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Posted by hmm8191

I could never call my MIL Mom. I would think that was disrespectful to my Mom who raised me. But that's just me! I call her by my first name.
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Funny how you say that it would be disrespectful towards your mother because in our family and also being from a very Italian home, it would be disrespectful NOT to call our inlaws mom and dad. I understand what you mean and it will take me a looooooooooooooong time to get used to

conigs25 Posted: Nov 02, 2005 01:52 PM

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Well my FMIL told me to callher mom or by her first name. My FFIL told me 'pop' or Mr. So-SO

JennJay Posted: Nov 02, 2005 02:18 PM

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I call them by their first names now, so unless they told me to call them something else, I am going to stick with their first names.

JazzyT Posted: Nov 02, 2005 10:34 PM

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I will call them by their first names I only have one wonderful set of parents besides FH and all his siblings call their mother by her first name so it will be weird for me to start calling her mom.

Bobbysgirl Posted: Nov 03, 2005 08:09 PM

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Thats a tough one.. may parents actually want me to call his parents Mom and Dad and the want my FI to call them Mom and Dad... I'm still tossed up! I gotta realllllllllly think about it!!

Hamptonsbride06 Posted: Nov 03, 2005 08:37 PM

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Posted by Marisa M

I call MIL by her first name, I don't call my FIL anything.......I know it's AWFUL but I just kind of wait to catch his eye - I know he wants me to call him 'dad' but I just can not do it .......I HAVE a Mom and Dad ..
DH calls my parents whatever. - I think he still calls my Dad 'Mr. M.' which is what everyone calls him.......he calls my Mom, 'Mom' sometimes. or he'll call her 'Lu' -

Haha I still dont call them anything..I have known them forever, and they know I dont call them anything...its more of a hey you, or umm hey over here..they have offered me suggestions..Im just not comfortable and I dont know why

mtdr1106 Posted: Nov 03, 2005 08:42 PM

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i already call my FMIL 'ma' and will continue to do so.....My FFIL i usually call by first name.
But FH has already told me that he is not 100% comfortable calling my parents mom & dad - which is fine w/ me.

i think this is something you have to 'feel' - not be told to do.

DA77 Posted: Nov 03, 2005 11:10 PM

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LOVE THIS THREAD!!!!! This has been a hot topic with FH for a long time. I agree with Bella11, in an Italian family, once married it's disrespectful to call FIL anything but Mom and Dad, but until then????????? I force myself to stick with the Mr and Mrs but I can't wait to drop the formality and call them M&D. It'll be uncomfortable at first but at least it won't be M/M.

evnme Posted: Nov 03, 2005 11:11 PM

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i will continue to call them by their first names.

Soon2BeMrs2006 Posted: Nov 03, 2005 11:16 PM

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she told me to call her mom, but right now i'm calling her mama T

babybug631 Posted: Nov 04, 2005 01:02 AM

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We're going by first names.

Hallowedding Posted: Nov 04, 2005 10:15 AM

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I kind of just look at them and talk to them, just like my fiance does when he talks to my mom. When his mother sends me a card or an e-mail, she always writes 'Love, Mom' so that's what I guess she wants me to call her.

edsprincess Posted: Nov 04, 2005 10:16 AM

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nothing changed. its still just dennis and andrea

Kelly9904 Posted: Nov 04, 2005 11:18 AM

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Posted by Blu-ize

Mom and Dad-it's respectful. They think of me as their daughter not DIL.

I totally agree! Before my mom died her and I had a conversation about this and she said that I should call them mom and dad. To her it was a sign of acceptance letting the MIL & FIL know that I thought of them on equal ground as I thought of my own family!

It was hard saying MOM to my MIL after my mom died but I have gotten past that and now is instinctive to call her mom!

hmm8191 Posted: Nov 04, 2005 06:27 PM

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Posted by DA77

LOVE THIS THREAD!!!!! This has been a hot topic with FH for a long time. I agree with Bella11, in an Italian family, once married it's disrespectful to call FIL anything but Mom and Dad, but until then????????? I force myself to stick with the Mr and Mrs but I can't wait to drop the formality and call them M&D. It'll be uncomfortable at first but at least it won't be M/M.

My MIL is Italian...as in born there but I call her by her first name. I think it all depends on the person and your comfort level. I'm sure she'd like to call her Mom but I'm just not comfortable with that. It's hard but at this early stage I think it's important to hold onto the things you find important. If you you're just setting yourself up for problems down the road. JMO...of course!

thefirstlady Posted: Nov 04, 2005 06:31 PM

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I call his mom, 'mom', she didn't ask me to, she told me to! And his step-dad I call by his first name. He's not into it I guess, which is fine for me!