Dont Do Nada.. Just Meet me @ the Altar....

My FH is starting to piss me off... are they just suppose to meet us @ the altar and its all good???? i think i seriously need a planner.. NO ONE IS HELPING ME!!

i need to speak to him in regards to realistic budgeting, his guestlist, etc etc and he keeps dodgin me
i understand he started school, i understand he is stressed out but HELLO arent we all? you dont just put a ring on it and walk away... sorry but thats not what beyonce meant

he wants everything to be @ a certain spending level but you are not LISTENING TO THE NY PRICES... sometimes I wish we keep the destination wedding idea ....

but I know I want to be surrounded by all my loved ones...

Aw...I know how you feel. My DH wasnt much help during the wedding planning but I didnt care so much because my MOH helped with everything. DH gave me opinions of things but other than that, he got the easy way out. Wheres your bridal party?? No help from them?Parents??I called on everyone, even if it was just a few little things...they all add up.

Good luck!!!

I can help you if you want! !

I happen to be lucky ... my FH wants in on EVERY decision ... He has gone to every appointment with me ....

So, if you need any help I am up for it! My fave thing is negotiating (and I'm pretty darn good at it!)

So FM me if you need anything!

My FH doesn't really help either, he says I can do whatever I want, he'll just show up! On one hand it's kind of nice having all this freedom to make all the decisions, but on the other hand I'm so indecisive it would be nice to have HIS input!

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Posted by Lovely34571

My FH is starting to piss me off... are they just suppose to meet us @ the altar and its all good???? i think i seriously need a planner.. NO ONE IS HELPING ME!!

i need to speak to him in regards to realistic budgeting, his guestlist, etc etc and he keeps dodgin me
i understand he started school, i understand he is stressed out but HELLO arent we all? you dont just put a ring on it and walk away... sorry but thats not what beyonce meant

he wants everything to be @ a certain spending level but you are not LISTENING TO THE NY PRICES... sometimes I wish we keep the destination wedding idea ....

but I know I want to be surrounded by all my loved ones...

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OMG ...I feel like that sometimes...thats why I hired help. I feel like we should have just had our destination wedding.

My FH has not helped me at all and getting him to do things we have to do together or things he has to do like get his best man his suit he hasn't done. Men are just not that interested in wedding planning

:( i think i may run off to an island ... i simply cant deal

i delegated tasks to my 6 BMs a few mins ago but my FH and I thought we would have a wedding of 60-75 .. then my parents hands us a list of 120 people..
and we are paying for the wedding ourselves

:(

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Posted by GRod2Be

My FH has not helped me at all and getting him to do things we have to do together or things he has to do like get his best man his suit he hasn't done. Men are just not that interested in wedding planning

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Cosign.....

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Posted by bridezilla2b

I can help you if you want! !

I happen to be lucky ... my FH wants in on EVERY decision ... He has gone to every appointment with me ....

So, if you need any help I am up for it! My fave thing is negotiating (and I'm pretty darn good at it!)

So FM me if you need anything!

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thanks girl :)

i just delegating that to the girls a few min ago.. ill let you no how that goes... yes he goes to appt but we walk out emptyhanded....lol

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Posted by Tara Sullivan

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???? not sure what that means T.S?

Don't worry it will all work out. We were going to do a destination wedding b/c of all the drama from FH family but our travel agent and any hotel i emailed never got back to me with info. We started to look around here and we realized we didn't have any problems with the vendors we did meet with and all of our family and friends are here. We are also too TYPE A to go down to an island and wing it. It all worked out though b/c we are going to all vendor appts together and making our own decisions. Its actually nice to make sure we have what is important to us. His family still makes a bid deal about what we want and my sister has been helping a lot. I kinda just give my BM info as needed but we still have a lot of details to figure out.

Don't worry, I'm sure as soon as thing settle down he will be more interested. I just started school too so it does get very overwhelming. After all the family fights FH actually mentioned using a DOC (which i secretly wanted anyway but didn't think we would use) and it looks like we are going to so we don't get annoyed the day of w/ family hovering around us. Maybe look into that.... Good Luck but you can always email me since we have the same RH. Good Luck and hang in there!!!

I totally know how you feel. MY FH isn't very helpful either. He's come with me to view the venues but that's about it. As far as the actual planning it's MOH and me. Crazy! I already told him he needs to contribute more or else I'm gonna turn into a Bridezilla on his arse!!! LOL. But seriously, I don't think some of the FHs realize how much work and planning goes into all of this. They seem to think we're just having a ball doing all the planning, budgeting, etc. ourselves. SUX

I guess you always want what you don't have!

FH is super involved and wants to be a part of every decision. Most of the time this is great... like for the big things... but even the little things he wants to be a part of. It can get so annoying.. esp. when I get something in my head and he says ' ummmm I don't love it.... what else do you have!' UUghhhh

Good luck. I have been to a bunch of destination weddings and they were great. the brides really loved picking out the location and flowers two days before from a book-- no big decisions and everythign was great

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Posted by Melvin1297

Don't worry it will all work out. We were going to do a destination wedding b/c of all the drama from FH family but our travel agent and any hotel i emailed never got back to me with info. We started to look around here and we realized we didn't have any problems with the vendors we did meet with and all of our family and friends are here. We are also too TYPE A to go down to an island and wing it. It all worked out though b/c we are going to all vendor appts together and making our own decisions. Its actually nice to make sure we have what is important to us. His family still makes a bid deal about what we want and my sister has been helping a lot. I kinda just give my BM info as needed but we still have a lot of details to figure out.

Don't worry, I'm sure as soon as thing settle down he will be more interested. I just started school too so it does get very overwhelming. After all the family fights FH actually mentioned using a DOC (which i secretly wanted anyway but didn't think we would use) and it looks like we are going to so we don't get annoyed the day of w/ family hovering around us. Maybe look into that.... Good Luck but you can always email me since we have the same RH. Good Luck and hang in there!!!

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TOTALLY AGREE!! Type A alll the way.. which is why we didnt go witth it.. no email responses. the prices changed every 2 mins.. its was crazy.. im such a control freakk

today was soo much better - we talked and i hope to see improvement :)