Drama

Pretty_In_Pink Posted: Nov 18, 2011 07:10 PM

Drama

So one of my close friends started drama with me three days ago. I was MOH in her wedding in 06/2011. I told her from then on, my sister will be my MOH. I told her i needed someone that can deal with my attitudes and my demanding ways when the stress begins to get too much for me. I know she didn't like my answer,but im honest, but she still put me as her MOH. Recently i told her that I wasn't sure of the order of the BP, all i know is that my sister is #1. She sent me a text the next day saying how she was hurt that I didn't even know the order she would be and etc. When I told her the order of the BP, it was my sister, then my longest childhood friend then her. She got soooo upset,. She texted me saying ' Now i know were we stand in each others lives' Now the reason she is #3 is because i have two MOH. my sister and my child hood friend that lives 2 mins away from me. We both are very close, and I know when I need her she will be there. My other friends lives in Yonkers, and hardly visits Long island.
I think i am very much hurt by this whole thing because I genuinely wanted to be there for her in her wedding. I didn't care what title I was. She is sooo hung up on titles, she hasn't even texted me in days. That same day(the text drama happen) I told her, that one of my childhood friends that lives in brooklyn. I didn't even put her in the wedding because she has triplets and is very busy. BUt b/c she isn't in the BP, thats doesn't mean i love her any less, its just right now she is busy and she can not fulfill BM duties.
It really saddens me how selfish she is acting, I wouldn't never wanna miss out on these big milestones in my friends lives.
What should I do??????

b2b2013 Posted: Nov 18, 2011 07:37 PM

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Don't stress yourself out!! There are always gonna be the dramatic people who want to be annoying. Just remember that it is YOUR wedding; if your friend is that uptight about it then I wouldn't have her in it at all (totally my opinion). I had a friend who I knew would react like this, so I purposely didn't add her; it saves me a headache in the end. So sorry you're going through all of this!!

KristyANDMatt224 Posted: Nov 18, 2011 10:21 PM

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I'm sorry that you are going through this. Follow your heart and gut for your wedding- you don't need to validate your plans to anyone. It's funny how weddings tend to bring this side of people out. Let her sort through her thoughts herself. You cant make yourself upset trying to please everyone

Pretty_In_Pink Posted: Nov 18, 2011 11:36 PM

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I will try my hardest to let all that drama go. It just really hurt a. I haven't spoken to her yet. I need to talk to her and say my peace. So I can put this whole issues to rest.

jassy119 Posted: Nov 19, 2011 12:52 PM

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You definitely need to have a talk with her. If she is so hung up on titles and 'You were my MOH so I HAVE to be YOURS or walk 2nd blah blah' and causing drama for you already, then its a red flag in my book. You don't want to have to deal with that kind of drama from now up until your wedding day. You want ppl by your side who are truly happy for you and don't care about titles and are just happy and honored you chose them to be by your side on such an important day. If you girls can't work it out, or she continues to act in such a way then I'd drop her from the BP all together! Good luck.. hope it all works out for you both.

KroertGS Posted: Nov 19, 2011 01:34 PM

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If she knows that you are close with your sister, does she really expect you to choose her as your MOH instead of your sister???? I can't even justify her jealousy....

4Everhisgirl Posted: Nov 19, 2011 02:40 PM

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Sorry you have to go through this....but don't stress over it! She'll either get over it or won't...you can't control that...just remember that it's your day and you're not going to let little things like this upset you!

Pretty_In_Pink Posted: Nov 19, 2011 06:37 PM

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Spoke to my friend on the phone, there was alot of miscommunication. She said she was hurt that I didn't know the ' order of my BP' and since we were so close I should have known were she stands...........She said she never got my last text where I said she will be the third person.....But idk

SummerBeauty Posted: Nov 19, 2011 07:15 PM

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Posted by Pretty_In_Pink

Spoke to my friend on the phone, there was alot of miscommunication. She said she was hurt that I didn't know the ' order of my BP' and since we were so close I should have known were she stands...........She said she never got my last text where I said she will be the third person.....But idk

Doesnt really matter--she should feel thankful to be standing by your side on your big day..who cares if it is first or last?

jassy119 Posted: Nov 19, 2011 08:51 PM

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Posted by SummerBeauty

Posted by Pretty_In_Pink

Spoke to my friend on the phone, there was alot of miscommunication. She said she was hurt that I didn't know the ' order of my BP' and since we were so close I should have known were she stands...........She said she never got my last text where I said she will be the third person.....But idk

Doesnt really matter--she should feel thankful to be standing by your side on your big day..who cares if it is first or last?

Exactly!!

LilinBobby Posted: Nov 20, 2011 12:03 AM

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Posted by 4Everhisgirl

Sorry you have to go through this....but don't stress over it! She'll either get over it or won't...you can't control that...just remember that it's your day and you're not going to let little things like this upset you!

I so agree with this...don't let anyone ruin your special day or they truly aren't your friends...