Family dances with deceased parent

My father passed away 6 yrs ago, but my FH wants to dance with his mom - how can this be done without being completely obvious that my dad's not there??
I thought about dancing with his brother (my godfather, but there go the water works!!!, or dancing with my BIL - not too emotional)
I was very close with my dad, so I can only imagine how I'll be that day, let alone an obvious dance that was intended for me and him. I don't want to ruin my FH's dance with his mom, but how can this be done without being so depressing?

Thanks in advance!

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I am going through the same thing right now. my father passed 3 years ago. and we were also very close. I have decided to dance with my mom, because dancing with my uncle (dads brother) will be too emotional. he is also my Godfather. We've also decided , since my FI father passed away 2 years ago, to have the last dance dedicated to both of them and make it a fast dance song so it isnt to depressing. I'm sure yo uwill be thinking of him, but he will be there in spirit. thats what I like to believe.

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I think you should dance with your Godfather if you feel he has been like a father to you and you want to honor him.

But if you don't want to do that - its perfectly okay to just have your FH dance with his mom. Your family knows that your dad has passed. Its okay that is obvious.

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I LOST BOTH OF MY PARENTS SO THERE HAS BEEN A LOT ON MY MIND TO MAKE THEM PART OF THIS SPECIAL DAY WITHOUT THE WATER WORKS, WHEN MY DAD PASSED AWAY MY MOTHER WOULD ALWAYS TELL ME THAT SHE COULDN'T WAIT TO WALK ME DOWN THE AISLE WITH MY FH, WE WEREN'T EVEN CLOSE TO GETTING ENGAGED ( I GUESS SHE KNEW SOMETHING WAY BEFORE I DID)BUT I HAVE CHOSE TO WALK DOWN THE AISLE WITH THE MAN I CONSIDER TO BE LIKE A STEP DAD TO ME AND I ALSO CHOSE TO DANCE TO LANDSLIDE WITH HIM DURING THE FATHER-DAUGHTER DANCE (IT WAS ONE OF MY MOTHER'S FAVORITE SONGS)...
I THINK YOU SHOULD SHARE THIS WITH THE PERSON WHOM YOU FEEL CLOSEST TO, SOMEONE THAT YOU CONSIDER A SPECIAL PERSON BECAUSE IT IS AN HONOR TO GIVE THE BRIDE AWAY TO HER FUTURE HUSBAND.....

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Why don't you and your fiance do the parent dance to the same song at the same time, this way it will not last too long, but it will still be special.

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Your godfather sounds like a very special person, and if you want to dance with him, than you should.
However, have you considered dancing with your Mom?
My father is still living, but he chose not to attend my wedding last year. I danced a special dance with my step Dad, since he has been a father to me in my own father's absence. But, I also could NOT let the day pass without acknowledging that my Mom has been the single most important person in my life. She also walked me down the aisle.
Best of luck with your decision - do whatever your heart tells you is the right thing.

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My Godfather will walk me down the aisle, since my dad passed away. I have asked my 19 year old brother to dance with me and he has accepted My sister got married six months ago and we were all apprehensive about how emotional the day would be...but surprisingly we all held it together well...just the way my father would have wanted us too!! You will be surprised about how well your family members will do at such a joyous and happy occasion. Good luck

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I think if it is possible, dancing with your mom is a nice idea.

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First off, let me say I'm sorry for your loss and I understand...

I lost my father when I was 21, and when I calmed down all that ran through my head was who would walk me down the aisle on my wedding day...I will have my mother do that.

As for the dance...I wanted to honor my father in some way during the reception, being that my mom is walking me down the aisle. My father was a VERY funny person, who tried not to take life too seriously. So I have asked my brother to pass on a funny story about my father to our guests after my FH dances with his mom. After my brother says a few light-hearted words, we will ask all the guests to join us on the dance floor to dance to 'Ain't no mountain high enough' in honor of my father...

Good luck making your decision. If you choose not to have the dance at all, that is perfectly fine, as your guests will completely understand.

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My SIL's father also died when she was very young. At her wedding, her mother walked her down the isle. My brother danced with our mom and my SIL didn't do any special dance. There was no one there she wanted to give that honor to. She really didn't mind and I don't think it was obvious. I mean eeveryone knew about her father so it wans't like they were expecting her to dance with anyone. She didn't want to take that honor away from my brother and mother and there was no one there who she wanted to dance with her.

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I am in the same situation both parents are deceased and I totally understand what you are going thru, if you ever need to chat let me know we can exchange e mail addresses. I am at a stand still with this also. MY sister and BIL are walking me down the aisle and I am up in the air about the dance part also.