Does my FH have to ask my sister's husband to be a groomsman?

Does my FH have to ask my sister's husband do be in his wedding party????? I know he would have to ask my brother but my brother-in-law??

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Your FH doesn't 'Have' to ask anyone. It's his decision on who he picks or who he chooses not to pick. There are no set rules. Sure it would be nice for him to ask your brother, but there's nothing written in stone saying he has to ask your BIL.

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My opinion...ask who you want. You shouldn't feel obligated to ask anyone.

One of my FSIL felt we needed to ask her husband and children...who we see once in a freakin' blue moon and do not even know our names...we said no, so she declined being in the wedding herself.

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Posted by LisaJill

Does my FH have to ask my sister's husband do be in his wedding party????? I know he would have to ask my brother but my brother-in-law??

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So weird ur asking this..I have a similar situation.
My sister is married obviously.
My FH is not close to him at all...so is it expected?
I dont think so.

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My sister is kind of insisting on it, but my FH and her husband are not close. I can see this being a family argument!

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I agree... you don't have to ask anyone. If you are close to him, then it is a nice gesture. Otherwise, do what you want.

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Nah, my sister is getting married right after me and I am sure that her fiance is not asking my FH who will be my husband by time they get married. He should ask who he feels he wants to.

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I have three brothers and only one is in the bridal party. I asked my middle brother but he didn't want too and I can't stand my oldest brother (i'm older than him.) He was never asked. No one is obilgated to pick anyone for their bridal party. I ask my FSIL because I like her. No other reason!

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he doesn't have to ask anyone if he doesn't want to. I'm only having 4 BM's. My 3 sisters and my best friend for the past 28 years. My FSIL's will be part of the bridal procession and will stand under the Chuppah, but I did not ask them to be BM's.

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No

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Only ask who you want to ask!

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no way!

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You can ask whoever you want.

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if i had all my BILs & SILs in the wedding, on top of our syblings, and closest friends, we wouldve needed a charter bus for the BP, and as gifts they all wouldve gotten a Hug.

you do whats within your means, and keep it to the people you are Close with. asking someone just for 'the sake of it' negates the sentiment attached to it anyway.

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He does not have to, but my FH did. My sister has been with my brother in law for 20 years, and married for 17.

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I wasn't even in my brother's wedding, because I didn't know the bride. (They live out-of-state) That made sense to me and I wasn't upset. Choose the people you want.

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Mine didn't and I honestly didn't even think of it until my Mom told me that my sister was insulted that he wasn't included in the wedding. They have a good relationship but are not overly close and my fh had friends from his childhood that he really wanted in his bridal party. I think it is totally up to you and fh. But don't let anyone pressure you.

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Your not obligated to ask anyone you don't want, even if they are family.

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Your wedding, ask who you want. It is ok for people to come as guests. If this person is someone FH wants up there with him, do it.

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No.... my FH's brother's wife is not in the BP. Neither is FH's sister for that matter. Its all about who you WANT to ask. Don't feel obligated to ask anyone.