dumb question - Reception - sorry so long

Ok ladies - i know this is like asking 'how long is a piece of string' but I'm getting ready to start calling some reception halls in LI. I know you must've ALL posted a million times on where you've booked - but i'm lost in a see of villas, chateaus, and clubs! here's the thing - my FH and I are trying to see how BIG the difference in price is going to be between getting married in my home town (Rochester, NY) and getting married here. we both pretty much have our hearts set on here - but we need to see how big the gap between the two is price wise. We're headed home, to see the family and friends, in a couple of weeks and i'm trying to schedule some of the nicer places there - that said i want to get some appointments done here.

Can you recommend maybe 3 key places I should check out on LI that fall in the 'average' range of pricing and have good quality services and staff??

Thanks so much for your help! It's only been a week and i'm nauseous at having to make this decision. its two TOTALLY different weddings!