Do you think this is tacky to put in an invitation?

Original post by EJSD2006

Jan 11, 2006 09:30 PM

My co-worker is trying to convince me that I should have 'Monetary gifts preferred' printed on each invitation. I think it's tacky, I don't want to insult people. What do you think?

BlueTulip Posted: Jan 12, 2006 09:02 AM

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Posted by mlanier

I think that is tacky. I think it is understood nowadays that money is the only acceptable gift

I agree that you shouldn't put this on your invitation, however I don't agree that money is the only acceptable gift. Your guests are invited for their presence not their presents and should give what they feel is appropriate.

nov06 Posted: Jan 12, 2006 09:03 AM

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Sooooooo tacky!

McSulllivan Posted: Jan 12, 2006 09:05 AM

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Very tacky!

kmkelly Posted: Jan 12, 2006 09:21 AM

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Never put that. Most of your gifts will monetary anyway.

Noonie Posted: Jan 12, 2006 09:34 AM

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If I got an invitation that said 'monetary gifts preferred', the 1st thing I'd do is reach for the phone to call my sisters & say, 'OMG, did you see what it says on so and so's invitation?' IMO it's tacky, and most people already do give monetary gifts. Go w/your gut feeling.

nygirl77 Posted: Jan 12, 2006 09:35 AM

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I've only ever given monetary gifts at weddings. I can't imagine specifying that's what I want though!

VS11 Posted: Jan 12, 2006 09:37 AM

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SunBride07 Posted: Jan 12, 2006 09:42 AM

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I think that is tacky. I wouldn't do it!

CJStein Posted: Jan 12, 2006 09:43 AM

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VERY tacky

BHW Posted: Jan 12, 2006 10:40 AM

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Posted by bella11

I cant believe someone actually told you put that on your invites......If I got an invite saying that I would purposely go out and buy the couple a gift...

I'd probably do that too or I'd be really tempted to not even go to the wedding. While money is probably preferred by most couples, I'd never write that on the invitation. If guests get you a gift instead of money, who cares? If you really don't like it, you can always return it.

spring06bride Posted: Jan 12, 2006 10:47 AM

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oh so tacky, and the kiss of death... you should never put anything related to gifts, money or a registry on your wedding invitation!

babybug631 Posted: Jan 12, 2006 10:47 AM

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Yes that is VERY tacky!

cantwait2bewed Posted: Jan 12, 2006 10:54 AM

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i have seen people do this and it is very tacky indeed. People will talk about u if u put that there.

ReemBride06 Posted: Jan 12, 2006 10:55 AM

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Completely tacky...

My dad joked with me about putting 'wire transfers accepted,' but at least he was kidding. I can't imagine someone saying that with a straight face.

july06bride Posted: Jan 12, 2006 10:58 AM

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I was invited to a wedding this past summer which had a small card included with it stating that monetary donations were accepted...It was awful! I posted about it too ... I was tempted to bring a gift and a not very nice one at that....but of course I would never do that, so we gave the monetary gift which we would have done anyway... BUt IMHO it is not right to do.

MissingTheBGene Posted: Jan 12, 2006 11:09 AM

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Posted by chloeme2

IMO.... you get what you get, end of story!!! It's not appropriate to ask for money...ever.!!!

I totally agree.

cindyandkevin Posted: Jan 12, 2006 11:22 AM

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Posted by PrincessRose

Posted by mlanier

I think that is tacky. I think it is understood nowadays that money is the only acceptable gift

While I agree that printing gift preferences on the invitation is entirely too tacky for words, I'd also like to say that I think it's perfectly acceptable to bring a gift off the registry. There were several things on my registry that I didn't get, and would have loved to receive.

I don't want to start anything, but I do think it's a little rude to say that money is the 'only acceptable gift'. You know which gifts I remember best from my wedding? The beautiful framed photographs of our first date from my friend Phil. The mini album of Polaroids of the day from my Bridesmaid Amber. The incredible website my friend Missy designed with TONS of pictures from the wedding and pre-wedding events. Those mean more than any showy check, which I've already forgotten the amount of.

Very well said, Rachel!!!!! Those are beautiful gifts that you received!!