Don't mean to be tacky but...

Byrne2Be Posted: Nov 29, 2010 04:45 PM

Don't mean to be tacky but...

gift OR cash for a wedding present?!

DH and I were shocked by the # of gifts we received for our wedding! I guess bc we always just write out checks.

I mean don't get me wrong...a 30 lb Tiffanys crystal bowl is cool but 500 bones would have been much cooler!

Thoughts?

FutureMrsCat050412 Posted: Nov 29, 2010 04:47 PM

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I would never give a gift, only money......but i guess thats just me

AwaitingAugust Posted: Nov 29, 2010 04:48 PM

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New Yorkers usually give cash ... but OOT-ers often give gifts.

did you have many OOT people?

Byrne2Be Posted: Nov 29, 2010 04:49 PM

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ME TOO. And by cash I obvi mean checks too duh.

Don't get me wrong, the gifts we got weren't skimpy...we ended up with our complete china and crystal placesettings...but I was just shocked by how many gifts we got!

kris_gets_hitched Posted: Nov 29, 2010 04:54 PM

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I always give cash/checks.

We got mostly monetary gifts, but we did get some physical gifts as well, which we loved. Some people prefer to give something that the couple will use and remember as a gift from so-and-so at their wedding. Someone I work with knows I love to cook. She gave me our entire pot and pan set and an enormous cookbook that I had wanted forever and know I will have and use for the rest of my life.

And if you register somewhere, it's pretty much saying 'hey, we also like (this stuff) from (this store) and would love this as a gift!'

christine12 Posted: Nov 29, 2010 04:56 PM

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Posted by AwaitingAugust

New Yorkers usually give cash ... but OOT-ers often give gifts.

did you have many OOT people?

This is very true! My friend's son got married and his bride's family were all from OOT and they all gave gifts. NYer's usually give cash!

halfbaked Posted: Nov 29, 2010 04:58 PM

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We got a total of ONE gift on our wedding day. Gimme the cash money!!

Chanwich Posted: Nov 29, 2010 05:04 PM

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We ALWAYS give cash, but FH already warned me that his fam will probably give gifts (they are all from upstate and thats what they do there i guess!)

KristynLeigh Posted: Nov 29, 2010 05:12 PM

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Show me the money!

It's all I ever give!

Bride in 2012 Posted: Nov 29, 2010 05:15 PM

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Gifts for Engagement Party

Cash for Wedding

SummerBride10 Posted: Nov 29, 2010 05:30 PM

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We got mostly cash with a few gifts.

MrsG2011 Posted: Nov 29, 2010 05:31 PM

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Dolla Dolla Bills!!!!!!!

MrsC2010 Posted: Nov 29, 2010 05:37 PM

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we mostly got cash but did get a handful of gifts

i always give cash for weddings

FutureMrsPanuch Posted: Nov 29, 2010 06:09 PM

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Its all about the Benjamins baby!!!!

We always give cash at weddings... FH wont even write a check

FutureWifey Posted: Nov 29, 2010 07:27 PM

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Gifts - Engagement Party, Bridal Shower
Money - Wedding Day

IrishAli Posted: Nov 29, 2010 07:39 PM

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NY area people usually give cash (or checks!) but outside of that, it is often considered rude to give a gift of cash. Since FH's family is from Maryland, Iowa, and Louisiana, we purposefully registered for few physical items and made a large Honeymoon Registry hoping that they will choose a 'gift' from that

Positanochick Posted: Nov 29, 2010 07:41 PM

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Posted by FutureWifey

Gifts - Engagement Party, Bridal Shower
Money - Wedding Day

ditto

MongieToBe Posted: Nov 29, 2010 07:56 PM

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We didn't get ANY gifts....all cash/checks

I always give cash/checks, never a gift for the wedding.

FutureMcBride Posted: Nov 29, 2010 08:08 PM

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I can't believe that people give gifts to weddings!!! I only will give money. I feel like gifts are what engagement parties and showers are for!

miamimerger Posted: Nov 29, 2010 08:38 PM

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Did you have a lot of OOT guests? My friends and DH's friends from different states all gave us gifts, whereas family and friends from NY gave us cash. It shocked me too!