DOC

My FH feels the same way. I feel like we need one, so I'll see. Even if it's just for a few hours before we get to the RH where we will have the bridal attendant...

Maybe try someone who charges hourly rates and just use them before the reception?

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Posted by Jsquared

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Posted by SoonToBeMrsFox

i'm so glad you girls understand where i'm coming from. i was so upset last night.

i'm definitely hiring one.

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Its not so much for the planning. its for the 'day of!'
Tell FH he does not want a stressed out bride ! It is so worth the $$

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exactly, that's what i tried to explain to him! he was like how hard is it to hand out tips? yeah, b/c that's all they do.. grrr!

who are you using?

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Posted by SoonToBeMrsFox

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Posted by Jsquared

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Posted by SoonToBeMrsFox

i'm so glad you girls understand where i'm coming from. i was so upset last night.

i'm definitely hiring one.

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Its not so much for the planning. its for the 'day of!'
Tell FH he does not want a stressed out bride ! It is so worth the $$

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exactly, that's what i tried to explain to him! he was like how hard is it to hand out tips? yeah, b/c that's all they do.. grrr!

who are you using?

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I havent decided yet LOL. I need recommendations. I do not want to spend alot because I am a control freak and will prob end up doing everything myself! But i really like the idea of having someone work for me the day of.. I dont want to make my mom, BMs, anyone be my b*tch !

i am.


When my sister told me she was doing this, i thought she was CRAZY. but after seeing it all happen...MAN

1- it lets you AND YOUR FH just be at your wedding. You don't have to worry about food or cars or vendors or money. She does that.

2- it lets the BP just be at your weddinig. I didn't have to worry about my sisters flowers or lip gloss or hair or veil. It was SO NICE

3- anything that goes wrong is TAKEN CARE OF!! Each of my 3 sisters used Francesca of Dazzling Affairs (she is like a family member now!) and each of them had something go wrong at the wedding- crasher, limo issue, AC issue...and they ALL didn't even know about it until we told them the next day!!!!

4-she takes care of all the stuff (calling vendors to confirm) the week before the wedding and is there AT ANYTIME AFTER YOU BOOK her for ANY QUESTION YOU HAVE. ANd if you have a good and well known DOC, she can give you recommendations for vendors, and generally its a 'tell them you are one of my brides' and that = discounts, special treatment and ALL GOOD THINGS!

A DOC, a good one- is worth their weight in gold i think. Its not for everyone, but it is REALLY nice to have.

I wish I could get one...
But reality, We cant afford it...
So i will try to contineu to do everyting Myself...

I def. think it's worth it (but it's you & ur FH paying). A DOC is only with your the day of. So you can be doing a superb job planning everything right now on your own; but the day of...you don't want to have to worry about wrangling bp members; dealing w/any last minute people that show up that didn't rsvp and the rh needs to know where to sit them...the photographer that is lost and needs help finding directions.

i think it's a great investment if you have the money to pay for it. DOC just help relieve some of the added stress that can potentially develop the day of the wedding. Lord only know what can go wrong-but with a DOC maybe you won't! LOL!

I think it is helpful! and if he doesnt want to pay for it- you can.....
I recommend Chrissi from FTENY

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Posted by futurestevens

i'm using one. i've got the planning under control now, but i'm a perfectionist and a worry wart so i need someone the day of to do the worrying for me. like the other girls said, i don't want to have to worry about the little things the day of, i want to enjoy my day. i also don't want my mom or sister worrying about the little things (since that's who it would fall on if i decided not to get involved).

fh was completely on board and told me he was going to work OT to pay for it since he knows how worked up i get about big events...i think he doesn't want to worry about me having a stroke the day of lol

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thats exactly why I am getting one! lol

my fiance apologized for being such a jerk last night. he still doesn't really see the point, but i will definitely be hiring someone.

thanks for all the support girls <3

Sent you FM but overall I think a DOC is helpful, not required. I think its a really good thing to have if your are having a BIG wedding (100/150+ guests) because a lot of the stresses or possible mishaps are taken care of (as posted above).

If you are having a small wedding and your RH is decent enough to give a GOOD Bridal Attendant (BA), then it may not be necessary. It all depends on how many vendors you're having, size of wedding, bridal party, etc.

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Posted by April_Luv

I think it is helpful! and if he doesnt want to pay for it- you can.....
I recommend Chrissi from FTENY

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i loveeee chrissi, definaetly something i totally recommend if you can fit it into your budget

we hired Regina from Cloud Nove - shes the best

i am so worried abt everything that i works so hard planning for 2 years being perfect that i was obsessing abt it so when i told FH about DOC he was on board just so he doesnt have to hear me anymore.... LOL