Dress Etiquette??

Dress Etiquette??

Is there a Dress etiquette?? My FMIL is soooo mad right now at my fh's grandmother because she went out and bought a dress already. My FMIL is mad because she got the dress before my fmil got hers, and grandma also bought the same color as my BM's. She was afraid to tell me thinking I would be mad and upset, but was complaining to my FH all night.
Should I really care?? I told my FH that unless Grandma is wearing a strapless dress that looks like my girls' dresses, I really don't care.
But, after this whole story, is there an etiqutte for who buys the dress first?? I was once told that the mother of the Bride should buy first, then the mother of the groom.

Who thinks up these things anyway???

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I think technically the brides mother gets her dress first, than the grooms mother.

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That's what I was told - MOB buys first, then MOG buys and they should clash. I don't think the Gma's colors matter too much.

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My mom got her dress first but thats only because I cant get FMIL out of the house to go shopping. She says to me 'Don't worry, I'll find something'. Im like 'thats great but I'd like to be there'. Darn, why is she so stubborn?!

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JMO: as long as it doesn't bother you then it shouldn't be a big deal

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lol.. my fmil bought her dress b4 my bm's or my mother.. I was soo mad.. I still don't like her because of it.

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I believe that the etiquette book says that the mother of the bride choses her dress first and then the mother of the groom can choose.

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The MOB is supposed to get her dress first, the reason being that usually in the past the MOB and her spouse were the ones expected to pay for the enitre affair and in that case should have first choice at color and style. The MOG is then supposed to get a dress that is not the same color or style as the MOB. I know my FMIL won't even think about shopping until my mother has bought a dress and my mother won't go shopping until she loses weight!!

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Yes! the MOB should get her dress first.

Everyone knows that - it just depends on how selfish they are... take my FH's mom -completely disregarded tradition and got her dress first.

after all, it is her day, right?

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I don't know my FMIL asked me did my mom get her dress yet because she wanted to know what color to get because she said they should be matching and wearing the same color dress. I never heard of that either is that another old tradition or something?

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Thanks ladies,
I really wasn't sure, and to be honest, I can really care less who gets their dress first, as long as its not a white wedding dress
My FMIL was the one who was upset with Grandma, apparently, FMIL feels that my mom should be first and her 2nd,
Oh well, as long as they don't come complaining to me, I have enough to worry about
Thanks for listening.

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I think in this day and age, anything goes. If it makes you feel any better, my mother is on dress #8, with every dress she swears 'Its the one!!' So if my FH mother had to get hers after my mother, she may have to wait until the day before the wedding at the rate my mother is going!!!

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