Epic Fight - Long Island Weddings

We have been fighting a lot more too. The fights always start about silly little wedding things and then turn into other things the fH has been suppressing. I think for us it's the fact that we moved in together, wedding stress of trying to make everyone happy and the stress of figuring out how we fit in with eachothers families.

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YES! We have had a few blow outs that started out wedding related and carried into something stupid. It's definitely a stressful time and I can't tell you how many people have told me it's 'normal'. We all just have to remember everyone is under a lot of pressure and to try to take more time to breathe and not let the little things get in the way.

Epic Fight - Long Island Weddings

The way my friend worded it, there will be a time before your wedding where you will hate everything, everyone, including your fiance. So, this too shall pass for you!

Epic Fight - Long Island Weddings

FH and I used to get into some pretty intense arguments, particularly when we first moved into together and were adjusting to each other's habits and such. Thankfully, we are past that point, but I think that is completely normal. At some point I think we got to the same point realizing that the fighting wasn't really solving anything and we started just sitting down and talking more. FH always tells me 'remember, we are on the same team' and that helps me.

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Posted by coffeeisgreen

The way my friend worded it, there will be a time before your wedding where you will hate everything, everyone, including your fiance. So, this too shall pass for you!

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Posted by coffeeisgreen

The way my friend worded it, there will be a time before your wedding where you will hate everything, everyone, including your fiance. So, this too shall pass for you!

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This! My mother always says 'this too shall pass' and it's good to remember. My heart goes out to you. I think we've all felt the way you do at one point or another. I hope that you guys have time to cool off and then remember why you wanted to get married in the first place. If you both love eachother, you have nothing to worry about. Keep your head up girl!

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Aw thank you ladies so much!!!! I have to say if it weren't for you and God through out this whole process and this especially I would probably losing my mind at this moment. I had an awakening this morning and I think it is because I listened to all of you and prayed about what I was going through and just cooled off...I realized that everything will be okay, and that we are in love with each other!!!! Seriously though, I have no one to talk to at home, and you girls have helped me through some very tough moments in my life on the way to our wedding day...My family is still driving me crazy adding more and more stress to my life...But I have to keep reminding myself to look at the end of the tunnel for the 'prize' our wedding :)

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I'm glad your feeling better we are all here to help each other!

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That's why I love this forum and thank you so much for caring!!! :)

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Communication is key in a relationship. I've been crazy biotch the past few weeks and FH probably wants to kill me but I make sure we don't go to bed mad. If we get in a fight, FH usually walks away to cool off and then when ready we talk about the issue and how to fix it. You have to do this in order to have a successful relationship. We learned a lot about communication at pre-Cana, and I have to say it helped both of us. Keep your head up this wedding crap makes everyone nuts!!

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Posted by Vilardi82

I think we all need to get out of out head how things should be. I love my fiancé love being engaged and can't wait to be married....but unless we had an unlimited bank account, family on both sides that were nothing but supportive and didn't work there is a lot more to it then things being perfect all the time.

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THIS exactly. It's sometimes easier to focus on the negative things & to expect things to be a certain way. Unfortunately, life will never go as expected & there will definitely be challenging times in your marriage. I am sorry that you are going through this but we are all here to lend an ear & help you through this. It must be hard to communicate these feelings to your FH if you don't see him that often. A lot of times things are perceived the wrong way via text etc & it makes it that much harder to work things out. Try to focus on the wedding and that you love and have each other. Like the other ladies said 'this to shall pass.'

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Posted by emmac

Communication is key in a relationship. I've been crazy biotch the past few weeks and FH probably wants to kill me but I make sure we don't go to bed mad. If we get in a fight, FH usually walks away to cool off and then when ready we talk about the issue and how to fix it. You have to do this in order to have a successful relationship. We learned a lot about communication at pre-Cana, and I have to say it helped both of us. Keep your head up this wedding crap makes everyone nuts!!

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Posted by Vilardi82

I think we all need to get out of out head how things should be. I love my fiancé love being engaged and can't wait to be married....but unless we had an unlimited bank account, family on both sides that were nothing but supportive and didn't work there is a lot more to it then things being perfect all the time.

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Posted by Vilardi82

I think we all need to get out of out head how things should be. I love my fiancé love being engaged and can't wait to be married....but unless we had an unlimited bank account, family on both sides that were nothing but supportive and didn't work there is a lot more to it then things being perfect all the time.

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Agreed. This is real life. Not a romantic comedy. Gotta keep remembering that.

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Posted by guitarstikibars

it's not just you. i have been dealing with this (alone, not really talking to anyone about it) for awhile now. the unbelievable stress his parents are causing is the main reason ... they don't support the marriage at all.

also, just the adjusting to finding an apartment, coupled with me recently losing my job has thrown huge money issues into play. luckily, i start a new job on monday so that my wedding planning can get back on track, and we can relax somewhat.

weddings are incredibly stressful. this is all normal. plus, when it rains, it pours!

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Congratulations on your new start and I wish you the best. You HAVE to talk. I had a MAJOR breakdown one evening that I (at 40) wanted to run away from everyone and just be alone. Holding things in makes it bad for both of you.

Now back to ready the posts.

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Posted by KTF11

FH and I used to get into some pretty intense arguments, particularly when we first moved into together and were adjusting to each other's habits and such. Thankfully, we are past that point, but I think that is completely normal. At some point I think we got to the same point realizing that the fighting wasn't really solving anything and we started just sitting down and talking more. FH always tells me 'remember, we are on the same team' and that helps me.

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And it REALLY works.

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I am really happy I wrote this post, because I got to see that I'm not the only one, and I got a lot of wonderful advice...Happy to see FH and myself are back to normal and in a happy place :)

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I did what a lot of you ladies recommended me to do, and I saw him tonight and it was just a great time together(laughing, talking, cuddling) It was as if, we never even had a fight :)