Ever Feel like No One Understands??

Original post by randella

Mar 29, 2005 02:28 PM

I feel like I am constantly defending myself for thinking one way- or feeling another-- like no one *gets* it..

I am IMing with my MOH right now-- and I was just saying- I am having a really hard time working and concentrating-- hello two and a half weeks til the wedding-- and she thinks that's *weird* and not normal.. Then I have to say-- well, everyone I know who has gotten married has said- the last month before the wedding-- work was hard-- you did the bare minimum, etc..

I am just sick of being accused of being *BRIDAL*... I mean- this is a crazy time in everyone's lives-- with the amount of stuff you have to do, details, emotions, etc. Why don't some people get that??

lilacwine Posted: Mar 29, 2005 04:11 PM

Re: Ever Feel like No One Understands??

Posted by slwh2005

Posted by randella

[Even my other MOH is doing this to me-- and she had a full on wedding-- she is expecting her first baby like any second now-- so, I think she thinks weddings are now 'no big deal'.. Everyone s*cks!!

Just venting...

And the thing is-- I think I am being pretty level headed!!! Considering anyway..

I hate that whole been there, done that attitude. How quickly they forget!!

I hear you. I've gotten a few of the 'If I was just getting married at your age, I'd never have had such a big wedding.'
grrr...

Jan05Bride Posted: Mar 29, 2005 04:23 PM

Re: Ever Feel like No One Understands??

People are in different stages in their life and it's sometimes hard for them to understand why the difference between 'blush' & 'bashful' is such a big deal to us brides. (a little steel magnolia's refernce in there )

I'm only married a few months and already I see how unimportant some of the things I completely stessed over is ... but that's part of being a bride, I don't regret anything I planned but I wish I could have saved some of that uneeded stress.

We all stress about different things, and someone on the outside may not see it as important as you do. So while we all get upset that people think we are 'bridezilla' try to look at it from their perspective and understand that just because your head is filled with wedding worries/ideas/thoughts 24/7, the people surrounding you have other things in their life that are the most important things in their life.

A little bit off the tangent but before everyone blows up at their family & friends, just try to stay calm, because after the wedding you still have to have relationships with these people!