Dont Do Nada.. Just Meet me @ the Altar....

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Posted by angelatp

Girl I hear ya, same here. Have a talk with him, maybe it'll help.

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Thank Angel :)

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Posted by LatinaB2B

I totally know how you feel. MY FH isn't very helpful either. He's come with me to view the venues but that's about it. As far as the actual planning it's MOH and me. Crazy! I already told him he needs to contribute more or else I'm gonna turn into a Bridezilla on his arse!!! LOL. But seriously, I don't think some of the FHs realize how much work and planning goes into all of this. They seem to think we're just having a ball doing all the planning, budgeting, etc. ourselves. SUX

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Girl you are soo right... i guess im not the only one .. :) i thought i was being extra annoying (( i probably am ... but hey!! )) LOL

I see you're wedding isn't till 2011. Do you think that has something to do with it?

I'm a 2011 bride also. My FH isn't so interested either...but I'm guessing 6 months before the date (and when the real money starts getting dished out) he'll be a lot more concerned.

FH and I just had a big fight about this Friday night.

Believe me.. i know the feeling.

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Posted by pjankowski

I guess you always want what you don't have!

FH is super involved and wants to be a part of every decision. Most of the time this is great... like for the big things... but even the little things he wants to be a part of. It can get so annoying.. esp. when I get something in my head and he says ' ummmm I don't love it.... what else do you have!' UUghhhh

Good luck. I have been to a bunch of destination weddings and they were great. the brides really loved picking out the location and flowers two days before from a book-- no big decisions and everythign was great

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Ugh! I totally agree! I wish my FI didn't care so much!

We're getting married THIS Friday and we STILL argue about this!

Be realistic, what can he get excited about? Is it music, limos, the style of tux? Maybe that's it and it's all he's willing to do. There's LOTS he can and will help with at the end- shuttling to and from the airport, bringing things to the reception hall...

I know you're frustrated, hang in there...all of you girls.

Men can be pretty useless sometimes. BUT, we love them. Just know that THEY WILL appreciate everything at the end and you will have had the greatest day of your life!

Breathe and vent on this site as much as you want

...had the same issue. Try to give ultimatums...it worked for me

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Posted by MrsSM09

...had the same issue. Try to give ultimatums...it worked for me

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Done! we worked it all out :)

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Posted by MrsCastanedain09

We're getting married THIS Friday and we STILL argue about this!

Be realistic, what can he get excited about? Is it music, limos, the style of tux? Maybe that's it and it's all he's willing to do. There's LOTS he can and will help with at the end- shuttling to and from the airport, bringing things to the reception hall...

I know you're frustrated, hang in there...all of you girls.

Men can be pretty useless sometimes. BUT, we love them. Just know that THEY WILL appreciate everything at the end and you will have had the greatest day of your life!

Breathe and vent on this site as much as you want

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Well said MrsCastanedain09 :) totally agree

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Posted by Lovely34571

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Posted by MrsCastanedain09

We're getting married THIS Friday and we STILL argue about this!

Be realistic, what can he get excited about? Is it music, limos, the style of tux? Maybe that's it and it's all he's willing to do. There's LOTS he can and will help with at the end- shuttling to and from the airport, bringing things to the reception hall...

I know you're frustrated, hang in there...all of you girls.

Men can be pretty useless sometimes. BUT, we love them. Just know that THEY WILL appreciate everything at the end and you will have had the greatest day of your life!

Breathe and vent on this site as much as you want

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Well said MrsCastanedain09 :) totally agree

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ITA! Try finding a few things that FH can really sink his teeth into and let him run with it. FH was all about the DJ and will probably be handling the menu/cake and definitely the tuxes. While it's a fraction of the wedding planning to be handled, I was glad for him to take it off my hands. Definitely try talking to your parents, BP, even FMIL. I'm sure she'd be excited to be included!

haha you cracked me up with the 'put a ring on it and walk away'

When we first booked the wedding my fiance was the same way. I told him 'I'm canceling the wedding because you're an idiot' which I didn't mean but at least I got his attention. He's been nothing but supportive since that and even helps make phone calls and appointments for vendors.

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Posted by Lovely34571

:( i think i may run off to an island ... i simply cant deal

i delegated tasks to my 6 BMs a few mins ago but my FH and I thought we would have a wedding of 60-75 .. then my parents hands us a list of 120 people..
and we are paying for the wedding ourselves

:(

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I would definitely talk to your parents. You need to set a limit of people that is realistic to your budget. Then you have to explain to the parents that they can only invite X number of extra people. If they really want people over that much then they should help out with the cost of that person.

As for FH, talk to him about your concerns but don´t push the subject. Guys have short attention spans. FH and I choose a certain amount of time that we will spend talking about the wedding details and try to stick to that. Even if it´s only half an hour.

What I do is gather all the info online and narrow it down to the best x number of vendors (usually about 4-6 but it depends). Then we sit down for the amount of time we have already established. (we decide with advance notice when it will be and treat it like an appt but i try to be flexible if he´s had a hard day or something.) I then show him the options and we narrow it down to two or three that we will personally meet with when we are in NY.

That´s what has worked for us.

you ladies rock!!
im glad im on LIW and im glad im not alone :)
i know our weddings are going to be FAB... and they will appreciate it :)