Father daughter dance without a father?

Original post by AdriandSteve

Jan 16, 2009 11:09 AM

I realistically don't need to worry about this for awhile but it's not the easiest decision.

My father passed away when i was 12. I have a few options as to who would walk me down the aisle but what about the father daughter dance. Would it be weird and awkward if my FH and his mom had their mother son dance and then that was it, move on to the next dance set or something?

Anyone in a similar situation?? Thoughts??

Jenn04 Posted: Jan 16, 2009 12:22 PM

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Do you have sisters or brothers?

My sisters husband was in the same situation so instead he invited his sisters on the dance floor and played 'we are family' and they huddled in a circle and danced and then everyone else followed. It kept it upbeat.

AdriandSteve Posted: Jan 16, 2009 12:33 PM

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No brothers and sisters.

What i can think of is dance with whoever walks me down the aisle and the halfway through dance with my mom (if she wants which i'm not sure she will)

dCp Posted: Jan 16, 2009 12:36 PM

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I'm in the same situation. I'm having my uncle walk me down the aisle but I'm not really sure what to do for the father/daughter dance. So I'm not much help sorry.

I did get a great idea from one of the brides on this website about having a locket with a picture of my dad tied into my bouquet. Just a thought

DeeDee1013 Posted: Jan 16, 2009 01:03 PM

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Posted by Ray8183

I'm walking down the aisle half way and FH is meeting me and we are walking the rest together. I'm not having a Father/Daughter dance at all. I was thinking of a :'Thank you for everyone who had came to celabrate and have everyone on the dance floor dancing to Celabration by Kool and the Gang,

I also walked down the aisle about 3/4 of the way and DH met me...and we walked the rest of the way to the altar together.

We didn't have a Father/Daughter dance.

My DH danced with his Mom.

08JulyBride Posted: Jan 16, 2009 01:06 PM

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My dad died when I was 14. There is nobody I am closer to me than my mom, so I had her walk me down.

We skipped the 2 dances altogether.. nobody missed them. We did an anniversary dance instead, it was fun for everyone

kmcs317 Posted: Jan 16, 2009 01:13 PM

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I do not have a father. My mom walked me down the aisle and we danced a mother/daughter dance and it was amazing...tears all around. lol. I have 3 married sisters and we all did the same at our weddings...and there were tears at every wedding.

PS..my father didn't pass away-he just 'isn't around'.

angels914 Posted: Jan 16, 2009 01:16 PM

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I am having my 8 yr old son walk me down the aisle and for the dance we are going to dance to Let Them Be Little by Billy Dean.... it is an amazing song and we always listen to it ... he is my little man...and I am so proud to say that he is walking me down the aisle !!!!!!!!!!!!

mrsjpc3 Posted: Jan 16, 2009 05:13 PM

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I danced with my mom.. it was really nice. Then my brother cut in at the end.....

Alexandra17 Posted: Jan 16, 2009 05:41 PM

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My uncle is walking me down the aisle but I think for the father daughter dance, I will not even have one..I think that it will be too emotional for me and my mom to dance plus I am not sure..my dad is not a part of my life and I get like stomach aches thinking of trying to figure it out so I might cut it out all together

MrsL2010 Posted: Jan 16, 2009 06:40 PM

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my mom is going to walk me down the aisle and maybe my uncle, i haven't decided yet and we're skipping the parent dances altogether.

MrsBtobe2009 Posted: Jan 16, 2009 07:02 PM

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My brother did this!! Our mom passed away almost 10 years ago and he didnt want to dance with my gma so there was only a father/daughter dance with my SIL and her dad.

RitasEngaged Posted: Jan 16, 2009 08:22 PM

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I really don't think you have to do a dance

donegal419 Posted: Jan 16, 2009 08:57 PM

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you most certainly don't have to do a dance. people understand.

IMO, you can do whatever you want. DH's mother died when he was a teenager...he danced with his sister at our wedding... it was very touching. and at the same sister's wedding, she danced with her brother (my DH), even though their father is alive! My FIL walked her down the aisle, but my DH in so many ways, was like a mother and father to her after their mother died and he danced with her at her wedding. everyone cried.

twright5ny Posted: Jan 17, 2009 02:44 PM

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Posted by AdriandSteve

I realistically don't need to worry about this for awhile but it's not the easiest decision.

My father passed away when i was 12. I have a few options as to who would walk me down the aisle but what about the father daughter dance. Would it be weird and awkward if my FH and his mom had their mother son dance and then that was it, move on to the next dance set or something?

Anyone in a similar situation?? Thoughts??

I didn't read through all the responses but what I did was my mom walked me down the aisle and danced with me. We dedicated our dance to my dad and it was one of his favorite songs....it was very nice

Butterfly123 Posted: Jan 17, 2009 03:16 PM

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My husbands mother passed away when he was younger. He didnt want to dance with anyone so we just skipped the mother/son dance. Its up to you.

chadjennwedding Posted: Jan 17, 2009 03:37 PM

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I agree its up to you. Its your day. I've also seen a mother daughter dance. They did a ...I can't remember it but it was cute and fun.

wundmoretime Posted: Jan 17, 2009 06:04 PM

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what about a dance with your mom? it is alright just to do FH and mom, but this is another option too. my dad passed also. I have a step dad too. I danced with my mom and had my step dad cut-in.

NYGIRL7 Posted: Jan 17, 2009 08:08 PM

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I was in that same situation too. I danced with my mom and it was actually really nice. I know it really meant alot of her and to be incredibly honest there were some very emotional moments (especially depending on what song you use) but I wouldn't have done it any other way.

PrincyJo Posted: Jan 17, 2009 11:16 PM

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Im in your same situation. Im going to dance with my sister and have a photo montage of my dad and i

sharivera Posted: Jan 18, 2009 06:31 PM

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I don't think there is anything wrong with just skipping that dance. Have you thought about dancing with your mom? My friends father passed away about 15 years ago, they both danced with their mom on their wedding day. There are 3 sisters....so after a few minutes ofjust dancing with mom, the other sisters joined in..there wasn't a dry eye in the place!!