Epic Fight

I know this may not be a popular subject to talk about...But anyone else have all out fights with their fiance like a month before the wedding...It's not even all wedding related...We just have a lot of stress from a lot of areas in our life...And it's freaking me out because we never had this huge of a fight....Like, we have had plenty of fights but like this one is freaking me out...I don't know what to do...I feel helpless...

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We are still a few months out but we have had some fights its def not just you. We have also recently moved in together and it's been a big adjustment. I think its just an added stress and at least for us its a big financial burden that brings even more stress.
I am sure you are freaking out because it is so close to the wedding and we feel like we are supposed to be 'sooo happy' and at times we are but then times the stress gets to us.

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We've been in the midst of one for the past few days. To the point where I don't give a **** about the wedding anymore. Just gonna show up and go thru the motions. I still want to marry him, but the wedding I'm completely over.

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Yea that def is part of it, and like I just want to see my fiance, at least once a week....It's ridiculous, and like I feel like I'm wrong to feel that way..

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Like is it going to get easier???? or harder???

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Definitely. I think most couples fight a lot right around the wedding. And it's usually over something stupid that you wouldn't normally fight over if you didn't have all this other stress. Take a deep breath, have a glass (or a bottle) of wine, and give each other some space. Everything will be fine. Once you've both had a chance to calm down, talk about it.

HTH.

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Thank you!!! :)

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Before we moved in together we used to fight a lot about not seeing each other.

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Honestly, for us at least, moving in together has been amazing and really hard at the same time. We are also doing construction on our house, have mortgage payments for the first time and all our wedding bills. I think that is a lot of it.

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I mean is it normal to not see your fiance for like weeks at a time???

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Weeks? That's a long time....

Do you live far? Are work schedules hard to match up?

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it's not just you. i have been dealing with this (alone, not really talking to anyone about it) for awhile now. the unbelievable stress his parents are causing is the main reason ... they don't support the marriage at all.

also, just the adjusting to finding an apartment, coupled with me recently losing my job has thrown huge money issues into play. luckily, i start a new job on monday so that my wedding planning can get back on track, and we can relax somewhat.

weddings are incredibly stressful. this is all normal. plus, when it rains, it pours!

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Yea, I think that's why I posted something on here because it is something I have been keeping to myself....Just a lot, not really wedding planning, has been happening and it's stressing me out...But, I hope that with all the stressful moments mean that in our marriage hopefully, it wont be this stressful...I hate stress, and I don't deal with it...I love him, and I know he loves me...I just want to be happy!!! :) Like I had this picture in my head of what it should be like, and it's not going that way at all, like my mother has been making it that way for me and trying her best...But I hate that I have to keep my feelings a secret from them :)

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Posted by Tinydancer85

Like I had this picture in my head of what it should be like, and it's not going that way at all, like my mother has been making it that way for me and trying her best...But I hate that I have to keep my feelings a secret from them :)

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i can't agree more with this statement. this is NOT how i thought things would be, and my mother is doing everything in her power to make sure i have the best time ...

i know your situation is different than mine, but i relate so much. i'm dealing with FIL's who do not even want us to get married. DM me if you ever need to.

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This might sound crazy but it worked for me a few years ago when me and FH weren't engaged yet. I called my mom and told her about the non stop fighting and how he was driving me INSANE and she said 'stop fighting. It's not worth the energy or emotional damage that you're doing to each other. And if you can't stop fighting then break up' idk what happened but I knew that I didn't want to break up and I feel like I put more effort into not fighting. And I think that made him see things differently too.

Hope this (crazy post) helps!

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can you have a talk with him and try to come to an agreement where you see each other more? not seeing each other for weeks is a long time, unless you live in different states or something? but if you live like a town away why can't you see each other more?

I see my Fh almost everyday and we are closing on a house soon, and it still makes me nervous/excited to move in and go though the crazy construction stress and everything. But most of all, im scared about officially seeing each other all the time! lol... i think that this close to your wedding you should definitely see each other more though. because it'll be a huge huge change to go from not seeing each other often to being married and seeing each other every single day- regardless, you will both be fine. marriage is an amazing thing but is also a huge struggle. being a wife will be the hardest job you'll ever have but in the end the hard work pays off if it means you'll have your best friend/husband along for the ride :)

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I think we all need to get out of out head how things should be. I love my fiancé love being engaged and can't wait to be married....but unless we had an unlimited bank account, family on both sides that were nothing but supportive and didn't work there is a lot more to it then things being perfect all the time.

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Posted by Vilardi82

I think we all need to get out of out head how things should be. I love my fiancé love being engaged and can't wait to be married....but unless we had an unlimited bank account, family on both sides that were nothing but supportive and didn't work there is a lot more to it then things being perfect all the time.

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Posted by Vilardi82

I think we all need to get out of out head how things should be. I love my fiancé love being engaged and can't wait to be married....but unless we had an unlimited bank account, family on both sides that were nothing but supportive and didn't work there is a lot more to it then things being perfect all the time.

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You are absolutely right...I think the stress is getting to me...There is so much more than what I am saying on here that I wish to keep quiet....It just seems like the closer we get to the wedding the more outside stress comes along....But, I just have to get through this hard season in my life and hopefully the reward is bigger than the struggle I am facing right now...