Do your in-laws get along?

I'm a little upset knowing that my inlaws will never be friendly. My parents and my inlaws come from just 2 different walks of life.

My parents are all about going out, being social, extravagance, etc. Well, not so much my dad - more my stepmom - who is all about - look at me, look at what I have, etc. Funny since if anyone read my thread on 'american dream' - may give you more insight into why I find it so avervive...

My future inlaws are just quiet, sweet, working class people who stay home, don;t go out. They aren't about image. They also have very little money. Also - they aren't that involved with anyone or anything - they do a lot for the grandkids, but other than that, they don't really call, don't get themselves too involved with much of anythihg - which, I prefer, seeing some of your guys posts!!!

My stepmom got upset that they haven't offered anything for the wedding - I told her I'm not getting involved - my parents have a lot of money, and his parents are struggling while his dad goes thru bankruptcy. I feel - my dad offered to help me out for the wedding, and I appreciate it. Otherwise, we would have had a private ceremony on a beach somewhere. She also got mad when they didn't offer to do anythign for the e-party, when my parents threw it for me. FH told his parents when they asked him if there is anything they should do, and he said no - everything is taken care of... He said this because I told him to - and my stepmomther was upset because she felt they weren't involved...

His parents aren't that social, and they say and do things sometimes that are just ignorant - nothing hurtful - they are just sweet naive people. I wish my parents could just see them for who they are, but they don't. They are just these nice, regular, everyday people. I feel bad that they are being judged. FH's parents, although we have been together over 2 years, don't know me that well - they don't do much to get to know me, or my family, but I don't expect them to...

Maybe this is just how it is, right? Do your parents and his get together, talk, be social, etc...?