Everyone had a problem with my date

diamondgrlie Posted: Mar 17, 2004 11:45 AM

Everyone had a problem with my date

All I keep hearing is complaining about my wedding being on a Friday night. Sorry, I cant afford a Saturday...

The whole future in-law side is complaining about the travel time. People coming from PA, NJ and Staten Island... NOT CALIFORNIA!!! Not a big deal!

Then when my dad is telling is co-workers they are all saying 'Ew, why a Friday?' My dad is paying for most of the reception if not all of it... I feel bad that people are knocking my dad's genorosity. So if people miss the cocktail hour, oh well.

It just hurts my feelings... thanks for letting me vent.

NYCHICK Posted: Mar 17, 2004 11:47 AM

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People are just inconsiderate

nsgraham Posted: Mar 17, 2004 11:48 AM

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So sorry. People are just like that, but the ones who really care about you guys will be there.

agv Posted: Mar 17, 2004 11:50 AM

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SOOO OBNOXIOUS!!!!! I am so sorry about that, it is so not fair becuase people do not understand just how $$ the Sat. eves can be. Try not to get too upset over it....let them *****...they will get over it. I don't know what it is...everyone is just overworked and overtired because I think everyone's first reaction is too be negative sometimes.
But you know what.....that willl pass and excitement will set in for your guests and they will forget all about the fact that it is a Friday! I am sure that plenty do not even care!!!

dm24angel Posted: Mar 17, 2004 11:52 AM

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Posted by diamondgrlie

All I keep hearing is complaining about my wedding being on a Friday night. Sorry, I cant afford a Saturday...

I hear ya!! Our is a Friday night too..DURING LENT! So everyone not complaining about it being a Friday is swearing they can't eat meat( about to ask hall if i can take home the food not eaten) ....we were even told that a priest at the ceremony can give an 'exclsuion' to the meat thing and people are saying, 'well thats not a real exclusion'...C'mon , its from a PRIEST..how much realer can it get???

people are insensitive...don't worry, the people who love ya will be ther and have a great time!!!!!!!

KEep smiling and DONT second guess yourself!

Lorena Posted: Mar 17, 2004 11:52 AM

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people just don't think!!!

they will get over it! don't let it bother you. many people today have weddings on fridays, sundays, even thursdays.

nferrandi Posted: Mar 17, 2004 11:52 AM

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I'm going to play both sides of the fence here. I can see why people would question a Friday night wedding and be a bit annoyed about travel time/taking off from work, and I'm sure you can relate to that.
But on the other hand, once your guests are used to the idea, I bet there's very little else said about it. People will come regardless of when/where your wedding is, and they will probably be there in time for the ceremony and CH. I also think they will come to their senses and realize that there are legitimate reasons behind why you are having it on a Friday night.
Always feel free to come and vent to us, but don't let any of this make you feel bad. Your wedding is going to be beautiful and special, and you can't ask for any more than that. Everyone who loves you and your FH will be there to help you celebrate one of the most important days of your lives.

DecBride04 Posted: Mar 17, 2004 11:53 AM

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Hey, I am a FRIDAY NIGHT BRIDE We had this come up too, but my response was 'If you want to be there, you will be'. You will see, people will request that day off if they really want to see you get married. Don't stress over it, people just don't understand the cost these days.... We couldn't afford a Sat night either, but are more than happy we went with Friday. It gives us Sat to spend with family, pack and get ready for the HM which we leave on Sunday for. Hope it works out for you and don't feel bad about those people & their opions.

september2004 Posted: Mar 17, 2004 11:53 AM

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the 'important people' will be there. i went through the same back and forth and almost decided on a sunday brunch reception. in the end i chose saturday because i wanted it to be more convenient for guests. it's more $$$, but we elected to keep the guest list smaller as well.

if i has to choose between a friday night and a sunday night, i would choose friday because i think it is 'easier' for people to take a 3 day weekend with a friday rather than a monday. don't worry too much, you made a decision and people will figure out how to join you on your special day!

gilgo31 Posted: Mar 17, 2004 11:55 AM

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It's so sad when people act so insensitive about anything wedding related, especially timing issues and location. The most important people to you will be there no matter what, so you could have it on a Tuesday afternoon and those closest to you will be there. As for a wedding on a Friday night, I think that's even better than Saturday because it gives you (and the guests) the rest of the weekend to enjoy. And lots of people have weddings on Friday nights especially because of the expense - don't let people like that get you down, it's not worth it and you should focus on the positive things. Good Luck!!

tracyg Posted: Mar 17, 2004 11:55 AM

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oh i know what you're going through.
People have complained cuz ours is Mothers Day. Most of our friends and relatives mothers are invited... so if anyone else has a problem with that, DON'T COME!!!
It's true, people who really care will make sure they can come!
Some people will always find SOMETHING to complain about!

May2704bride Posted: Mar 17, 2004 11:57 AM

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Don't sweat it...... I am having my wedding on a Thursday night. People will complain about the day but if you are important enough to them they will come. I've been to a Thurs wedding once and as much as it was on a Thurs i still came. Why? Because the girl that got married was a very very good friend on mine.

AliKing Posted: Mar 17, 2004 11:59 AM

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So sorry people are giving you a hard time! Try not to let it get to you, although it is hard not to. I have been to MANY friday weddings and personally I dont think there is anything wrong with having it on a friday. Bottom line is the people who you want to be there WILL BE THERE no matter what.

diamondgrlie Posted: Mar 17, 2004 12:01 PM

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Now those are tears of joy, thanks so much... you girls made feel alot better. And you are right, if they care enough about us, they will be there. I am going to send out the STDs and invitations a little earlier than typical to be more fair so people can adjust their lives.

darly Posted: Mar 17, 2004 12:02 PM

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I think whoever wants to be there will get there...my wedding is early in the day - if it's too early for sorry, don't come!!

You can't worry about pleasing them - make yourselves happy!

june262004 Posted: Mar 17, 2004 12:02 PM

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The people that are most important to you will be there with bells on. Don't worry. People get married on fridays LOTS of people on this website get married on Fridays. As someone else said people get married on thursday sat sunday and someone is even getting married on monday. Don't be upset. Did you consider a Sunday? My wedding is on a saturday I do have people come from California and Vegas though LOL.

lullabella Posted: Mar 17, 2004 12:02 PM

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Sorry your sad I do think Friday night weddings are a little inconvient for out of town guests but they have ALOT of advance notice to make arrangements so there really is no excuse.

suven Posted: Mar 17, 2004 12:03 PM

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One of the BEST weddings I went to was on a Friday night! We slept in on Saturday, but still had Sunday to get all of our chores done.

Friday weddings are great!

xjulietx Posted: Mar 17, 2004 12:07 PM

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Posted by tracyg

oh i know what you're going through.
People have complained cuz ours is Mothers Day. Most of our friends and relatives mothers are invited... so if anyone else has a problem with that, DON'T COME!!!
It's true, people who really care will make sure they can come!
Some people will always find SOMETHING to complain about!

Mine is on Father's Day and I tried to invite as many families as I could so that father's can be with their children.

But I have heard complaints about my Sunday choice too. People need to understand the cost and do what is right.

The important people will be there.

wenndypoo Posted: Mar 17, 2004 12:09 PM

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I'm getting married on a Friday night also. We got a little grief also, especially with Friday evening traffic and all that... If I were invited to a Friday evening wedding, I'd love the excuse for a 3 day weekend!

Seriously, it's not on a Wednesday afternoon in Antartica! The people who are complaining are just looking for excuses. Those who love you and care about you will be there with bells on, not matter where and when.

Just let it slide!