Everyone one of my BM's said they cant go to my bachelorette party!

FutureMrsGK Posted: Oct 03, 2007 11:23 AM

Everyone one of my BM's said they cant go to my bachelorette party!

IM SO PISSED OFF RIGHT NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

MY POOR SISTER TRIED TO DO SOMETHING NICE AND INVITED ALL MY GIRLS TO A SMALL BACHELORETTE PARTY, SPA, DINNER THEN COMEDY CLUB.

EVERY ONE OF THEM SAID NO, AFTER I HAVE BENT OVER BACKWARDS FOR EACH AND EVERY ONE OF THEM!!! I UNDERSTAND THEY HAVE KIDS BUT THEY CANT GIVE ME ONE NIGHT OF THEIR FRICKING TIME. THEY HAVENT DONE ONE THING TO HELP TOWARDS THIS WEDDING!!!!! I HAVE 4 BM'S TWO OF THEM I THREW BABY SHOWERS FOR, ONE OF THEM I PAID FOR HER DRESS!!!!!! AND THE LAST ONE IS MY NEIGHBOR WHO I BABY SIT HER DOG ALLLLLL THE TIME! ALL I CAN SAY IS WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND.

WHAT WOULD YOU DO? I CANT STAND THIS KIND OF TENSION AND DRAMA BUT IM NOT LETTING THEM GET AWAY WITH THIS. NOW MY BACHELLORETTE NIGHT IS CANCELLED B/C OF NO ONE GOING. I FEEL LIKE SUCH A LOSER :(

Lemons Posted: Oct 03, 2007 11:25 AM

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Thats horrible!! Your sister and you should just go hang out alone....don't let them ruin it for you. I am having a hard time with my BM also....I wish I could rewind time and not have a BP at all!!! They are such a headache!

MrsQ-in2007 Posted: Oct 03, 2007 11:26 AM

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I'm so sorry!!! That really sounds strange and NOT NICE! Two of my 3 BM's have babies and they still were able to go out to my bachelorette party which was at night - hopefully your girls will come through for you!

Can you sit them down (or call or email) and see if they can make it if you choose just one activity? Or better yet, you do all the activities you want, but they come for just the one(s) they can make it to?

You are definitely not a loser! Your friends shouldn't be making you feel this way - they're supposed to be supporting you!

MrsG2007 Posted: Oct 03, 2007 11:29 AM

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Don't feel like a loser....make sure you tell your bridesmaids how you feel...and that your very upset...my suggestions is to not be so nice to these people anymore...I feel when you say 'yes' to be bridemaid...you accept all the stuff that goes with it...which includes parties, planning shower,etc....if you have children...have the hubby watch them.....my maid of honor had a death in the family...and she still went to my bachelorette party.....

JMM7876 Posted: Oct 03, 2007 11:35 AM

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AWWW....im so sorry!! People are so selfish...
You are NOT a loser at all...
You will still have fun...THEIR LOSS

amytee Posted: Oct 03, 2007 11:38 AM

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that's such BS!!!!!!!
so sorry hun.

TnOiOnL Posted: Oct 03, 2007 11:43 AM

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maybe you can do what your sister planned with her, and then see if theres another day that your BMs can make, even if it's just for dinner and drinks or something?

curiousgeorge Posted: Oct 03, 2007 11:43 AM

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Unfortunatly these are the times where you need your friends themost and usually one or more dont come through for you. It happened to me also. One of my friends went away for the two weeks before my wedding and missed my bach party, she also being unreasonable and she was available one day out of the entire month for my bach party...so we went with out her. I went with the girls who were able to go to the Gatsby in islip and then the nutty irishman in bayshore. It was a fun night!!!

I would go with your sister!!!! You and her go for a few drinks and see a show or have a really nice dinner!!! Dont let it bother you!!!!

Mikeysgirl Posted: Oct 03, 2007 12:00 PM

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What kind of excuse did they give? Is it a money issue or is the day you chose bad for them? If its money you could change the activities to make them more affordable and if its the day you might be ablt to change the day.

dgirl0114 Posted: Oct 03, 2007 12:05 PM

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I'm sorry to hear this-I don't know what gets into people sometimes. Please don't cancel your fun-you & your sister go!!

FutureMrsSabbagh Posted: Oct 03, 2007 12:18 PM

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Hey Twin, first of all you're not the loser, your BM's are. Second, go out and have a faboulous time with your sister, spoil yourselves, you deserve it.

nmagel Posted: Oct 03, 2007 12:27 PM

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sorry for crashing your board. Go anyway! Invite some girls who are not in the BP. My sister just told me that my 2 BM's told her they are not willing to help her pay for part of my shower so she is stuck doing it alone. I don't even want one know. I am SURE they will pull crap for my b. party as well.

sunyeo210 Posted: Oct 03, 2007 12:28 PM

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I'm sorry to hear they all backed out.

Why not just get together with other friends? Did you just want it to be your sister and your BM's?

As for your BM's, that is pretty uncool they all backed out - children or not. However, whatever the reason - try not to let it get to you. If you guilt them into coming to your bachelorette party - it might create more drama and uncomfortable tension than it is worth. Candid wedding pictures can't really hide the tension. It's going to be your day!! Enjoy!!

I don't think it is a healthy approach to use what you have done for them as a measure of what they should do for you. Sure, it is inconsiderate of them. And yes, it was very considerate and thoughtful of you to have done what you did for them. However, I am guessing you did what you did because you wanted to and not with the caveat of 'I did this for you and so you should do this for me'. This kind of approach will make you freakin' batty!!!

nocode Posted: Oct 03, 2007 01:01 PM

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your not a loser theyre all just selfish i know exactly what your going through. none of my BM get along with eachother and thats cool but on 2 nights of your life i feel like they should get over it and play nice. my one moh had planned like 3 different things and some else in the bp kept sabatoging it, then the other moh planned a show and dinner and stuff for like a month ago and the other 3 sabatoged that which pissed me off b/c i was actually looking foward to it. well now 10 days to my wedding we havent done anything and now theyre like we need to do something of course during crunch time when im really not free.

so dont feel bad your not alone in it. for me its not worth the fight i mean i did tell my moh how horrible it made me feel but then i got over it and am just focusing on the wedding day which is really whats more important

MF9282 Posted: Oct 03, 2007 01:05 PM

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Aww don't worry the same thing happened to me last Saturday at mine and I was so upset about it! And one of my BM's left after dinner and went straight home. I was annoyed as well but had a great time any way, have fun!

MF9282 Posted: Oct 03, 2007 01:21 PM

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OMG iI DIDN'T READ PROPERLY, ALL OF THEM?! HOW DARE THEY ?!

I'm so sorry that is awful and disgusting from them.

Brian and Marie Posted: Oct 03, 2007 01:29 PM

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Is it possible your sister is lying in an attempt to suprise you???????

FutureMrsGK Posted: Oct 03, 2007 02:06 PM

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Posted by Brian and Marie

Is it possible your sister is lying in an attempt to suprise you???????

Marie,

I just clicked on your name. I went to high school with you!!!! How are you!? We worked together too at Hallmark, Do you remember?

Thank you to all of you for making me feel so much better. my sister and me are going to go spoil ourselves and forget about every one else. but i will say what goes around will come around!

Brian and Marie Posted: Oct 03, 2007 02:12 PM

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Posted by FutureMrsGK

Posted by Brian and Marie

Is it possible your sister is lying in an attempt to suprise you???????

Marie,

I just clicked on your name. I went to high school with you!!!! How are you!? We worked together too at Hallmark, Do you remember?

Thank you to all of you for making me feel so much better. my sister and me are going to go spoil ourselves and forget about every one else. but i will say what goes around will come around!

I do remember!! How r u?? You have FM!