Ever Feel like No One Understands??

I feel like I am constantly defending myself for thinking one way- or feeling another-- like no one *gets* it..

I am IMing with my MOH right now-- and I was just saying- I am having a really hard time working and concentrating-- hello two and a half weeks til the wedding-- and she thinks that's *weird* and not normal.. Then I have to say-- well, everyone I know who has gotten married has said- the last month before the wedding-- work was hard-- you did the bare minimum, etc..

I am just sick of being accused of being *BRIDAL*... I mean- this is a crazy time in everyone's lives-- with the amount of stuff you have to do, details, emotions, etc. Why don't some people get that??

I think you are completely normal and I am lucky I get stuff done some days b/c I have wedding on the brain, can't imagine what I will be like in November.

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Posted by hbradio

I have been in the same situation and honestly I cant expect more from people. They wont understand unless they are in the same situation.

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I agree 100%.



We UNDERSTAND and you are not 'bridal'...!

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Posted by hbradio

I have been in the same situation and honestly I cant expect more from people. They wont understand unless they are in the same situation.

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Even my other MOH is doing this to me-- and she had a full on wedding-- she is expecting her first baby like any second now-- so, I think she thinks weddings are now 'no big deal'.. Everyone s*cks!!

Just venting...

And the thing is-- I think I am being pretty level headed!!! Considering anyway..

if you were NOT acting like then then you would not be normal. We totally understand
all yr sentences start with 'the wedding......'

we are here to talk to & WE UNDERSTAND !!!

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Posted by LadyPrincess

if you were NOT acting like then then you would not be normal. We totally understand
all yr sentences start with 'the wedding......'

we are here to talk to & WE UNDERSTAND !!!

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Actually- I don't even do that!! I just say I have a lot going on and leave it at that!

it's sad but true. The month before my wedding I couldn;t open my mouth without being accused of being 'bridal' or 'bridezilla'.
It's annoying.

A lot of people don't understand that coordinating your wedding is like having a 2nd job. As your wedding date gets closer, your '2nd job' starts to take a little more priority than your real job Totally normal IMO.

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Posted by Jan05Bride

it's sad but true. The month before my wedding I couldn;t open my mouth without being accused of being 'bridal' or 'bridezilla'.
It's annoying.

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then you try to defend yourself--and they are like-- easy now! relax..

GRRRR

I knew you guys would understand.. I AM NOT ALONE!!!

What you describe sounds very normal. I have trouble focusing on work now, and my wedding isn't until July. Come mid-June-July, I don't think I'll be getting much done. Normally, I'm hyper-productive, so I'm not very worried about having a lull in my productivity.

It's hard when friends don't get it. I have a dear friend who got divorced last year and really does not want to discuss weddings or relationships (unless they are bad relationships, then she can relate). I try to be sensitive and keep the bride chatter to a minimum, but you have to talk about it sometimes.

It sounds as if your MOH doesn't get it, and unless she has been there, she may not get it.

That's why this message board is a God-send!

i totally agree with you...and dont feel bad...and what ur doing IS normal...
i hate it when that happens more, and i hate it more when friends who have gotten married a year and half ago, tell me oh thats whatever who cares dont worry, but when it was them i had to drop everything for them, but with me its whatever.

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Posted by Bebalina

i totally agree with you...and dont feel bad...and what ur doing IS normal...
i hate it when that happens more, and i hate it more when friends who have gotten married a year and half ago, tell me oh thats whatever who cares dont worry, but when it was them i had to drop everything for them, but with me its whatever.

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I know EXACTLY how you feel! When my sis in CA got married, I helped with everything from 3000 miles away. But now that it is my turn, she couldn't care less. She's my Matron of honor, I feel like firing her - Trump style! LOL

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Posted by randella

then you try to defend yourself--and they are like-- easy now! relax..

GRRRR

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Yes, exactly. I couldn't even speak to anyone right before the wedding because it wasn't worth the stress they put on me!

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Posted by dleeny

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Posted by Bebalina

i totally agree with you...and dont feel bad...and what ur doing IS normal...
i hate it when that happens more, and i hate it more when friends who have gotten married a year and half ago, tell me oh thats whatever who cares dont worry, but when it was them i had to drop everything for them, but with me its whatever.

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I know EXACTLY how you feel! When my sis in CA got married, I helped with everything from 3000 miles away. But now that it is my turn, she couldn't care less. She's my Matron of honor, I feel like firing her - Trump style! LOL

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i wish we could... they need a good slappin....but its so true when they say u learn a lot about ur friends thru wedding planning.

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Posted by randella

[Even my other MOH is doing this to me-- and she had a full on wedding-- she is expecting her first baby like any second now-- so, I think she thinks weddings are now 'no big deal'.. Everyone s*cks!!

Just venting...

And the thing is-- I think I am being pretty level headed!!! Considering anyway..

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I hate that whole been there, done that attitude. How quickly they forget!!

ABSOLUTELY AGREE! I have learned a LOT about friend AND family since I've been engaged.

They're all thrilled for me, but they're not into any of the details.