Don't know where to turn NWR

I have been working so hard trying to be the perfect 'wife' and I think I am going to have a nervous break down. I work two jobs all year round I don't take breaks because someone always needs me to do something whether work or other wise. When I get home its the same thing. Don't get me wrong I don't mind cooking 4 nights in a row and having to the clean the house tonight after I get off my eight hour shift. BUT I AM EXHAUSTED !!! And the wedding planning is getting to me life is getting to me in general and I just can't take it. I am always tired and can't seem to sleep because there is so much on my mind whether its the wedding or other stuff. I just can't take it. FH helps but not as much as I would like him to. He says he doesn't need to and that he could help less. So I have to stop bugging him. On top of that I think one of his co - workers/ friends likes him because a few times when I have come home from work they are at my house playing video games which I can't stand. And the girl think I don't like her because I had gone inot the bedroom to watch whatever I wanted to watch and because I don't like video games at all because I can't play them for my life. FH and I went out to a comedy club thing last night I found all this out. I just wanted to enjoy my night because I was actually awake for it..LOL. I had invited one friend of ours because she had to work and I did not invite this friend of this because I wanted a damn date night. He got all upset with me and he told me that if i am not nice to his friends then the wedding will be off. Which is mean and nasty of his considering I have paid for 95 percent of the wedding stuff.

Sorry for the long post I am just too damn tired to care at this point what happens with the wedding and I just really wish someone just give me a break so I can get some sleep. I have been holding this stuff in for a while and I am just so upset and scared that I don't want the wedding to end because I do love FH and I do want to marry him I just wish he put his friends on a lower pedistal. Because that is way I feel right now. I feel like no one puts me on a pedistal. And to have a day off to just do nothing and sleep.





Sorry for the long VENT post and what not.

You definitely need to take a day off and say F the world and the $ and get some sleep!! You also need to take that day and spend some QT with FH. He needs to hear how you are feeling and step up. At this point you are so pulled to the max that any little thing is going to get you upset and its going to make your relationship suffer and you clearly don't want that.


Take a break, even for a day!! You deserve it!!!

Hope things start to look up!

First off hugs........

I think you have to talk to your FH. You have to remember back when the woman did everything in the house women also did not work. I think you and FH have to split the cleaning and cooking. You are both working and it is unfair to expect you to do everything.

I would also talk to him about the issues you are having with his friends. If you don't it will only get worse.

We are here for you if you need anything or to vent again.

I am so sorry that you are dealing with this. It is good to vent..we all need that sometimes, thats what we are here for :)

I have to say, you must talk to FH. We are not in the times anymore where you should be expected to do all the cleaning and cooking...you should be spliting most of it especially since you are working 2 jobs.

We are moving in in a few months together and everyone always tells me, split it from the beginining and before marriage, or you will never split it. Some wize words to stick by.

as for his friends..i have the same issues with FH friends..but he has to know that he has to put you before them or very close to them. After talking to FH about that, he tires to have one night for them and one night for me (date night) he works 2 jobs and i work and have side jobs on top of school..so we all know how crazy life can be..worse comes to worse..we have one big night of his friends and mine!

Girl..im so sorry you are going through this..feel free to write me if you need to vent more!!

HUG!

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Posted by mara1017

First off hugs........

I think you have to talk to your FH. You have to remember back when the woman did everything in the house women also did not work. I think you and FH have to split the cleaning and cooking. You are both working and it is unfair to expect you to do everything.

I would also talk to him about the issues you are having with his friends. If you don't it will only get worse.

We are here for you if you need anything or to vent again.

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Exactly this....but I would probably be a little bit more aggressive to talk about the friends thing because that is something that can def blow up and get worse...take a deep breathe and realize that everything will be OK!

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Posted by mara1017

First off hugs........

I think you have to talk to your FH. You have to remember back when the woman did everything in the house women also did not work. I think you and FH have to split the cleaning and cooking. You are both working and it is unfair to expect you to do everything.

I would also talk to him about the issues you are having with his friends. If you don't it will only get worse.

We are here for you if you need anything or to vent again.

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I completely agree with Mara. I'm so sorry you're going through this.

Anytime FH starts slacking I tell him I'd be more than happy to be barefoot in the kitchen all day, and have dinner ready at 6pm if I can quit my job lol. You definitely need to be upfront and honest with him.

Hugsss!

I agree with the girls . you need to talk about it now. It will not get better (but WILL get worse) unless you do.


FH and I have had lots of difficult convos over the last year and a half .. but I can honestly say it has helped us be where we are in very good place in our relationship right now. Communication is a HUGE ... and he may not even realize how you are feeling until you spell it out for him.

Cool thanks girls I really needed that. I do have to clearify one thing He does help just not in the ways that I would like. Like he does laundry and does cook on his nights off or when he gets home early but I just feel like I have been cleaning for a month straight and I did just start camp for the summer and working a ton of hours at my second job. I am just cranky and tired and I really needed to vent so bad. We do spilt the money stuff which is good I just wish he would be more supportive in splitting the responsibilities more evenly.

Thanks Girls and hopefully soon I will either be on vacation or get some sleep.

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Posted by pixietina

I am so sorry that you feel this way. I agree with the other girls. You two need to sit down and talk about your feelings. Never keep anything in because it will eat away at you and can hurt your relationship.

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I definitly agree with this. I think talking it out is always the answer.