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hi ladies,

I had an idea for an engagement party of sorts. We are not going to have a full on family event. Rather, FH and I are thinking of treating our bridal party to a brunch where we had our first date. In order to make it affordable, we have to tell our BP that they cannot bring significant others. FH actually went to an event similar to this a few weeks ago when one of his best friends asked a bunch of people to come, told them no significant others, and then asked the group to be in their BP. So ... I kind of feel like this is acceptable.

Thoughts? Does this sound like a good idea? I just really, really want an engagement party and we have BP who do not know each other, so it might be a great way for them to become acquainted.

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I totally understand why you would just want to include the bridal party, but I might be offended as the wife of one of those groomsmen for not being invited... Can you invite them all to your house for a gathering? Less expensive and everyone can be included. This is totally just my opinion, but if you think everyone will be cool with it, then go for it!

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Posted by futuremap

I totally understand why you would just want to include the bridal party, but I might be offended as the wife of one of those groomsmen for not being invited... Can you invite them all to your house for a gathering? Less expensive and everyone can be included. This is totally just my opinion, but if you think everyone will be cool with it, then go for it!

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I think people just kind of have to get over that, to be honest. I understand what you're saying, but it's one brunch. Also, only 2 of the entire party are married ... and we have 7 girls and 6 guys.

Unfortunately our home is in NJ, and we are not ready yet to have guests!! My mother offered to host at my uncle's home, which is another option, but then I feel like it turns into a family thing, which we didn't necessarily want!

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i think if my FH was invited to a brunch alone for one of his best friends i would know what was up and be very excited for him. if that's what you plan, then do it. the SOs will understand after the fact, you know?

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Posted by Dani10

i think if my FH was invited to a brunch alone for one of his best friends i would know what was up and be very excited for him. if that's what you plan, then do it. the SOs will understand after the fact, you know?

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yes!

and to be clear, everyone will know beforehand that it is an engagement party for the bridal party. FH plans on asking the guys BEFORE the brunch, not at the brunch. so I'm assuming SO's would still be understanding since they will know exactly what it is?

i am always concerned about hurting people's feelings, but lately i've just been like ... get over yourselves. LOL

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I think its totally fine to say no sig. others since you will be asking them to be in the bridal party. They will understand when they come to brunch with you and get asked. It's kinda the same as the wedding day: the bridal party comes in the limo, not their dates.

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Posted by futuremap

I totally understand why you would just want to include the bridal party, but I might be offended as the wife of one of those groomsmen for not being invited... Can you invite them all to your house for a gathering? Less expensive and everyone can be included. This is totally just my opinion, but if you think everyone will be cool with it, then go for it!

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ITA!

Can you not call it an 'engagement party' but tell them it's more of a get togther?