don't know what to do UPDATE AGAIN

Long story short, FH and I have been at each other's throats for a few weeks now and it all started because I didn't invite his mom to write #'s on the invites and put the stamps on when she paid for the invites. Well last night he came home and said that he had been talking to his dad and BM about how he was feeling and said that he didn't think we should get married. I was taking back a little but was more angry because he could have told me this before I sent out the invites on Saturday, that he was feeling this way. Anyway I knew that his whole family would know this morning since I watch his nieces and he said that his dad wouldn't tell anyone sure enough his sister was acting weird this morning and then I get a call from his mother to bring the kids over and so we can talk. I don't know what to do of course she is going to back her son on this and what can I really say, so far on the phone I can already tell that I am going to be the reason why FH is not feeling good and is so stressed because of the things I say, so why even bother having an opinion when it will not be acceptable? I asked FH what I could have possibly said that he told his mother and he doesn't remember. Sorry for the long vent I just feel like I am walking into the lion's den and the outcome is going to be to cancel the wedding.

Oh and FH and family are always right according to him so I really don't want to arguing about anything when in the end I will be wrong and it will all be my fault

Thanks to whoever read this whole thing



Thanks to all of you some thoughts made me cry and some made me laugh which I really needed. I went to FMIL's house because I knew if I didn't this fight would have gotten bigger, but it really did nothing, because this is between me and FH so I had nothing to say to her. She kept saying how sick she was about this how she can't sleep and has no tears left to cry, well what about ME it's mine and FH's wedding you don't think we are upset more then you??? All she said is this is between you and my son which I knew and that if we do make this work she is going to be nervous for us??? FH is coming home soon and we are going to talk but does it really matter he got his family involved when he should have came to me so I feel like it is the 5 of them against me, and whoever said FH is being a baby you are so right!! This is why I never go running to my mom because she would hold it against him, it's the one thing I thought he listened to at Pre-Cana never tell your parents about your fight because when you do make up they still hold it against the other person. So update is nothing was accomplished yet, oh and did I mention that I have a job interview tonight too


I just want to thank all of you girls your advise and kind words really helped me get through this rough patch. FH and I actually talked and listened to each other and everything is resolved, we do have a lot to work on but together we will make it. I stressed the point that he has to grow up and talk to me when he is upset about things instead of running to his family because now this fight will always be looked at by them as their son was unsure if he wanted to get married. Once again girls you really are the best thank you sooo much for everything.