Does your FH help???

Margarita Posted: Mar 27, 2009 07:32 PM

Does your FH help???

Okay so I'm just wondering how much help you girls are getting from FH??

Mine is completely useless. He keeps promising to help and does NOTHING!!!

How do I motivate him to do more???

KerriJohnS Posted: Mar 27, 2009 07:44 PM

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FH is involved by coming to every appt we have. I pick that places and book the apointments and he takes me there.
I like it that way too! His involvement is somewhat minimal... so that gives me free reign to do whatever I want!
He is interested in everything, even though he forgets all the details all the time!

Future Mrs H Posted: Mar 27, 2009 07:45 PM

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My FH is so totally into this wedding. He wants a say on everything except the flowers. I love that he is so involved!

Margarita Posted: Mar 27, 2009 07:49 PM

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Posted by KerriJohnS

FH is involved by coming to every appt we have. I pick that places and book the apointments and he takes me there.
I like it that way too! His involvement is somewhat minimal... so that gives me free reign to do whatever I want!
He is interested in everything, even though he forgets all the details all the time!

Mine comes to all the appointments too when I put them on his calendar. But I find it annoying that he has no desire to do any research. He is happy with whatever I pick. His only big concern is the quality of the steaks.

Lsorrent Posted: Mar 27, 2009 07:57 PM

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I tell FH where to be and when to be there He's come to all of the appointments with me, but I've made all he phone calls and done all the research. He helped in choosing the RH, church, band, and limos. Photo/video and flowers he had no say. He couldn't care less about colors, STD's, invites, etc.

SummerBride10 Posted: Mar 27, 2009 08:06 PM

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My FH is completely 100% into the wedding...sometimes more than me! If he really isn't into planning it might be hard to motivate him. Maybe try talking to him, and just letting him know you want him to have a say in his own wedding.

misswitty Posted: Mar 27, 2009 08:13 PM

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I just make all the appointments myself and come home and tell him when they are. It goes something like this:

Me: 'I found a DJ I'd like to make an appointment with. When are you free?'

FH: 'Whenever you want, you know my work schedule.'

Me: 'Well, how about Monday night at 7?' (appointment is already made unbenounced to him!)

FH: 'Okay.'

This way, he THINKS he's involved, but it's ALL ME!

M_and_J Posted: Mar 27, 2009 08:26 PM

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Posted by misswitty

I just make all the appointments myself and come home and tell him when they are. It goes something like this:

Me: 'I found a DJ I'd like to make an appointment with. When are you free?'

FH: 'Whenever you want, you know my work schedule.'

Me: 'Well, how about Monday night at 7?' (appointment is already made unbenounced to him!)

FH: 'Okay.'

This way, he THINKS he's involved, but it's ALL ME!

Thats sounds familiar!!

THe only thing FH really had his heart set on and was was 100% involved was the photographer/videographer

Nina1010 Posted: Mar 27, 2009 08:40 PM

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Posted by KerriJohnS

FH is involved by coming to every appt we have. I pick that places and book the apointments and he takes me there.
I like it that way too! His involvement is somewhat minimal... so that gives me free reign to do whatever I want!
He is interested in everything, even though he forgets all the details all the time!

Same here. My FH wants to be involved with everything, but forgets the details. I make the appts, we go together or I go with a friend to feel it out, and if I like it, it goes on the short list for us to see again or set up a tasting, etc. He is VERY opinionated and wants to be involved though. LOL. I appreciate it and it prevents me from going crazy.

Panamasweet Posted: Mar 27, 2009 09:46 PM

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He's only involved when it comes to the money. I make all of the calls and do all of the research. He offers to come to the appiontments with me but i'm convinced its only to check out the prices

RockysGirl Posted: Mar 27, 2009 09:52 PM

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my DH helped me out as much as he could while preparing for the wedding. We were in a long distance relationship, so he really couldn't do much being so far away. I had to meet with the halls, DJ, Photographer and all of that with my sisters instead. But he helped me out with the little stuff - like taking care of my garter and the other small things that I needed.

gina409 Posted: Mar 27, 2009 09:55 PM

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show him something really ugly...tell him u want this in the wedding..when he says no way..say well what do u want?

dazey Posted: Mar 27, 2009 09:58 PM

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fh came with me to most of the initial appointments, and he blocked the hotel rooms and the shuttle bus. everything else i did by myself or with my moh... as in man of honor.. who is my gbf aka thinks he's the wedding planner!

Novia09 Posted: Mar 27, 2009 10:13 PM

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My FH is involved in just about every aspect. I make no decisions without his input and if he has a better idea for something he will speak up.. I have no complaints.. He's trying so hard and I sooooooooooooo appreciate it.

disneefan Posted: Mar 27, 2009 10:13 PM

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My husband was totally involved with everything which was good, but there were somethings that I kind of wish he didn't. There were just certain things that I felt stroongly about but had to compromise because he had a say.

Jna2010 Posted: Mar 27, 2009 10:17 PM

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im in the same boat, i just accepted it at this point lol

valthom426 Posted: Mar 27, 2009 10:40 PM

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He doesn't really help but there are some decisions he insists on being made a part of, such as music, menu choices and choosing our officiant. I wish he'd help but then again it's just not who he is.

This week I'm grateful because we tooka ballroom dance lesson with John from BallroomdanceLI and it's done wonders for us. We actually practice!! But of course that was me again, doing the research, setting up the appt and dragging his butt to go dancing.

MikesBride2B Posted: Mar 27, 2009 10:54 PM

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Posted by disneefan

My husband was totally involved with everything which was good, but there were somethings that I kind of wish he didn't. There were just certain things that I felt stroongly about but had to compromise because he had a say.

This is my big worry...FH is totally involved but I seriously just want some things my way and dont' want to budge haha

nraboni Posted: Mar 27, 2009 11:02 PM

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My FH is only involved when I ask him to be and I like it that way...

We picked the RH together and that was about it. I'd ask him his opinion on something and he'd say that's fine with me...do what you want.

We are both not picky people so it works out. I honestly just can't wait for this wedding to be over so we can go on the honeymoon and go back to our normal lives

EmiNoa628 Posted: Mar 27, 2009 11:14 PM

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FH is not involved 100% .. He does have his opinions, which I do take into considerations..

I knew what type of wedding I wanted.. I love when he gives his opinions, we tend to get into heavy discussions.. His only response is' Who invented the wedding rules?? They should get sued!!!''