EX Vent- need suggestions...LONG, SORRY!

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by DeeluvsVinny

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Posted by Espo22

Does anyone believe him? I mean i know its still bad just hearing that he is saying these things to everybody but if he is saying to the friends that knows you well and are still friends with you then most will probably just think he is jealous that you are getting married and this is his way of getting back at you. Its hard because the point of him doing all this is to get back to you and get your attention, probably even to call him so you can tell him to stop and by doing so you'll do exactly what he wants you to do, but sometimes you do feel there is no other option. Would he even listen if you called and told him to stop? it can fuel him more sometimes to call. You mentioned his best friend and gf are in your bp, can you talk to his best friend to get him to stop doing this and to tell your ex that his actions just show everybody how pathetic and jealous he is and just making a fool of himself, maybe he can knock some sense into him. I am sorry, i know this can be hard but I hope nobody is taking him seriously and that he will stop soon. The problem with calling yourself is that he will think that if he does anything bad like this he can get you to call him and it won't stop him in the future from doing so.

Do you know anybody good with photoshop, maybe edit a pic of him and make it look like hes in bed with another guy or something and then post that everywhere on myspace. Sorry just try to make light of the situation although might not be a bad idea but that might fuel him more and won't stop. Giving in to him will make him continue, tell all his friends to ignore him and just tell him he is wrong and stupid.

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: LOVE your suggestion about photo shopping idea!!!

Yea, I really feel like if I do anything, it would just fuel his fire. His formed BF doesn't talk to him anymore. He hates him more than I do, if that's possible. No one believes it, but they all called me to tell me and it just hurt.

Thank Goodness for FH!! He's the best man I've ever met!

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yeah it would be histerical but honestly that will just anger him more and make him think of new things and it will be this back and forth war and you really don't want that. Well good thing nobody believes him, so that should make it just a little bit better. Ignoring him is the best thing to do, like i said he is only doing it in hopes of you calling him to tell him to stop or you doing something back and going back and forth on this situation. In his sick head its his way of being connected to you. This way you are talking about him, people still hear about you and him in some sort of way and if you call and fight then its like a couple fighting which is how he'll probably view it. He wants to see if he can still get to you, don't give him that satisfaction. I also had to learn to just ignore it all completely and they do learn, bc no matter why youre calling if you do call its him staying connected to you. But for a long time to go on with no phone calls, no connection at all and you not caring at all will show him how you don't care to have him in your life in at all and nothing he can do can change your current situation or how happy you are.

Honestly, he is the one making a fool of himself. Ive also seen situations where i know the 2 people and one ex will do this and you know what i always think how pathetic the other one is and how they need to move on already. You come out on top by being the bigger person and he is the one hurting himself

good luck

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