Edited for KARMA!! Girls with more than just wedding planning....

EDITED!!!:
So, 1. Thank you girls.
2. Those of you who know the situation I am going through with the clothes of my grandfathers literally being held captive by my evil aunt.... all I can say is KARMA IS A B*TCH!

Heres the most amazing thing ever that happened to me...

I found out today from the B*tch that she THREW OUT MY GRANDFATHERS CLOTHES!! After all the fussing about how she wanted them, and wouldnt give them to me or my mother, she THREW THEM OUT. I guess since I gave up and it wasnt holding much value to her now, she didnt need htem.
So, at first, i cried. Well, i broke down actually. I belonged in an insane ward. I couldnt believe that the one thing left of his (he was a man of little needs) was now gone.

The phone rings two hours ago and it's my grandmother... saying i have to come over she has to give something to me....

When I open the door she has a huge grin. She holds my hand and places something in it and says 'This is for you. Something for you to have always of grandpa with you. You were his pupa. His little doll jenny. And when i just find this inside, i know who it has to go to'

I open my hands and in it, is a gold cross. My grandfathers FIRST gold cross. From his childhood. The one he met my grandmother wearing and the one he wore when he married her.

And, now... i feel this HUGE weight has been lifted off my shoulders and I can deal with the family situations now. Because I finally have something of his. And it will be part of my wedding day, no matter what....

-flying high fazz haha

My mother and I have a blowout at least once a month. It adds an element of stress in my life that I've NEVER been without. I also stress out about work A LOT. I'm such a worrier as it is, and when things go badly at work that really intensifies the way that I worry about things. Under normal circumstances, I find a good workout to be very relaxing and uplifting. It really lifts my spirits and eases the stress, if only for a little while. I also find that quality time with FH, the person who loves me unconditionally, really lifts me up from the bullsh*t in my life. A girls' night out every now and then doesn't hurt either. I don't know if any of that helps... but it's just my way of coping.

ps- to add to the fact that i got a backbone, i want to let you in on a little story

some people are completely against fhand I not getting married in the church first. Saying we will be on a straight road to hell and all those who attend have to denounce themselves as catholics...

so, i finally had it, and after a family member (who by the way had a baby before getting married in the catholic church...) mentioned the he-double hockey sticks to me...

I sent her a picture of bright red shoes. I told her that since Im on my way to hell I may as well wear the color walking down the aisle...

would I have ever done this before liweddings?
NEVER
so thank you girls for helping support this backbone trip im on!

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Posted by MrsFazz2B

ps- to add to the fact that i got a backbone, i want to let you in on a little story

some people are completely against fhand I not getting married in the church first. Saying we will be on a straight road to hell and all those who attend have to denounce themselves as catholics...

so, i finally had it, and after a family member (who by the way had a baby before getting married in the catholic church...) mentioned the he-double hockey sticks to me...

I sent her a picture of bright red shoes. I told her that since Im on my way to hell I may as well wear the color walking down the aisle...

would I have ever done this before liweddings?
NEVER
so thank you girls for helping support this backbone trip im on!

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OH you go girl!!!!!!! good for you. i'm sorry you have to deal with such retarded crap, but i love that you're really standing up for yourself and not letting anyone get you down on doing your own thing!!

Don't feel bad we all have our crosses to bear between trying to plan a magical wedding and also having to deal with family drama. You just have to say the H@#* with them and let me be happy. And everything else will run smoothly. 'Don't Worry be Happy!!!!!'

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Posted by Future Pepper

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Posted by MrsFazz2B

ps- to add to the fact that i got a backbone, i want to let you in on a little story

some people are completely against fhand I not getting married in the church first. Saying we will be on a straight road to hell and all those who attend have to denounce themselves as catholics...

so, i finally had it, and after a family member (who by the way had a baby before getting married in the catholic church...) mentioned the he-double hockey sticks to me...

I sent her a picture of bright red shoes. I told her that since Im on my way to hell I may as well wear the color walking down the aisle...

would I have ever done this before liweddings?
NEVER
so thank you girls for helping support this backbone trip im on!

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OH you go girl!!!!!!! good for you. i'm sorry you have to deal with such retarded crap, but i love that you're really standing up for yourself and not letting anyone get you down on doing your own thing!!

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I LOVE it! Good for you! I also agree with the bride with the nice suggestions such as working out, spending time with FH, and having time with the girls. Do something for yourself also like take time to read a book you want to read, do your nails, take a bubble bath. I need to follow my own advice by the way!

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Posted by Future Pepper

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Posted by MrsFazz2B

ps- to add to the fact that i got a backbone, i want to let you in on a little story

some people are completely against fhand I not getting married in the church first. Saying we will be on a straight road to hell and all those who attend have to denounce themselves as catholics...

so, i finally had it, and after a family member (who by the way had a baby before getting married in the catholic church...) mentioned the he-double hockey sticks to me...

I sent her a picture of bright red shoes. I told her that since Im on my way to hell I may as well wear the color walking down the aisle...

would I have ever done this before liweddings?
NEVER
so thank you girls for helping support this backbone trip im on!

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OH you go girl!!!!!!! good for you. i'm sorry you have to deal with such retarded crap, but i love that you're really standing up for yourself and not letting anyone get you down on doing your own thing!!

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I agree... and also wanted to remind you that other people shouldn't take the joy of planning a wedding away from you.. It is your day and nobody should get in the way of your happiness... so keep standing your ground

I have the same problem with 1/2 of FH's family. It's your wedding and if you don't want to get married in a church that's completely your decision. It's your wedding! It's a happy time so don't let anyone bring you down.

I just ignore the situation really because it doesn't have any emotional impact on me (never met most of them) or FH (he's not that close to that 1/2 of his family). Sure I may be under my 200 person minimum with 40-50 people not going to the wedding, but I have plenty of liwedding volunteers to fill some seats and actually have a good time!

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Posted by MrsFazz2B

ps- to add to the fact that i got a backbone, i want to let you in on a little story

some people are completely against fhand I not getting married in the church first. Saying we will be on a straight road to hell and all those who attend have to denounce themselves as catholics...

so, i finally had it, and after a family member (who by the way had a baby before getting married in the catholic church...) mentioned the he-double hockey sticks to me...

I sent her a picture of bright red shoes. I told her that since Im on my way to hell I may as well wear the color walking down the aisle...

would I have ever done this before liweddings?
NEVER
so thank you girls for helping support this backbone trip im on!

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lexapro!!! ive been on it for like 3 weeks and its starting to help. i also see a therapist (since ive been 16) and i go for weekly manicures.

i hope you can find ways to reduce your stress, you can always talk to me if you want

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Posted by MrsFazz2B

ps- to add to the fact that i got a backbone, i want to let you in on a little story

some people are completely against fhand I not getting married in the church first. Saying we will be on a straight road to hell and all those who attend have to denounce themselves as catholics...

so, i finally had it, and after a family member (who by the way had a baby before getting married in the catholic church...) mentioned the he-double hockey sticks to me...

I sent her a picture of bright red shoes. I told her that since Im on my way to hell I may as well wear the color walking down the aisle...

would I have ever done this before liweddings?
NEVER
so thank you girls for helping support this backbone trip im on!

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You got that right ! Amen sister.. if we are going to hell..let's walk there in STYLE!!

Keep that backbone... it suits you

Aww Jenny, sorry all of this is happening to you! Aside from not knowing if one particular bridesmaid is speaking to me or not, I can't complain about anything wedding related.

Those who are jealous will alwaysbe that and just that. Hold your head up high and do what YOU want to do!

I don't have anything but

Keep that backbone strong!

I am sorry you're going through this

I guess I am just a 'glass is half-full' person that I ALWAYS find the silver lining...I always KNOW that things happen for a reason and I just try to focus on the good things in my life when stress kicks in. When something especially stressful happens, I take all my power to focus on any one GOOD thing to take my mind off of it and it works.

Hope things get better soon

Aww Fazzie- don't worry. It'll be alright. I promise you everything will all come together nicely. What helps relieve stress?

Well, there is always sex And there is working out which works for me as well. A good night sleep helps. Going out to dinner. Watching a funny movie- I watched My Big Fat Greek Wedding the other night and it cheered me up! Feel better though! It's hard dealing with certain things during the planning process.

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Posted by flairforfashion

Aww Fazzie- don't worry. It'll be alright. I promise you everything will all come together nicely. What helps relieve stress?

Well, there is always sex And there is working out which works for me as well. A good night sleep helps. Going out to dinner. Watching a funny movie- I watched My Big Fat Greek Wedding the other night and it cheered me up! Feel better though! It's hard dealing with certain things during the planning process.

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sex... wouldnt that be nice? lmao

We dont live together and there is no where for it to happen lately haha