does anyone else family make them just want to elope?
Rob-luvs-me
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Is anyones family driving them to just want to elope? I just can't take them anymore - if it isn't the engagement party - or the fact that they can't decide if we can have one or not - then it is the not shopping for my dress until I lose 50 pounds, or threatening to cancel the wedding if I don't do everything in the way that pleases them. Then they are normal the next day! I can't even tell them about my friends weddings because they automatically think I am dumping on what they are doing. All I have to say is my friend is using...xyz and they say -'what abc is not good enough for you. You are the most spoiled girl that I have ever met in the whole world.' I have explained to them that I am excited for my friends and I do not want the same things that they are doing but they just don't listen.
LnP2003
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not my family... the cost of everything else is another story though.....
DaniRN
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I agree with that Lnp. My family has been great with all the planning-not overbearing at all. It's just the costs and stress that make me wish I were saying my vows in a drive thru chapel right now!
Stacey1403
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Did someone tell you to lose 50lbs before you shop for a dress?
LnP2003
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stace.... huh????
DaniRN
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No, i'm the opposite. I was told (by the saleslady for my dress) that I better eat steak and potatoes everynight till my wedding so I don't look like skin and bones! Who said that to you Stacey?!
Stacey1403
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No Christine said that Did you even read her post?
Stacey1403
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That is meant to be joking not bitc*y You never know with the hormones
LnP2003
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ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
balilove
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Gee Chris, as they say in the Midwest..seems like someone(your family) needs to have a case of whip a#! exploded on them.
wacky
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Wow I am glad we are paying for our wedding. I can tell everyone to keep their comments to themselves. And Paul and I can decide for ourselves
Sorry you have to go through this. Hope things get better
Jess2
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Christine, don't let them drive you crazy. Don't forget - that is their job! Just remember it is your day, and no matter what it will be beautiful, and don't allow anyone to make you so crazy that it ruins it for you. I also think for some parents it is really hard to let go, so that might be part of the control issue also. But try to relax as much as possible and do what you can.
eroxgirl
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My mother knows you buy your opinion with me...if you're not giving me money then keep your opinions to yourself...somehow she's still managed to make me think about eloping and she's still added her nasty opinions... doesn't like the BM dress, not impressed with my photographer (I think she's going blind). Even if I'm in the poor house for the next 10 years because of it, I wouldn't ask for her involvement for any amount of money! Sorry you're family is driving you nuts!
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I've definitely considered eloping about 400times a day! But, it's not my family that's driving me insane -it fi's family that think that they should plan the whole thing - when they're not paying a **** cent! Just keep reminding yourself that it's your day and you will do what you want with it. Listen, you can't make everyone happy - it's just impossible, but you do have the ability to make yourself happy - so do it! And remember - we're always here for you to vent to.
kptoys
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My mom told me to elope... she thinks it would be cheaper... but shes kidding. She wants me to have a great wedding.
dgtlsunshine
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I hope they didn't tell you to loose 50 pounds
Rob-luvs-me
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Yeah the comment was from my mom. FFIL is another story in inself. Thanks guys it was just one of those days when they were being a pain.
DrmnBlnd
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I agree with LnP....it just costs so much!!!
regina2
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My dad was driving me a bit crazy, he keeps adding to the wedding list. I finally told him that I am not inviting people I do not know and some of my relatives. I just don't have enough room and I am not cutting my FI friends just so he can invite people I dont know. He got mad at me, but now he is being better about it.
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I'm with you!!! Last week my mom screamed at me 'I'm so sick of your f-ing wedding!!!' and 'Enough about the make-up artists, no on e wants to hear it!' It has been a tremendous nightmare since I announced the wedding.... We went to the Bridal store with my bridesmaids to look for bridesmaids dresses (the one thing I was able to drag her to) and she yells out in the store really loudly- 'I don't get why everyone makes a fuss over their wedding, pays hundreds for dresses... I know people who do this and get divorced 6 months later!!!' I could hear her ranting and raving from the dressing room. The woman could not be less excited!!!! My father hasn't even aknowledged the engagement yet.... No card, no congratulations, no gift nothing.... He did manage to tell me he wants few people there from his side though.... No one in my family could care less!!!! If that doesn't make you want to elope, I don't know what does!!!
