do you live with your FH?

Original post by mariedsgn

Mar 30, 2009 12:47 PM

Just wondering. . . . . . I am thinking about moving in!

any advise?!

TIA

Iluvpoodles Posted: Mar 30, 2009 01:40 PM

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No, but he lives at home still and I'm out on my own. He stays over alot during the week and we spend all of our time at my apt due to the privacy issues at his parents house lol. It sorta feels like we live together.

jussie82 Posted: Mar 30, 2009 01:48 PM

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Posted by stinenandy2010

We do, just bought a house together 4 weeks ago......Just my personal opinion, everyone should live with their future spouse b4 getting married. You just learn so much.

ita

cateydee Posted: Mar 30, 2009 01:48 PM

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he moved into my apt in september. our parents kinda flipped but now they're over it.
i am so glad he moved in before we got married because i couldnt deal with the stress of the wedding AND the stress of a move/learning about his bad quirks.

we are really lucky that we both get along great and are really respectful about our messiness.

i lived with a boyfriend before and needless to say it was a learning experience and im glad we moved in togehter before marriage because it helped us learn that we werent in love! lol

T E R I Posted: Mar 30, 2009 01:50 PM

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We just moved in together into our house in February. We are still working through the whole living together and being around each other all the time. We used to only see each other 2 days a week, so its definitely taking some adjustments, but we are getting the hang of it. I am definitely happy we decided to move in together before the wedding, this way we can work through these things now.

MrsC2010 Posted: Mar 30, 2009 01:54 PM

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we have lived together for the past 2 years...i personally wouldn't get married without living with someone first (just my personal opinion--not trying to say what works for other ppl is wrong). I just think its so important to see what its like living with someone...things are totally different when you are living with someone 24/7...you get to see their true self, habits, etc...

jayepyt Posted: Mar 30, 2009 01:58 PM

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no not yet

KatieG2010 Posted: Mar 30, 2009 02:16 PM

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Nope... we both live at home and can't wait to live with eachother

CloudNine Posted: Mar 30, 2009 02:25 PM

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we do live together, we have been for about 2.5 years. i am a firm beleiver of living together before marriage. there is just so much to adjust to and learn about eachother that you wont until you live together. with today's divorce rate i was eager to throw the whole 'traditional way of doing it' out the window.

living together brings along rough patches that can show you how your relationship will hold up for future issues.

the only down side is that like tracey said, after we get married its almost like nothing changed. however i think that i say that but after we are married it will still feel different. it will be a whole new rush

NanandEric08 Posted: Mar 30, 2009 02:36 PM

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I always said I wouldn't live with someone before we got married because I didn't think it would be special after the wedding. I am completely happy I decided to live with him first though. We have lived together for over 2 years now and the first couple of months were work! Learning to be around each other so much, and each others everyday habits can be a real eye opener and challenge! My dad wasn't crazy about the idea but he got over it eventually!

deanna225 Posted: Mar 30, 2009 02:37 PM

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not yet but we will be living together before we get married.

JillandJoe Posted: Mar 30, 2009 02:41 PM

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we have lived together offical for almost 6 months... it was the best decision!! We were bascially living together before, but in his bedroom and it just wasn't good for us...we never got time away from each other. Now we have more space to do our own thing, but still be together

paprika023 Posted: Mar 30, 2009 02:47 PM

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nope not yet.. we're waiting until i graduate in May

LaurenJosh Posted: Mar 30, 2009 02:54 PM

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Posted by NanandEric08

I always said I wouldn't live with someone before we got married because I didn't think it would be special after the wedding. I am completely happy I decided to live with him first though. We have lived together for over 2 years now and the first couple of months were work! Learning to be around each other so much, and each others everyday habits can be a real eye opener and challenge! My dad wasn't crazy about the idea but he got over it eventually!

ITA. Always said I wouldn't but gave in and glad I did.

Kimbiz1 Posted: Mar 30, 2009 02:55 PM

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Yes I do. It was to the point that his apartment was being used to store his 'stuff' and for him to take a shower. We decided it would be better for us if he paid towards the mortgage instead of into someone elses retirement fund.

Our big mistake was not declaring alone time before. Now I always feel like I'm asking instead of telling him when I want to do something without him. He never put it on me that way, it's just something I end up doing.

I'd set the record straight on that one ahead of time. Good Luck.

agapiiiii Posted: Mar 30, 2009 03:26 PM

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Yes almost for a year now, he has his own place.

grkbarbie Posted: Mar 30, 2009 03:32 PM

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we've been living together since 2005. it was ROUGH at 1st ..but that was because we had a roomate in the 2nd bedroom we even broke up cuz of it.. but in the end.. i won lol

it reallly is about compromise. and def give eachother SPACE.

SoontobeRoma15 Posted: Mar 30, 2009 03:32 PM

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We have lived together for the last 2 years. I really believe it brings you closer together. Though i agree with many of the other girls, you need to create your own time and your own space. Once the two of you have that down you'll be on your way.

Reymiliz Posted: Mar 30, 2009 03:41 PM

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lol i went through the roomate thing ...and like u i won too lol ....

weve lived together for 2 yrs now ... the best thing about it is that we still have our own time

fh gets home late so we really only see each other like 3 hrs a day .... and all ay sunday ... so its like we really dont !!!

But you do learn alot and i agree with all the other girls who say its best to move in b4 marriage u see a completely diff side of the person !

scatteredx12 Posted: Mar 30, 2009 04:48 PM

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We've been living together for 4 months. I don't know if it's just that its been a short amount of time, but we really have had no issues at all. We've been really good with alone time and stuff. We do spend a lot of time together but we aren't together constantly, and neither of us argues if the other wants to go out or something. We give each other space and we're really good at compromising. I think that's the most important thing when you live together. Know when to give each other space. If you're together every second of the day, you're gonna get irritated and end up bickering over nothing. I dealt with that wayyyyy too much with my ex because we were together constantly!

RedsBride Posted: Mar 30, 2009 04:59 PM

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Posted by jussie82

Posted by stinenandy2010

We do, just bought a house together 4 weeks ago......Just my personal opinion, everyone should live with their future spouse b4 getting married. You just learn so much.

ita

I agree too! We learned a lot living together about each other and ourselves. It was completely different than living with him at Hofstra lol. We wanted to kill each other at first and we almost broke up once but living together over the past 2 yrs is the best decision we could have made.