Re: Everyone had a problem with my date

people have problems no matter what...people like to complain...if you had it Saturday and the church was at 3 or 4 people would say that that ruins their whole day because they would have to get ready at like one or two....if you had it sunday, people would complain that they had to work the next day....dont let things bother you!! WCC is a great place!! I am at the 4 month mark today!!!!!!!!

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Hi.

I'm new to posting (this is my 1st one), but I've actually been peaking on the boards for a few weeks. Finally decided to create an account when I read this post. I know what you mean! My wedding is on the SATURDAY after Thanksgiving and almost everyone on my Mom's side of the family is F-ing grumbling about my date. A few have already said they dont think they'll be able to come (hello? we havent even invited anyone yet!) and my mom's friend asked 'What was your daughter thinking? Thanksgiving is a day everyone wants to be with their FAMILY.'

What is it about a wedding that makes people think they can say what ever they want?

My date is significant for me because it is the day we met 6 years to the date...I also thought the Saturday after Thanksgiving would be convienient for people who are already coming to NY for the holiday ...

Diamongirle--We can both a learn a lesson from all this. You will never be able to please everyone, so stop trying. The people who really love you will be there to share your special day with you!!

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I dont think their is anything wrong with a friday night wedding. We recently had to go to a wedding on a friday night... far far into new jersey.. when everyone was from qeens and statel island and long island.. it took over an hour to get there and people complained about that.. but not to the bride or her family!! They complained within eachother.. they didnt want it to leak out and upset the bride.. after all your not making them come its their choice... I really dont see what the big deal is.. we decided on a sunday night ( monday is a holiday) if it didnt work out like that we were going to pick a friday night as well and no one had anything to say ( were paying anyway!!!)

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Friday weddings are so common now, I'm surprised people aren't used it.

I like any eexcuse to take off from work.

A coworker got married on a friday & about 4 people from here left early --it was no big deal.

I thin a firnd of mien who got married on a Saturday thinks i'm weird for havign it on a Saturday.
Everytim i mention things being booked, it says, well, you ARE havign it on a Saturday.

The prcie wasn't much different at my hall, it was avaialable, & my bm is in HS , so I figured it would be easier.


Freind of mine got married on a Sunday & people complained abou that oo.

People complain no matter what.
Just tell them , now you'll have the rest of the weekend free to go about your plans'

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I know what you're going through. I'm having a Sunday night wedding, and I have gotten a lot of complaints/questions about it. However, being Jewish, I can't have a Friday night wedding, and in the summer, I can't have Saturday night until after 9! The people who really care about you and your FH will be there. People just don't think before they speak and don't realize what goes into deciding on a day for a wedding. e

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Posted by nsgraham

So sorry. People are just like that, but the ones who really care about you guys will be there.

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Ditto!

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LOL,

Anyone who complains to me about my Sunday wedding, I tell: 'Well, If it had been on a Saturday night, I couldn't have afforded your invitation.'

That shuts them up.

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Friday has become a perfectly acceptable day to get married! FSIL got married on a Thursday! and I'll admit, I was like 'eww, a Thursday???'

Trust me, I've gotten my fair share of 'ewww's' when we announced that we're getting married on Halloween. Your day, you chose the date!!!

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Posted by nsgraham

So sorry. People are just like that, but the ones who really care about you guys will be there.

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I agree I'm doing also on a Friday night and the ones that will be there will be there no matter if they have to take a half a day from work or where ever!! Don't sweat it!! It will work out!! just stick with that date!!

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Who cares what anyone thinks? I'm having a Friday night wedding. There is no way I could afford a Saturday, and to me, knowing how most of my guests are, it'd be better for them to have to take a day off if they need to than to go to work on Monday hung over. Tell them all to go screw themselves, and when they plan their own wedding, maybe they will realize the costs of a Saturday wedding.

Friday night weddings are really common. I find it a pain when my one friend is having his wedding on Sunday, but I would never ever complain. It's just because the ceremony is at the place at 11:30 a.m. with cocktail hour and reception after. It's a drive out there, so it sucks to have to get up early that morning. I am not a morning person.

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I am so sorry to hear that there are problems. If it makes you feel any better about a friday wedding, I am having mine on a monday!

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I'm sure if the complainers had five second of education on the price difference and people minimums between a Saturday night and any other time of the week they would be singing a different tune

I just picked my date/place a couple of weeks ago and had to go with a Saturday day. . . I ran into the same dilemma with about 50% of my guests coming from Virginia, but just couldn't ask my parents to host a 35K reception. It was either a Fri/Sun night or Sat. day.

If they love you and your FH then they will be there . . . plain and simple. People just don't have manners anymore

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screw em!

don't worry about it, just smile and be happy, you are marrying the man you love
who cares about what anyone else thinks?

i'm sure even those who are 'complaining' will have a kick a** time at your wedding anyway!

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I also am a Friday night bride. Since I was little, I always wanted it on a Friday night.

I think it is great for people, you still have the weekend to relax.

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awwwww..please don't take this the wrong way.... having a friday wedding may be an inconvenience to many people because of travel, traffic, etc. why do people complain do they have any idea what we go through to plan these things and how much$$$ it takes
so they take off a day from work
you will have an amazing wedding on a friday night and everyone will be there

i was upset because i just found out my wedding is at the end of spring break and i know alot of people that do usually go away... i have had people ask my exact date already because they can't go away.... i feel like i am being an inconvenience but i didn't know... oh well ya know this is our day and what ever we can do is what we do
these people have no idea how much the difference in price is friday and saturday night
my parents wanted me to have it friday night but i would't break from the saturday night for many reasons...
so don't worry they will be there if they are important to you and you are important to them
I feel like people don't understand unless they are going through this whole thing!!

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Those people complaining must be stuck in a time warp!! Today, weddings take place on FRI., Sat., and Sun. I am getting married on a Friday too. This is why we send invitations.. so our guests can plan. If they feel it will be a problem, then they should just r.s.v.p. NO!!

I have been to three Friday weddings so far. One of them was in NJ.. We made it and didn't complain about it either. Some people have some nerve!!

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What...girl the heck with those folks...actually it's good they are complaining now you have a reason to CUT your guestlist and invite those people you would really like to spend the evening with not those you had to invite becasue they are related to you or close family friends or co-workers...it's you and your honey's day, enjoy it!

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Why don't people have any class?

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I can't believe that people would actually complain about your date (or anything else about the wedding) to you or your family!

I mean, I do understand why Friday nights can be a drag...people have to leave work early, or possibly even take a whole day off in order to attend (depending on where they're coming from), and for alot of hard-working people with few vacation days - that is a big deal, if not an impossibility. So some people won't be able to make it, and some who do come will do so begrudgingly, but the bottom line is that there is no excuse for complaining about it - how freaking rude! If people can't make it, they can't make it - complaining about it just makes them look like idiots.

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Im going to start a poll for u! What day everyones weddings are.