Exactly how does a B list work?

So i see people mentioning they have a B list for their wedding. How does this work?

Do they NOT get STD's? If not what happens if they find out std's were sent out , just not to them?
When do you invite them?

ummm yeah lol. thats all.

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I'm curious about this too, I kind of feel guilty having one haha.

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You do not sent out STD's.

YOu make a second list, then as the NO's come in, you send out people on the B list. You just have to make sure that the RSVP date is different, I would think.

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Well I have a B list and they will not get STD's just incase everyone on my A list can make it to the wedding. I will invite them once I know for sure that some of my A listers won't be able to make the wedding. I Love the people on my B list but I can't afford for them all to come. If I get back my response cards earlier enough from my A listers I may then send out STDs to selected B listers

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Posted by Mrs Z To Be

You do not sent out STD's.

YOu make a second list, then as the NO's come in, you send out people on the B list. You just have to make sure that the RSVP date is different, I would think.

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this is my plan, except the RSVP date does not change

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Posted by mzmahagony

Well I have a B list and they will not get STD's just incase everyone on my A list can make it to the wedding. I will invite them once I know for sure that some of my A listers won't be able to make the wedding. I Love the people on my B list but I can't afford for them all to come. If I get back my response cards earlier enough from my A listers I may then send out STDs to selected B listers

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This is exactly what we plan to do. Some of our B-listers are people that FH and I barely even know. Like FMIL's boss' son. I mean seriously, why would I have to invite him???? But she told me he 'could' be cut if needed. So that makes him a B-list.

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My fear is that people won't respond till close to the rsvp date so then i'd have to send out more invites and wait longer? I feel like the 2nd rsvp date might be really close to my wedding..

hmm.. i'm confused lol

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i don't really like the idea of a B-list. i was on a B-list once & i received the invitation in the mail 1 week before the wedding. the girl did explain to me what her situation was. (her wedding was at the Rainbow Room in Manhattan & they did not want to go over or under their guarantee.) but i still had very little time to find a dress (it was black tie) & find money to give as a gift.

i do understand that sometimes you have to have a B-list. especially people who have very large families. i think the best thing to do in this situation could be to send out A-list invitations very early. like 2 months in advance with a 1 month prior response date. i personally wouldn't send out invitations to anyone less then 4 weeks before the wedding.

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Posted by christine2010

i don't really like the idea of a B-list. i was on a B-list once & i received the invitation in the mail 1 week before the wedding. the girl did explain to me what her situation was. (her wedding was at the Rainbow Room in Manhattan & they did not want to go over or under their guarantee.) but i still had very little time to find a dress (it was black tie) & find money to give as a gift.

i do understand that sometimes you have to have a B-list. especially people who have very large families. i think the best thing to do in this situation could be to send out A-list invitations very early. like 2 months in advance with a 1 month prior response date. i personally wouldn't send out invitations to anyone less then 4 weeks before the wedding.

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I pretty much feel this way too...

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Posted by AdriandSteve

My fear is that people won't respond till close to the rsvp date so then i'd have to send out more invites and wait longer? I feel like the 2nd rsvp date might be really close to my wedding..

hmm.. i'm confused lol

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So send out your invites early and if they take too long to respond give courtesy calls.

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Posted by AdriandSteve

My fear is that people won't respond till close to the rsvp date so then i'd have to send out more invites and wait longer? I feel like the 2nd rsvp date might be really close to my wedding..

hmm.. i'm confused lol

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So send out your invites early and if they take too long to respond give courtesy calls.

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ITA

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You just need to make sure that people on your B list are not friends with people on the A list. If they find out the invites went out and then 4 weeks later they get their invites, they will figure out they are on the B list.

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Posted by RAK220

You just need to make sure that people on your B list are not friends with people on the A list. If they find out the invites went out and then 4 weeks later they get their invites, they will figure out they are on the B list.

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yeah this is what makes me nervous about doing a b-list...

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Posted by MrsC2010

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Posted by RAK220

You just need to make sure that people on your B list are not friends with people on the A list. If they find out the invites went out and then 4 weeks later they get their invites, they will figure out they are on the B list.

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yeah this is what makes me nervous about doing a b-list...

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yea....... that's going to be hard lol. We'll see.

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Posted by AdriandSteve

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Posted by MrsC2010

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Posted by RAK220

You just need to make sure that people on your B list are not friends with people on the A list. If they find out the invites went out and then 4 weeks later they get their invites, they will figure out they are on the B list.

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yeah this is what makes me nervous about doing a b-list...

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yea....... that's going to be hard lol. We'll see.

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Thats why i cant have a B list. Everyone knows everybody!

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Posted by RAK220

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Posted by AdriandSteve

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Posted by MrsC2010

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Posted by RAK220

You just need to make sure that people on your B list are not friends with people on the A list. If they find out the invites went out and then 4 weeks later they get their invites, they will figure out they are on the B list.

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yeah this is what makes me nervous about doing a b-list...

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yea....... that's going to be hard lol. We'll see.

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Thats why i cant have a B list. Everyone knows everybody!

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Me too... For me B-lister's are going to be people I work with who would not normally be invted not family or friends....

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Posted by christine2010

i don't really like the idea of a B-list. i was on a B-list once & i received the invitation in the mail 1 week before the wedding. the girl did explain to me what her situation was. (her wedding was at the Rainbow Room in Manhattan & they did not want to go over or under their guarantee.) but i still had very little time to find a dress (it was black tie) & find money to give as a gift.

i do understand that sometimes you have to have a B-list. especially people who have very large families. i think the best thing to do in this situation could be to send out A-list invitations very early. like 2 months in advance with a 1 month prior response date. i personally wouldn't send out invitations to anyone less then 4 weeks before the wedding.

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I dont like the idea either. If you arent on my A list...then I wont invite you. I kind of think the B list is insulting. It's very expensive to attend a wedding and I wouldnt want to spend the money for someone that didnt think I was important enough to invited in the first place.

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Never liked the idea of one until I started planning weddings with my friends. We had to make one since we are over our original budget. The people on our B list, although we really do want them there, are distant relatives and pseudo co-workers or recently Re-connected facebook friends from childhood. You REALLY want them there, but its cool if they don't get the invitation. They really aren't expecting one, but are still happy for you. You have to put some of your parents' friends on that list too b/c they want to invite everyone they know...its crazy.

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I never even really THOUGHT about this until I started making guest lists. Our original list had 450 people and that is just too much for our budget ANYWHERE. So we had to make a B list. It's basically people that we were once close with & are now not, parents of some friends, and a few family members/friends that no one is really close with, but they still are THERE.

We'd love to have all 450 but it's just not practical for us, so we made a B list. We're going to be careful about who we send these invitations to, because we certainly don't want to offend people. But honestly, things change. 'B' listing someone is not the end of the world. My parents were 'B' listed at a friend's daughter's wedding, but they are being 'A' listed for mine.

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I'm not too crazy about the concept, my mom's been invited to a few weddings as the B list. She knew other people who had receieved the invites waay earlier so that's how she knew she was on the B list.

I will have an A subcategory 2 list. lol no i dont think ill have a B list because if people dont come, then its less that we will have to pay for the wedding. lol

if anything we will invite my mom's bosses (she's got like 5 plus their spouses) if a lot of people dont come. ive never met any of them.